What should Heze engaged man prepare?

It is said that men and women in Heze area are engaged, and the man wants to give the woman engagement money, with a hundred-dollar bill of at least three pounds and three ounces.

Let's introduce the marriage customs in Heze, Shandong Province, hoping to help you!

Propose marriage:

In the process from friends to lovers, the man's family usually finds someone to propose marriage, which is the traditional matchmaker. It's best to find a matchmaker that both sides know. After the matchmaker introduces the family, the family members of both sides can sit together for dinner and get to know each other.

Engagement:

If both parties think it is suitable, we can talk about engagement. The man should calculate the engagement date before informing the woman. When informing the woman, the man should prepare a gift.

When the man goes to the woman's house for the first time 1 time, he should bring four gifts, cigarettes, wine, dried fruits and cakes.

On the day of engagement, the man should prepare a dowry for the woman: engagement money and hardware. Change your mouth and prepare a red envelope.

Choosing good luck is commonly known as "good delivery".

The man sent someone to the woman's house to ask her birthday. Generally, the woman refused for the first time and the second time to show that she was unwilling to marry her daughter in order to raise her social status, and she agreed for the third time. After retrieving the birthday, the man asked the fortune teller to choose the wedding date according to the birthday. After the auspicious day is decided, write a wedding list, indicate the matters needing attention when getting married, and bring clothes, washbasin, cosmetics, toothbrush, toothpaste, comb, mirror, soap box and so on. Send it to the woman's house, which is called "good delivery".

The dowry should be taken away in advance by the man's family, or sent in advance by the family. The amount of dowry depends on the financial situation of the woman's family.

The dowry route is the same as the wedding day route, and firecrackers should be set off.

Wedding day:

Avoid going the same way when you get married. Generally speaking, it should go east and west. If you meet wells, stones, temples, cemeteries and intersections on the road, you must set off firecrackers or cover them with red blankets.

Usually go out to see relatives with firecrackers around five in the morning. The number of relatives who receive red envelopes is calculated in advance.

Back to the man's house, a big girl came out with a tray in her hand, with wine on it and an entrance ceremony (money) sealed with red paper, and then a "fully armed" woman took a torch and turned around the bride's sedan chair (car) three times to show the evil of expelling Lu Yu. When the bride got off the bus, she could not reach the ground. The groom is holding the bride, standing on the red carpet and worshiping heaven and earth with the groom. One worships heaven and earth, the other worships Gaotang, and three couples worship each other. Then the bride walked from the red carpet into the bridal chamber.

Light a lamp in the bridal chamber, commonly known as "longevity lamp"

Within three days of marriage, men, women and children can go to the bridal chamber to make trouble. In the evening, the neighbors began to listen to the room. If no one is listening in the room, put a broom under the window or by the door instead of them.

On the morning of the third day after marriage, the bride got up early to worship her in-laws and her elders after breakfast. All worshippers must give money and wrap it in red paper. This is the bride's savings.

For three days, the bride and groom went to the bride's house together, which was commonly known as "returning to the door" and "visiting" in ancient times. When returning home, the groom is led by experienced people, commonly known as "helping guests", to prevent the groom from being rude and afraid of getting into trouble with her husband. On this day, the woman's family held a grand banquet for each other and invited her uncle, uncle and uncle to accompany her. The new husband took the lead and monopolized the party. When a newlywed husband comes to his father-in-law's house, he should worship his family tree or god first, then his parents-in-law, and then sit down. In front of the new husband, he should put a pair of cups and chopsticks. When eating hi-noodles, my father-in-law gives money to the groom with red paper, commonly known as "noodle-wringing ceremony". When the groom comes home, the woman always keeps the gift. If she takes some, she will surely get a better return. After the bride comes back, she can take part in the daily work of the family.