4 1 year-old leftover women regret that they can't have children and get married now. What should we do?

Sometimes, it is our own inherent ideas that block the way of the future and ruin more possibilities. Superstition is one of them.

Maybe you and I will be influenced by these seemingly superstitious ideas. Some celebrities, such as singer Terry Lin, are used to drinking hot water before going to the stage to overcome their nervousness. Kathy of Real Madrid always wears her socks inside out, thinking that she won't lose the ball.

As a public figure, it is impossible not to know that these ideas are unfounded, but the behavior under the guidance of these ideas has had an impact on one's career and life, and many times it is still a positive impact.

As a result, these absurd ideas were preserved by them and talked about by fans.

If there is a positive impact, there will be a negative impact. A friend of mine, Youyou, is a living example. She has always been superstitious about a so-called "fortune teller": "The object introduced by others will definitely fail!" So I've been single ever since.

Even if you find a fortune teller, he will never remember this sentence, but it has been engraved in your mind and ingrained.

This sentence suddenly blocked the long half of the marriage road, leaving her only free love.

At the age of 37, she is still single. Everyone seems worried, but there is nothing she can do, because she will never meet the person she introduced, and she is too credulous.

The only daughter's life was planned, but she didn't follow the plan.

Youyou is the only daughter in the family, and her life path has been planned by her family. Just wait for her to do it step by step as planned. From kindergarten primary school to junior high school university, Youyou has been walking as planned.

According to the original plan, if you graduate from college at the age of 22, you should fall in love as soon as you graduate, then get married, take care of your children, find a job as a teacher and spend the rest of your life.

However, something unexpected happened, and I fell in love in the third year of high school.

Although my mother advised me not to find a boyfriend from other places and not to fall in love during college, the fate came and could not be stopped.

When my boyfriend wants to take the postgraduate entrance examination, he will follow the postgraduate entrance examination at leisure. In the past few years, my family has been urging marriage. My boyfriend promised to get married after graduation, but he put it off until after work.

You don't worry, because you already have someone or your first love, you are simply in a hurry. Getting married is about getting a license to hold a banquet. It's very simple, what's more, you still want to work hard for a period of time after graduating from master's degree, and you don't want to get married and have children so soon.

When she was going to get married at the age of 30, her boyfriend broke up.

Seven years after breaking up with her first love, the master saved her life.

In two weeks, my boyfriend blacked out Youyou, even without a clear reason to break up. After seven years of love, it was still the first love, so I broke up.

You were in a coma for a while.

When a person completely entrusts his future to another person, what he fears most is that person's abandonment, and his hands are devoted to this life, but the other person won't even nod. How desperate is it?

Yo-yo is absent from work continuously, and the phone is not answered. The same is true of disappearing into the air. The company called the emergency contact when Youyou joined the company. Her parents didn't know that her daughter had been dumped by her first love. The old couple took a long vacation to find their daughter and take her home, hoping to help her get out of the shadow of lovelorn as soon as possible.

When a person has never been in love and has never met a person completely, he can be alone because he has not held hands. However, when a person has fallen in love and completely met another person, holding hands sweetly, it is difficult to be alone again, because once beautiful things will reappear in front of him involuntarily.

When a person can't get out, she will believe some messy things. With a master's degree, she had a whim and asked a fortune teller to predict divination. The conclusion is: "The object introduced by others will definitely not become!" I don't know why the so-called fortune teller made up such a sentence. Leisure means believing.

Since the person introduced by others can't succeed, we can only say it ourselves.

At that time, the mother who accompanied Youyou's fortune-telling said Youyou listened backwards. The man said: "the object of free love will definitely not become!" " Maybe my mother's sentence is more in line with the situation at that time and the fortune teller's "professional ethics"!

But leisurely is the object you firmly believe in hearing and insist on not introducing.

Miss again and again, the more anxious, the harder it is to find someone.

After the age of 33, the number of people who introduced Youyou suddenly increased, but Youyou refused because she believed in fate.

Aunt introduced her to a man who is two years older than Yo-Yo. Although I have a high school diploma, I am well-run, successful in starting a business, with a huge family business and a low profile, and I am still single. My aunt said, "I have seen this man. You have nothing to say. You're trying. You don't insist if it's not suitable, but I think if you marry him, your future life will definitely be the same! "

Youyou said: "The object of introduction will definitely not be reached!"

Cousin introduced Youyou to an object, who is a relative of her hometown and also graduated with a doctorate. She is introverted and calm. Cousin said: "This person is very reliable, with high academic qualifications and good ability. Everyone in my family has known him since childhood. It is right to marry him! "

Youyou said: "The object of introduction will definitely not be reached!"

Two years later, the man introduced by menstruation got married, and his wife was as happy as falling into a honey pot. As neighbors, everyone saw it. On holidays, menstruation always nags, "You are unlucky. People like such a good object as you at first. Why not? "

My cousin also lamented: "You don't believe it, my cousin is extremely happy after marrying him. My cousin's family values me as a matchmaker ... "

Youyou also began to worry, but the more anxious, the harder it is to find. You can't hang a sign around your neck that says "I'm in a hurry to get married"!

Black Rose Conclusion: For marriage, fate is very important!

At the age of 37, after attending all the girlfriends' weddings and the children's full moon ceremony, Youyou finally "compromised", accepted the advice of his mother and aunts, and began to accept the introduced objects.

However, most of the introductions at this time are men with second marriages. This gap is still quite big in Yo-Yo's mind. As for what will happen in the future, Youyou has no idea, but regrets that he is too obsessed with free love and missed the golden age of marriage.

At the party, Youyou told me a story of her own personal experience, which was an enlightenment to her.

Once, she went to a remote county on business and wanted to find a taxi in the city. She can never get a taxi, and no one wants to run that far. But she was lucky that day and met a kind elder sister who was willing to drive her.

The words of the elder sister on the road are still fresh in my memory: "I believe in fate, but I don't believe in high technology, so I never use those softwares." Strangely, business has been good, and there is no shortage of passengers everywhere. I went to the place you mentioned yesterday, but no one else went. It's too far. It's not worthwhile to come back empty. I took the order, so the passengers have to supply me with more return routes, and I don't have time to run the return route. "

It was that fate that finally dispelled her obsession. She regretted that she was too obsessed with that sentence and missed many beautiful marriages.

In the emotional world, there is no superstition and destiny. Don't be obsessed with marrying someone, and don't be as stubborn as you are, thinking that the object of introduction will not become such superstition. Let it show what the future should look like. Don't be too stubborn.