Why does a greedy mother-in-law easily make her marriage suffer big losses?

When it comes to marriage, we always talk about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Undeniably, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is directly related to the quality of marriage. It can be said that a good mother-in-law relationship does not mean a good marriage, but a good marriage must have a relatively harmonious mother-in-law relationship.

In life, because of the excessive intensification of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there are not a few people who eventually lead to divorce.

There seems to be an antagonistic relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law More often, this antagonistic relationship is hidden in the details of life and displayed in a completely different way.

Every family has its own different presentation methods.

LinYu said that her mother-in-law is a very nice person. Her ideas are completely different from theirs, and she sticks to her own set of opinions and principles of dealing with people.

She often said that she ate more salt than rice, which made LinYu more willing to listen to her. LinYu is also an outspoken person. At that time, he directly replied: "Mom, your food is too salty."

It is such a sentence that my mother-in-law will never forget it for a long time, and it has risen to the level of disrespecting the elderly and taught her a hard lesson. LinYu doesn't hold grudges. He will forget when he hears it, so he can continue to live in peace with his mother-in-law.

However, she said that although her mother-in-law is sometimes stubborn, unreasonable and likes to follow her own set, she still does her duty to this family, especially to her daughter.

It's basically all right for LinYu, but that was after she married her husband, not before.

When she fell in love with her husband, LinYu found that her mother-in-law was a person who could make her move her mind. Accurately speaking, she is a "petty gain" who loves others and tries her best not to suffer.

Just like the first time she went to her mother-in-law's house, her mother-in-law put a watermelon and walnuts on the table and kept asking her to eat them enthusiastically, but she didn't cut the watermelon or clip walnuts for her.

LinYu also embarrassed to, so we have to promise, in fact, didn't eat anything.

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I went to my mother-in-law's house that day and walked a lot. She wanted to eat something. At last she was thirsty and only drank some boiled water. On the way back, she complained that her mother-in-law had a bad memory and forgot everything she should take.

She really thought her mother-in-law had forgotten. After all, with her mind and knowledge at that time, she could only think of this reason.

Who knows, the mystery is solved only after marriage. Once, it was a guest at home, and so was her mother-in-law. She always warmly invites guests to eat, but the guests are indifferent.

As a result, when the guests left, the mother-in-law cut the watermelon in the back foot and let them eat it. She realized that her mother-in-law had deliberately put only two apples, but there were several people in the room, and the guests didn't have the courage to take them.

In fact, my mother-in-law didn't want her guests to eat, and she also wanted to maintain a superficial face, so she used this method.

Seeing this behind the scenes, she also recalled many things. Before getting married, she always thought that coincidence was not a real coincidence, but that her mother-in-law was greedy for petty gain.

When going out to buy things, at the critical moment, my mother-in-law always doesn't bring money, or looks in her bag for a long time, saying that she doesn't know where the money has gone. When LinYu helps pay, she either takes out the money or stops talking.

LinYu is broad-minded and her parents are honest and kind people. They have never done these things, so she believes the reasons given by her mother-in-law.

Of course, my mother-in-law did a lot of things that made them laugh and cry because she was greedy for petty gain.

For example, both her and her husband's mobile phones have been changed, and one mobile phone has changed two small pots. Her mother-in-law thought she had made a profit, too, because it was useless to put the mobile phone there, and there was still room in the pot.

For example, the neighbor next door once hung clothes on the balcony and fell from the fifth floor. Mother-in-law picked it up and let her wear it, saying that the clothes were expensive.

LinYu in distress situation, who is missing a dress now? Later, she gave the clothes to her neighbors. Her mother-in-law was very unhappy and said she didn't steal it. She picked them up. Why did she return them?

Her mother-in-law likes to pick up things and can't sell them for two dollars. Sometimes she would ask her husband to sell them. LinYu said there was not enough gas money, but her mother-in-law just liked it, and there was nothing anyone could do.

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Although LinYu sometimes talks about her mother-in-law's behavior behind her back, there is nothing she can do. My mother-in-law won't listen to anyone, and it's no use for my husband to say so.

Later, her husband had no choice but to rent a small house for her mother-in-law, which was not far away. The contradiction was much smaller if she lived separately.

My husband is trying to think of her, so she doesn't want to be too hard on her husband. Some things just turn a blind eye.

After two years of marriage, LinYu gave birth to a child, and she didn't want her mother-in-law to take care of her. If she lets her mother take care of her, her mother-in-law will definitely have problems. So no one invited her, so she went to the Confucius Center and kept it with her.

The money to the Confucius Center is her own dowry. Later, when the child was able to walk slowly, LinYu felt that he had stayed at home for a long time and wanted to go out and find a job so as not to be out of touch with society.

So, I entrusted my child to my mother-in-law during the day and she picked it up at night.

LinYu's father-in-law left early and her mother-in-law left her granddaughter to take care of her. Naturally, she was very happy. At that time, she was surprised to find that her mother-in-law was excellent in taking care of children.

Anyway, she said that the child was clean in her mother-in-law all day, and her clothes were a little dirty, so her mother-in-law changed them for her, went to others to ask her what she wanted to eat and what was nutritious, and bought a pot to cook.

It can be said that it is the most generous time for a mother-in-law to give money to her daughter. She usually goes to the vegetable market to buy a dish. She couldn't wait to talk about a man who was twenty cents a dollar, but she bought a lot of things for her daughter.

For this reason, LinYu's impression of her mother-in-law has also changed greatly. She thinks that her mother-in-law used to be just an old man with different ideas and greedy for petty gain, but there is nothing wrong with it.

But after more than a year, she found something that made her resolutely refuse to let her mother-in-law take care of her daughter all day.

Mother-in-law set an example and gave her daughter a greedy and cheap character, boasting that she taught well and that her little granddaughter was very capable and learned quickly.

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LinYu said that her daughter is a good person who asks others for something to eat. Once she took her daughter to the street. When she saw an old man carrying a bag of apples, she went to call her grandmother.

Her daughter is over two years old. Seeing someone calling her, the old man smiled and gave her an apple in his hand. Her daughter also said thank you very cleverly.

LinYu only thinks that her daughter is looking at each other with white hair, so she is regarded as her grandmother.

Later, it turned out that it was not. As long as there is food in her hand, her daughter likes to call people, and she can tell which is grandpa, which is grandma, which is brother and sister, uncle and aunt.

She gets food almost every time. She taught her daughter not to ask for things so casually. If she is alone, it is really dangerous, but her mother-in-law said, "This can only be learned by smart children."

Until one time, she went to pick up her daughter after work. Walking to the door, she heard her daughter and her mother-in-law talking. The daughter said, "Grandma, I want to buy toys."

Mother-in-law replied: "Whisper aunt. Mom has no money, but her aunt has money. "

Her in the mind a surprised, heart way no wonder my sister sent her daughter a lot of things to come over this time, my sister's income is good, but she didn't want so much. If the child calls, my sister will definitely buy it.

Everything was clear at once, and the child's behavior was taught by grandma. Mother-in-law, love takes advantage of small things, and it is really easy for marriage to suffer big losses.

After she took care of the children by herself, her mother-in-law still couldn't understand, saying that of course she didn't take good care of the children. Because of this, LinYu has been dissatisfied with her mother-in-law:

Fortunately, I found out, otherwise I wouldn't know what to teach my children for two years.

Every family has a difficult book to read, including the relationship between husband and wife, children and grandchildren, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, etc. The mother-in-law book can be opened in a separate chapter, which has great influence.

If you want to get along well, apart from understanding each other, the most important thing is to be clear.

As a mother-in-law, don't mind what you shouldn't. As a daughter-in-law, you can occasionally learn to put yourself in each other's shoes. The most important thing is that a man who is both a husband and a son must be able to handle the relationship reasonably in order to get twice the result with half the effort.