Why are you unwilling to give money to beggars now?

Let's talk about why you are unwilling to give money to beggars. Under what circumstances would you be willing to give money to beggars?

There are many beggars now, and some don't know if they can be called beggars. Why do normal people who dress neatly and are cleaner than passers-by want to be beggars? Can you make money sitting on the ground doing nothing? What do you think of those who are willing to lend a helping hand to help you? In today's society, not to mention normal people, even friends with poor hands and feet or disabilities can rely on their own hands for self-reliance, let alone be a normal person. As long as you are willing to work hard, you will certainly gain something; Laziness cannot be used as a reason for charity, especially for young people.

Nowadays, many people are lazy but want to make money, so they take advantage of this sympathy; When I was studying in the past, I once crossed an overpass. In the middle of the overpass, a student dressed up and asked everyone to give five yuan to go home by car. I didn't think it was too much, so I gave it to him, but when I left, I looked back and saw what I had done. It's really chilling He put the money directly into his pocket and continued to kneel on the ground. This is obviously making money in the name of begging.

So many people are reluctant to give money to beggars now. This is a fact. Everyone earns their own money, so just sitting there can collect money. This not only hurts everyone's sympathy, but also prevents those who really need help from getting the help they deserve.

I don't know who a beggar is.

I am no exception. Whenever I go out and meet a beggar, I will give a few dollars, which gradually seems to be a habit. Until online payment appeared, I basically had no cash and no change to give. Besides, I'm staying in the fifth-tier city now, and I haven't seen beggars for a long time. Suddenly I feel that the places with the largest number of beggars in recent years are the bustling areas of big cities. Maybe small cities are so poor that beggars don't come.

Later, I also saw an unannounced visit by CCTV. Some criminal gangs deliberately cripple some children by abducting and trafficking people, and then put them in densely populated cities to gain sympathy and defraud money. After this incident was reported, the government began to crack down on this kind of incident, so slowly many people were reluctant to give money to beggars. Maybe beggars feel that they can't make money, so they will slowly wash their hands of it, so they will gradually become beggars.

Did the beggar really disappear? I don't think so. I think the beggar lying on the ground disappeared, and the beggar who stood up and begged came again, just changing the routine.

I remember that in 20 16, I was just resting at home. I didn't want to cook by myself at noon, so I went downstairs to the ramen restaurant and ate a bowl of Lamian Noodles. Walking back after dinner, suddenly two sisters came up from the roadside and said to me, "boss, please be kind." We all lost our wallets and mobile phones. We haven't eaten all day, and we are starving. Can you give us 20 yuan for a meal? "

I looked at it. One of the two women is in her forties. Although she didn't wear a famous brand, she was dressed neatly, and she didn't look like the kind of rags she often saw on the roadside. I think these two people may be really in trouble, and generally don't lie for tens of dollars.

So I said, "I don't have any cash with me. To tell you the truth, I just went to the front to eat, and the noodles cooked in the front noodle restaurant are delicious. Let me take you to eat noodles. Although it doesn't help much, at least you are full. "

I think if there is a real problem, if I don't eat for a day, he will definitely want to go if I invite him to eat, and he will definitely not want to eat if he wants to cheat money.

"Well, we go to eat noodles with you. Thank you very much. " Sister said.

"Nothing, everyone has problems, and eating noodles is nothing," I said.

So I took two people into the noodle restaurant. Because I often go to this noodle restaurant for dinner, the boss is very familiar with it. The boss is also a warm-hearted and outspoken person. Before I could speak, the boss scrambled to say, "What happened to my buddy?" Pack a noodle? Or did you leave something in the shop? I just cleared the table and didn't see anything? "

I smiled and said, "no, no, I'm just full. I haven't packed anything or lost anything." Here's the thing. On the way, I met two sisters who said they lost their wallets and didn't eat for a day. Bring them over for a bowl of noodles. Please make me two bowls of noodles. "

"Dude, you are a warm-hearted man," said the boss.

I smiled and said, "I'm flattered. Everything is simple. Everyone has difficulties. "

He said to his two sisters, "Sister, what kind of noodles do you want to eat? Order. He has Lamian Noodles, noodle soup and mixed noodles. "

"Thank you so much, just a bowl of Lamian Noodles," said the woman.

I said to my boss, "Boss, make him two bowls of Lamian Noodles, more bowls of noodles and an omelette for everyone. I will pay you directly to let them eat here. "

In this way, I scanned the code for my boss and paid 24 yuan. I said to my two sisters, "I gave you the money. Tell my boss to give you more noodles. It'll be ready in a minute. Wait a minute, you two I have eaten. " I'll go first. You two enjoy yourselves. "I turned and left, and my two sisters thanked me.

As a result, a few days later, when I went to the boss's noodle restaurant for dinner again, the boss said to me, "Brother, you are welcome. You've been cheated. Those two women told me that they stopped eating noodles as soon as you left and returned the money to her. There was nothing I could do, but I finally returned the money to the two women. "

I said, "I looked at these two women pitifully at that time. I thought they were really in trouble. I didn't give them the money, so I brought them over to eat noodles, and I was cheated. Forget it, those two bowls of noodles are not worth anything, it doesn't matter. " Although those two bowls of noodles are not worth much, I still feel bad after being cheated.

Since this incident, I have encountered several cases of begging for money for various reasons on the road. Some people say that they are donkey friends, and they have lost their wallets and have no money to eat. Some people say that they have lost their mobile phones and have no money to go home by car. Some are still children. They have no money to spend when they talk about it. They can't go home and have no travel expenses. There are various reasons.

Every time I meet you, I will say, if you are really in trouble, I can help you. The police station is not far from here. If the terrain is unfamiliar, I'll take you to the police uncle and they will help you. As a result, as long as they hear this, they will leave directly and ignore me. I feel that the word "police uncle" is simply too useful. It is omnipotent and powerful, and can solve the difficulties of people in trouble at once.

Actually, I just want to help people who are really in trouble. If I meet someone who dares to promise to go to the police station, I will still help.

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Because beggars nowadays are professional, specialized and collectivized, only a few people beg for a living, and they are often rejected by professionals. It is not difficult to find a job in good health. The hard part is the high-paying and well-paid job. Most beggars do this for high income or laziness. One day, good people who live on a few dollars often give money to beggars living in star-rated hotels. Many people are numb because of this, and most people don't want to pay at all.

Why are you unwilling to give money to beggars now? There are two similar problems now: one is that most people will not help the old man when he falls; Why? Once he gets up, most of him or his closest relatives will be wrong.

The other is that most people are unwilling to give money when they meet beggars. Why? Everyone has been cheated, and now you can make money by doing whatever you want. Most of those beggars are professional liars.

For example, the author once met an old lady in rags in the hospital and said that she had not eaten several meals and was almost hungry. She asked me to give her a few dollars for dinner. I'm used to paying online, and I don't have any cash with me, so I told her I'd pay for the buns in the front restaurant, but people said I didn't want to eat them, so I gave her some cash. Later, someone told me that this is a professional beggar, earning hundreds of dollars a day, much better than office workers. In the evening, my son drove her home.

It is true that it is difficult to make a fortune and make a windfall now, but in any case, it has not reached the point where even the money for working can't earn a meal. Therefore, most of the roadside beggars are lazy professional liars; And those seemingly poor disabled people are mostly pretending.

So now, when they meet beggars, most people will turn their heads and leave. It is not that everyone lacks compassion, but that compassion leads to the overdraft of those swindlers.

There are few beggars now, but some people regard beggars as their jobs. Last year in my hometown, while waiting for the bus at Yangzhou platform, I saw an old woman reaching for money, so I gave her the coin. In fact, her appearance and dress are not bad, and I don't know if she is difficult. Later, I waited for the bus and saw her in the same place. I didn't give it to her I think she's in business. Asking for money from others is her business.

One year, I came to our place from Jiuquan. A disabled man, about forty years old, came to the car and asked for money. Seeing that he was disabled, I gave him 20 yuan. At that time, I still had 100 yuan in cash. Later, I came by bus from Jiuquan, and I ate in a restaurant. That man is eating, too. He asked for money on our shuttle bus, but I didn't give it. I am sad that I didn't give it to him, as if I owed it to him, but because I am a little disabled, I use people's sympathy instead of work, and I take asking for money as my job every day. Some people do not deserve people's sympathy every day.

Another time, in my hometown, an Anhui young man came to my mother's house to beg for food, free of charge. We gave it to him and went to her husband's house in the evening. The next day, the young man went to his husband's house to ask for it. We all laughed when we met for the second time.

The third time we met in the street of our hometown, the Anhui young man was directly embarrassed. He explained to us that they took the truck out to ask for rice, and if there was too much rice, they sold it elsewhere. This is business. In fact, they are not poor, even richer than us.

Personally, I think that your kindness should have a little edge, help those in need and sympathize with those in need, but help cannot be unlimited.

Now our country's economic development is getting better and better, and fewer and fewer people go out to ask for money.

I believe that people who are particularly difficult and poor are still willing to give money to beggars, but now there are fewer and fewer beggars, basically very few.

Speaking of this question, it reminds me of something that happened to my friend. I can share it with you here and maybe find some answers.

One day, a friend met a student-like person at the railway station. She is very shy. She told my friend that the money had been stolen. Can you ask Er Yuan to go home? My friend is very kind and feels sorry for this student. Two dollars was not enough, so he gave it to 20 yuan. A week later, my friend happened to meet me at the station. When he saw me, he said that he felt his IQ was insulted. I asked him what happened. He said, "I saw the student who gave me money last time. She smiled at me. I think he can laugh at me, but don't laugh at my IQ. "

There are two important reasons for being unwilling to give money to beggars. First, there is trust. Second, there are many beggars.

Trust includes many aspects. Begging can be roughly divided into two categories: one is primitive and the other is professional. When people feel cheated, they often have a kind of resistance, which is difficult to eliminate. This is some kind of trust crisis brought by those professional beggars.

More and more people are begging, which is also an important reason. I used to feel that I was affected by natural and man-made disasters, but now it has become a scam. This is also the progress of the times and the popularization of information technology, which makes more people understand and alert. People hate being cheated by others.

When it comes to begging, it will hook people's hearts of compassion. In the past, living in poverty required escaping from famine. About 60 people in this family should know that beggars at that time really couldn't afford to eat for a living.

Begging in this society has become a profession now. If you are an ordinary working class, no beggar really earns much. In the new century in Xingtai, people often ask for money. It's not good to do things with both hands and feet. Anyway, I won't give it to you when I see it, but I have also observed it nearby. All the money is given by young women or couples.

Some can even pay by WeChat or Alipay, which is more advanced than me. In fact, it is best to avoid this kind of thing in society, so as not to be upset and not to see others dressed in rags. Maybe luxury cars and buildings.

Refuse to give money to beggars, leaving them nowhere to go.

"I don't want to give money to beggars now." It is not the depravity of human heart and humanity, nor the lack of "great love". On the contrary, people are increasingly seeing the true face of "beggars". How many of these seemingly poor people are really poor enough to beg for a living?

I have to say that some beggars are really poor and can't even support themselves. Only by begging can they survive. These people are worthy of pity and are our "loving hands".

The other part of this group of beggars is actually a "fake beggar", which is a fake beggar in plain English. These people are very strong (and there are few old people). The purpose of their begging is to "gather money", and their "performance tricks" are varied, which makes it difficult to see their true colors and deceives many pairs of "kind eyes".

Some beggars live a richer life than ordinary people by begging, and "begging" has become a way and means for them to get rich. Slowly, people also recognize their faces. Their behavior is essentially "cheating kindness" and "cheating emotion".

For the above reasons, people can't distinguish the "authenticity" of beggars, so they can only choose "not to give them money".