How to receive the wedding relatives' meeting gift?

1. What is the order of saluting relatives when getting married?

It is human nature that men want to get married and women want to get married.

Parents in Jilin attach great importance to their children's engagement, and they are the most suitable. The level should be the same, not disparity, both men and women need to match.

Therefore, the most important thing to choose a man is to be knowledgeable, know the rules, knowledgeable, smart and capable. The most important thing is to honor your parents. Don't forget your parents' kindness in life, which has been handed down from generation to generation since ancient times.

The most important thing in choosing a woman is honesty, tight mouth, steady hands and diligent legs, which conforms to the four words of virtue, industry, appearance and tolerance as a boudoir. In short, men and women should respect themselves, treat others sincerely, share joys and sorrows, and feel warm when they are cold.

After marriage, the daughter-in-law should serve her in-laws like her parents, and the neighborhood is harmonious without complaint. For thousands of years, China has followed the principle of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". In the past, if there was any violation, it was really a "big rebellion."

When my daughter is in her teens, there are always close relatives and friends who recommend men and women to parents who think they are a good match, and even some matchmakers use matchmaking as a means of making money. There are even people who call it "big guests protect relatives", that is, relatives and friends of both sides come forward to match, and some relatives come forward to negotiate their engagement directly.

In this case, both parents should be insightful and comprehensive according to each other's family situation. Because of the shackles of feudal ethics, "men and women don't kiss", unmarried men and women want to look at each other, so Jilin people often say that they are like husband and wife.

The next job is to "get married". Please ask the fortune teller to "approve the eight characters" for both men and women, and make a detailed calculation according to the birth date, month, day, hour, zodiac sign and life span of both men and women. The so-called "golden rooster is afraid of jade dog", "white horse is guilty of green ox", "snake and tiger are like knives", "chicken and monkey are not in the end" and "dragon and rabbit are in tears" are not allowed, which means that it is difficult for husband and wife to communicate.

"Changing posts", commonly known as "letting go of small things", is the most solemn etiquette in men's and women's engagement. The man needs to prepare four dragon and phoenix stickers, with envelopes outside and 40% red stickers with golden dragon and phoenix patterns printed on them. Each post is signed with two pieces of red paper, with dividends and green inside. Men use red, women use green. The text in the post is simple, with even words, and singular is not allowed. On the morning of posting, it is "in pairs". Both parties should prepare one or two pairs of boxes covered with red silk, one for dragon and phoenix posts and the other for wedding gifts. The man's wedding gift is four pieces of jewelry, depending on family conditions. Gold, silver hairpin, bracelet and hair clasp, ranging from pure silver, inlay and medium package, are all important objects of wedding gifts.

Generally, after being released, you may not get married immediately. Some men and women have not left school, or the man has not been on a business trip or involved (not working), and proposed not to get married for the time being, or the woman is young and her daughter is spoiled, and proposed to postpone marriage. Most men wait to understand. When the age is right, the man asks for marriage, and the woman immediately sends it away to prepare for the auspicious time.

2. For example, after my husband and I got married, his relatives didn't come. How should I receive the gift?

Take it and return the gift.

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Books and lecture CDs can be read by yourself, family members and children. Good ideas are passed down from generation to generation. Whatever you do, you must follow the truth. There is the best truth in the classics.

Classic tells us, what is love? Love is to feel the needs of others with your heart. If you want to love for a long time, you must look at each other's advantages and love with honest behavior and warm language. The husband is virtuous and the woman is virtuous, and the family is harmonious.

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