The fortune teller said that children should not touch pens before they are four years old.

Children aged three or four don't want to take a pen, and it's useless to guide them.

According to the situation of the child you described, there may be the following reasons, and we can also take some targeted solutions accordingly:

1. Unwilling to draw with strokes may be related to the development of children's fine movements: fine movements are also hand movements, and children's handwork and pen holding are related to fine movements. Some children are unwilling to start work or write and draw with pens, which is related to the fact that the development of fine movements is not enough to cope with such tasks. You can help your child do some such exercises, such as origami games, starting with the folding line with your child until it is folded into a specific shape and then into a more complicated shape; Small parts on toys can also guide children to put them in the right position; Give your child a chance to practice peeling candy paper or unpack it yourself; Pick up smaller objects; Tie shoelaces, buttons, etc. When children have enough practice opportunities and develop fine hand movements, they will have more confidence in holding pens and more confidence in trying;

2, related to adult guidance and children's interests: Perhaps in the environment, others' casual blows may make children lose confidence and interest, such as "What is this painting? It's not like "children will think that this is a denial to him and refuse to write from now on, so help them rebuild their confidence." "Children can be guided in a natural state. Montessori said, "Doing something new can stimulate children's behavior. "You can buy some colored brushes and paint on big paper at will, regardless of the shape and color; Or use colored pens to make some "decorations" for children's toys, or draw some color blocks and stick them on children's toys. Children will have the opportunity to be attracted by your behavior, which is different from sitting there and drawing carefully in the past. At least give children a chance to start naturally and arouse their interest at the same time.

Questions about attention:

1, children's attention is selective: it is normal for children to pay attention to things they are interested in, and like watching TV, TV pictures are generally fast-changing and vivid, such as cartoons, so that children's attention can keep up; Reading may be a child's hobby, and the content presented in the book is continuous. If a child wants to know what happened later, he must "follow". However, with the growth of children's age, things that need attention are not necessarily what he is interested in, such as doing homework, attending classes, and concentrating on solving a difficult problem. Therefore, we should consciously cultivate children's attention. You can start with painting. 2. There are some concrete suggestions.

2. Appropriate guidance and training:

(1) Give children a quiet and simple environment: In the process of children's attention development, when completing tasks or exploring by themselves, it is necessary to give children a quiet and simple environment, which is very helpful for children to concentrate and consciously develop their attention. Because the stability of children's attention is poor, it will be transferred because of new stimuli, so try to eliminate factors that may distract children's attention and protect the stability of children's attention. The place where children spontaneously complete tasks and explore should be relatively quiet. Try to avoid interruptions during the process and take away some fancy decorations, gadgets and snacks. Adults should also avoid "caring" children at this time, "drinking some milk" and "what are you doing?" Do you need any help? "Do something for me" protects the precious attention of children when they concentrate on their work;

(2) lead a regular life with children: a regular life helps to stabilize attention. It is also necessary to ensure that children's lives are dynamic and static, and different kinds of lives have changed, but don't force children who have just finished sports or are excited to calm down immediately, which is also contrary to the laws of neurophysiology; In addition, your 3-and-a-half-year-old child's attention time is limited (referring to activities that children are not interested in when completing difficult tasks), which is generally 10- 15 minutes. Don't force children to sit all the time, it will be counterproductive;

(3) Play "self-discipline" games with children and integrate this way into children's lives: you can consciously set up some situations to help children enhance their self-discipline under multiple stimuli and follow a step-by-step process. For example, in the game Musical Wooden Head, when the music starts, everyone will do all kinds of interesting actions together. When the music stops (a parent controls the music), everyone should keep an action after the music stops for a certain period of time until the music starts again. If you move, you can have a small punishment. You can also look at the pictures with your child for a while, then take them down and talk to your child about the things in the pictures. People who talk a lot can get an "integral icon" (small sticky paper, a "spiritual reward" that children aged three to six like). This can also exercise children's attention span, which is a very important indicator of attention quality.

(4) Encourage children to engage in moderate-intensity physical exercise that they like: Exercise can promote the quality of attention and release some children's energy (children are full of energy), which can promote the state of attention. Of course, the ability to fully coordinate the body during exercise will also be transferred to other activities by children, so regular exercise is helpful for children's attention development.

Can be used, I wish the baby a happy growth!