Yuyao Marriage Custom: Does the bride need sugar in her mouth when she gets married?

Engagement letter: a letter from a man and a woman formally concluding an engagement. When Najib (Guo) is used.

Gift book: Gift book, that is, gift list, lists the types and quantities of gifts in detail. Use it when receiving gifts.

Marriage book: a book for marrying a bride. For picking up the bride on the wedding day.

Nacai: In ancient times, the first wedding ceremony was to ask the matchmaker to act as matchmaker. It was called Nacai, and now it is called "marriage proposal".

Seeking a name: the man asked the woman's name and birthday, and asked for a name that bodes well. Now it is called "eight characters".

Najib: If the name is auspicious, sending a matchmaker to give a small gift is called Najib, and now it is called Guo or Guo.

Levy: Giving gifts such as cash gifts, cakes, gifts, sacrifices, etc. is a formal bride price, which is called levy, and now it is called "gift".

Invitation: The man asks the fortune teller to choose a date, which is called invitation, also known as "begging for an appointment", and now it is called "choosing a date".

Kissing: The groom takes a limousine to the bride's house to pick her up. This is called kissing.

Step 2 change Geng spectrum

After the matchmaker proposes marriage, if both men and women have the same personality and do not conflict, they will exchange the genealogies of the two families as preliminary evidence of engagement.

3. Guo

It is played before the "big gift", usually held one month before the wedding. The man chose an auspicious day, brought three wine gifts to the woman's house, and formally submitted his letter of appointment.

Give a big gift.

The most solemn engagement ceremony is fifteen to twenty days before marriage. The man chooses a good day and brings gifts and various gifts to the woman's house.

make the bed

Pick a good day. A few days before the wedding, the lucky guy will move the new bed to the right place. Then before the wedding, a good woman is responsible for making the bed, spreading mattresses, sheets and dragons and phoenixes on the bed, and sprinkling all kinds of happy fruits, such as red dates, longan, dried litchi and red mung beans. After the bed is installed, no one is allowed to enter the new house and touch the new bed before the new couple enters the house on the wedding night.

On the wedding night, after the couple enters the new house, they can let their children eat happy fruit in bed. This is called "pressing the bed", which means a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren.

The groom's brother of the same age can make trouble in the new house. In ancient times, it was thought that "the couple don't make trouble, the more they make trouble, the more they make trouble", which can exorcise evil spirits for the couple and make them lucky after marriage.

6. Dowry

After receiving the gift, the makeup suit of the woman's house should be delivered to the man's house the day before the wedding at the latest. These suitcases are symbols of women's family status and wealth. In addition to precious jewelry, dowry mainly symbolizes good luck, such as scissors (butterfly Qi Fei), spittoon (child fight), ruler (fertile land), candy (sweet honey), silver belt (wealth), vase (blooming), copper basin and shoes (the same age), dragon and phoenix quilt, bed sheets, etc.

Step 7 exceed

On the eve of the wedding, both men and women choose a good time (the man is half an hour earlier than the woman, that is, an hour ago) for the ceremony. This ceremony must be held by a "lucky guy" and a "lucky woman" (elders or relatives of both men and women who choose their parents and children to live and have a harmonious marriage) in their respective homes.

A couple wants to change into pajamas. The woman chooses a window that can see the moon, lights a dragon and phoenix candle, lights a wick of incense, and sacrifices to heaven with three bowls of lotus seeds and red dates soup pills, six or nine in each bowl, with fruit, barbecue and chicken heart. Both men and women should prepare rulers, mirrors and scissors, that is, the so-called "faucets and scissors". While letting "Fu Lao" and "Fu Po" comb the couple's hair, they said: comb it to the end, comb it to Qi Mei with white hair, comb it to the children and grandchildren, and comb it to four silver bamboo shoots.

It symbolizes that a couple has entered the "adult" stage and wishes them a long life together.

8. Wedding ceremony

Nowadays, picking up the bride is the climax of the whole wedding. Accompanied by a string of stones, the groom greeted the bride with flowers. When you arrive at the woman's house, the first level is "getting started". If you want to get back the beauty smoothly, you must go through a series of intellectual and physical tests, and romantic words can be added when necessary, but the most important thing is generous "opening the door is beneficial", and sisters will not open the door until they are satisfied. Matters needing attention after getting started include:

When the sister receives the opening ceremony, she should withdraw 50% to 10% of the gift to the male brother and write "Sister Tea Gold".

The groom should bring a bouquet to marry the bride (the bride should not make her own bouquet).

After the groom is successfully introduced, the sisters will entertain their brother with refreshments.

After opening the door, the bride should be led out by her sister or maid of honor, given to her father, and then given to the groom for a formal ceremony.

Newcomers worship heaven and earth first, then their ancestors.

The newlyweds offer tea and bow down to their parents again (according to the old custom, newlyweds should not bow down before visiting Weng Gu at the man's house. That is, the couple should stand and offer tea to their parents-in-law. However, at present, I am not so particular about it. Kneel if you want.

The bride prepares two gifts, one for Wei Wangjin and one for Mantang Li, and gives them to her aunt after going through the door.

9. put out

In the open air, the elder sister or bridesmaid holds up a red umbrella to protect the bride, which means spreading the branches and leaves. While walking, the elder sister and other sisters sprinkle rice (red mung beans can be added) on the sky, the top of the umbrella and the top of the flower to "feed the golden rooster", which means that the chicken will not peck the bride after pecking the rice.

On auspicious days, a woman must carry a sedan chair on her sister's back when she goes out. It is said that the bride's feet can't touch the ground, otherwise it will bring trouble. But now, even with my elder sister, I'm walking alone on the float. Before finally boarding the float, the bride should bow to her relatives and friends who saw her off to show her gratitude.

10. Through the door

Passing through the door means that the bride officially enters the man's house after going out from the woman's house to meet his elders such as Weng Gu.

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On the third day after marriage, the bride, accompanied by her husband, went back to her mother's house to worship her ancestors with roast pigs and gifts, or even stayed for a while, and then went home with her husband.