The custom of wedding and funeral in Shangyu is urgent.

Old-fashioned wedding ceremony is full of red tape and extravagance, which mainly includes four procedures: engagement, engagement, marriage and return. Because of different economic conditions, the complexity and ostentation of rich and poor families are different. Engagement, arranged by matchmaker, is called "tea party". The man asks the woman's birthday and age through the matchmaker, which is called "please age". Ask the blind fortune teller to arrange eight characters and call it "Why to laugh" to decide whether to get married or not. Napin, also known as engagement ceremony. After marriage, the two sides agreed to set a bride price (commonly known as bride price), and the man chose an auspicious day to send two sets to the woman's house respectively. Part of the bride price was sent to the first set by dragon and phoenix, which is the only evidence that both parties can't go back on their word. Erpan, also known as "festival marriage urging", the man officially chose the wedding day and sent all the bride price to the woman, so that she could prepare a dowry and get ready to get married. As the saying goes, "You can only choose a day to get a wife, not a day to get married." Dowry includes "one box and one cabinet", "two boxes and two cabinets" and "four boxes and four cabinets", but all of them must have toilets, commonly known as "children's barrels". Eggs, raw peanuts, fat rice flowers and red paper bags are all put in the bucket. When the man comes home, the groom and his brother must carry them into the new house. The first boy who urinates in the toilet will take away the eggs and the red paper bag. Marriage, according to the choice of auspicious day, the man's house prepares a red sedan chair (widows and concubines are not allowed to use it), and percussion (folk percussion band) goes to the woman's house to get married in the evening. The bride "opens her face" on the day before the wedding, and on the day when she gets on the sedan chair, she worships her ancestors first and listens to her parents' teachings. There are three kinds of bridal gowns, one is "dead gowns", which comes from the story of a folk peach blossom girl. She borrowed a shroud and a pair of trousers from an old lady who lives happily in this village. After the Southern Song Dynasty, she became a "colorful dress" and wore flowered yarn in the Republic of China. The latter is more common in towns. The bride is carried on the sedan chair by her brother or younger brother. After the sedan chair is carried away, her mother will sit on the sedan chair and cry and say "cry, cry". When the sedan chair arrives at the man's house, a wedding will be held on the selected day (in memory of the bride). After the memorial service, the man's family will spread sacks on the ground (meaning "passing on the family line"), and the groom will pull up the bride's foot bags with HongLing, wishing the elders of both sides a happy life to send them into the bridal chamber with candles and take off the bride's "red veil" with sugar cane. After entering the room, the bride and groom will grab a seat and sit on the bed, saying that whoever takes up more space will be the master of family affairs in the future. Dongxiang people don't have the habit of grabbing positions, so the old people press their shoulders and sit down at the same time to show that they will grow old together. Then eat a thin jiaozi, called "descendants jiaozi", and open a new house at night, commonly known as "noisy house", which will last until midnight, and both in-laws and matchmakers will come out to pay the bill. Returning home three days after marriage is called "Three Dynasties", and the groom accompanies the bride back to her parents' home, which is called "returning to the original car". On that day, the original car could not stay overnight. If you don't "return home", it will take three years for the bride to return to her family.