Shanxi Changzhi marriage custom?

Wedding, also known as "wedding" and "marrying a wife", is equivalent to "kissing" in "Six Rites". Usually, the groom goes to the bride's house to get married in person, but in some places in Xinzhou and Lvliang, there are also matchmakers or brother-in-law leading the wedding procession, and the groom is waiting at home.

In the past, wedding teams paid attention to various ceremonies. From front to back, there are gunners, gongs, flags, Zhu's "silence", "avoidance", palace lanterns, golden melons, axe cymbals, cymbals, dragon and tiger flags, round fans and sun shades, and drums are indispensable. Generally, the sedan chair takes two rides, and the bride and groom take one ride. When you go, the bride's sedan chair is not empty, and flowers and cakes will be placed in the southern Shanxi area, with green buns as the town objects; In some places in Jinzhong, a little boy who belongs to the same family as the bride and whose parents are still alive sits on a sedan chair, which is called "pressing the sedan chair".

In the wedding procession in Changzhi, Shanxi, someone must accompany the groom. In Zuo Quan area, two people were found among relatives and friends of the elderly, called "Iceman"; Then from the groom's sons and nephews, find someone about the same age as the groom. This is called "introduction". Yanbei Pinglu and other places pay attention to "one woman, one man and two women" and ask the groom's nephew and two brothers to go back with the sedan chair; When she came back, the woman naturally accompanied "a woman and two men" to see her off. At weddings and seeing off relatives in Datong area, both wives are accompanied by skillful etiquette. For those who accompany the groom, Taigu area is called "companionship"; Accompanying the bride is called "seeing the guests off". In addition to "seeing off guests", if the woman goes to another person, it is "eating guests".

Before the daughter got married, there was a custom of "crying to marry" in most parts of Shanxi, which was called "daughter-in-law cries, and her parents have money". According to the research of folklore experts, the origin of this custom is related to the ancient "robbing marriage", and then the crying when women were robbed gradually evolved into the "crying marriage" in marriage customs. This is not joy or sadness, but often has its real content. Generally speaking, I lament the end of carefree teenage life, thank my parents for their kindness, miss my brother and sister-in-law getting along well with my girlfriend, and feel very confused about the turning point of my life as a wife and daughter-in-law. If you are dissatisfied with your marriage and feel wronged, you should take the opportunity to play and cry. The bride's mother, girlfriend and family usually cry with her.

After the wedding procession arrives, the bride's door is usually closed and locked by the bride's sister or girl friends. On the one hand, it shows the dignity of the woman's family, on the other hand, it deliberately plays tricks on the guests attending the wedding. Guests attending the wedding are afraid of being late and have to pay an "opening fee". In Luliang Liulin area, when the wedding procession arrives at the woman's door, it is necessary to catch a sheep in front to enter the door, commonly known as "bumping into the door". After the wedding procession entered the door, the woman hosted a banquet. In Yuci, Jinzhong and other places, when entertaining son-in-law, besides various diets, pancakes are also the staple food. A new son-in-law wants to "steal" a dozen cakes, a few pairs of chopsticks and some wine containers. The locals call it "making a fortune". Xiangfen area in southern Shanxi pays attention to the "wedding cake" eaten by the bride and groom. In Qinxian and other places in the southeast of Shanxi, before leaving, my daughter wants to eat egg cakes, commonly known as "three eggs and a pot of wine, and send her daughter to a sedan chair."

After leaving, the groom kowtowed to his parents-in-law and said goodbye. In Qixian County, Jinzhong, the father-in-law will wear a red scarf and hairpin for his son-in-law at this time. Then the music was deafening, and the wedding team, escorted by the woman, set off with even greater momentum. "Marry" and "faint" are homophonic. In some places in the south of Shanxi, the ancient custom of the bride getting married at night is still preserved. The bride's family invited the groom to the party and didn't send her daughter out until the first time on duty.

When a daughter gets married and leaves home, there is a custom of not picking up her family in all parts of Shanxi. People believe that "soil can produce everything, and soil can produce gold", and they are afraid that if they take away the soil, they will take away the good luck of planting crops at home. This is naturally a deep-rooted traditional concept in agricultural society. When a daughter gets married, she should put on new shoes on the kang, and then her brother or uncle will carry or lift her sedan chair. Or sit in a chair and be carried into a sedan chair; In some places, the floor is covered with red carpet or red cloth. The daughter took off her old shoes, got into a sedan chair and put on new shoes. No matter how you get out, don't touch the ground. When the daughter leaves, the mother will circle the sedan chair twice with tears in her eyes, silently wishing her happiness and good luck. My father symbolically escorted "Hundred Steps", and then accompanied by my uncle, brother and younger brother, I saw my relatives off.

The wedding route generally pays attention to taking a big circle and not taking the road on the return trip. According to the location of Qixian village in Jinzhong, Xuanwu (north) enters and Suzaku (south) exits; It is still the saying that the white tiger (west) enters and the Qinglong (east) comes out. The wedding procession should bring a red carpet or red cloth. The red carpet or red cloth is not only used for the bride to step on the sedan chair, but also used to cover the sedan chair window and the bride when passing through the temple, well platform or stone mill, so as to prevent ghosts such as White Tiger Star from worshipping evil spirits and disturbing each other. In other people's wedding procession in Lu Yu, the two sides should exchange "needle and thread", that is, the bride's needle and thread to eliminate disasters. Now, when the wedding teams meet, they will give each other handkerchiefs, which is the tradition. In the past, sedan chairs or cars were used for weddings. In addition, in some places in the mountainous areas of Lvliang, brides marry and ride donkeys; In Changzhi, Tunliu and other places, the bride and groom should ride horses. There is also a special means of transportation in Pinglu, Yanbei. Mules carry sedan chairs, that is, two mules carry sedan chairs in tandem. On the wedding day, "mule driver" is the most respected. They are wearing new black clothes. With a white towel wrapped around his head, he is dressed very beautifully. It is said that they can not only drive the "mule-carried sedan chair" safely, but also make people suffer from bumps, so they can't pay less.

On wedding day, the makeup of the bride and groom varies from place to place. The groom used to wear a wide-brimmed black helmet, jacket and robe, but later he changed into a uniform. Now he mostly wears a suit and tie. In Jinzhong, Jinnan and other places, the bride's dress is quite special, wearing a rockhopper, an embroidered robe and a jade belt around her waist, just like the image of an empress on the stage. Later, when I was full and didn't wear a python, I changed into a red cotton-padded jacket; Don't wear rockhopper, wear brown glasses, all wear fashion.