A man who doesn't want children said to his wife, let him be a son because his brother is still young. what do you think?

If I ask you how to maintain a "marriage" for a long time, the answers must be varied. Some people will say that as long as the two sides really love each other, some people will say that husband and wife need mutual trust, and some people will say that the "mother-in-law relationship" in the family will also affect the stability of marriage, but there is another important factor, that is, children.

Although the answers are varied, they are all important factors to maintain the stability of marriage, and it is more important for husband and wife to have a child together. "Children" are more like mediators in the relationship between husband and wife. No matter how big the contradiction in the family is, it will gradually dissipate for the sake of children.

Maybe the children themselves don't know how many broken marriages their existence has saved. We often hear a sentence from couples whose feelings are on the verge of breaking up: "For the sake of children, forget it." Therefore, the role of "children" in the continuation of marriage life is immeasurable.

Having children means that both husband and wife have a responsibility and an extra responsibility, so that there is not only love and being loved, but also common concern in marriage. Those families who don't choose to have children can't directly draw the conclusion that their marriage is unstable, but we can think that families without children will definitely have less troubles and less responsibilities when they fall apart.

Of course, this does not mean that most families without children are like this. In all fairness, families without children actually lack a kind of "shackles" that children put on marriage. Sometimes shackles do not represent derogatory terms, but "shackles" often ensure the reality and existence of marriage.

Lin Jun once received a letter from a reader. This reader is not infertile or unwilling to have children after marriage, but is refused to have children by her husband, even though she is pregnant. All these reasons are not only because giving birth makes her husband feel stressed, but also because her husband has a brother who is 17 years old.

The reader's name is Duoduo. She once loved her husband with kindness. Every married couple will casually talk about having children when chatting, and talk about what kind of baby to have, whether it is better to have a boy or a girl, and the same is true for Duo Duo and her husband. But when she talked a lot about this topic, Duoduo's husband didn't expect and promised a lot, but the joy on his face seemed so insincere anyway.

Many husbands are also the kind of people who like children. Both the imagination before marriage and the attitude towards my brother after marriage have affirmed the speculation in many people's hearts. "My husband must also want to have a child that belongs only to the two of us." In life, I often find that my husband is more like my father than my brother, and I try my best to treat my brother.

Duoduo's father-in-law left home prematurely because of work mistakes after giving birth to his younger brother. Although the unit compensated a certain amount, the money was not worth mentioning on her husband and brother. He should have been forced to give up the well-off life with the Mei Mei family, but the burden of life suddenly fell on Duoduo's husband, which almost crushed him.

At the beginning, I saw her husband's tenacity. After hearing about her husband's family, she felt distressed for him and gradually began to admire him. A responsible man is the most handsome and worthy of her love in the eyes of a woman. Her husband is so concerned about his family that he will certainly be better to himself. After years of long-distance love, Duoduo and her husband chose to get married without hesitation.

When you get married, you don't ask for too much bride price and material wealth. In Duoduo's view, as long as you really love your husband, everything outside your body is just empty talk, but marriage is not that simple. Often a man's material contribution before marriage is equivalent to his contribution to a woman after marriage, and material is very important to marriage. What I think a lot is the foundation of marriage. What a lot of husbands pay is directly proportional to what he pays.

After marriage, Duoduo, like many mothers, is eager to have a common child with her husband and express this emotion directly on her face. However, with her husband's uncooperative, Duo Duo began to doubt whether her husband likes children or not. In Duoduo's view, children are witnesses to the love between two people. She believes that her husband loves herself, but her husband's attitude towards having children has to make her begin to doubt her husband's real intentions.

However, with the intimate interaction between husband and younger brother becoming more and more frequent, even when younger brother went to bed with them, Duoduo finally expressed his doubts to her husband: "Since you like younger brother and children so much, why don't they have a child that really belongs to them?" But Duoduo's husband kept silent on this issue. Yes, he has the right to remain silent, but he has no right to influence his marriage and life because of his personal thoughts.

They all say that "if you don't forget it, there will be repercussions." Many people who have been pregnant for a long time finally find themselves pregnant. When I was happy, I took my husband's hand and rushed directly to the hospital. They want the doctor to see if they are really pregnant. If so, how long have they been pregnant? At this time, when the mother's joy appeared on the blossoming face, what she didn't notice was that her husband was more anxious than her, of course, in another sense.

"Congratulations, you are pregnant, one month old. During this period, you need to pay attention to ... "Listening to the doctor's words, my husband's brow was tightly wrinkled and twisted into a knot. On the way home, I found that my husband didn't know what he was thinking and seemed preoccupied. I just thought her husband had just heard that he was going to be a father, but he didn't react and was not ready.

Things never seem to go according to people's wishes After Duoduo's husband came home and told his mother that he was pregnant, Duoduo's mother-in-law didn't show much reaction. She glanced at her youngest son and frowned deeply, without any intention of becoming a grandmother. That's because I want to ask them what this reaction means, but I'm worried that my mother-in-law and husband will misunderstand me after asking, so I have to think about asking my husband why he is unhappy with the news of his pregnancy while sleeping.

"Husband, do you think I'm pregnant? I don't think my mother-in-law and you are very happy. Is it because I'm pregnant? I know Chajia is not rich and has a brother-in-law, but this one in my stomach is not bad. Think about it, your brother can only be your brother. Although he 17 years old, your child is different. You are the real father, so this child must be born. Do you like it? " I looked at my husband anxiously after I finished.

"Since you put your cards on the table, I don't need to hide. I don't think it's a good time to have children. This is not only out of consideration for the current family situation, but also for my younger brother. My brother is still young and doesn't know anything. I spent a lot of energy on him. I know you like children and I like them, too. Otherwise, I wouldn't be so kind to my brother. Let's not have children yet, okay? Besides, my brother is so young that you can treat him as a son. As the saying goes, eldest brother is like a father, and eldest sister-in-law is like a mother. There is no psychological pressure to raise my brother as a son, so our child is still aborted. "

Listening to a lot of words from her husband, her heart gradually cooled down. She knew that her husband was telling the truth, but she didn't expect him to be so cruel and bluntly asked her to abort the child she had worked so hard to conceive. As a result, an uncontrollable anger rose in her heart. I know that if there are no children to raise in a marriage, then the marriage will lose its ties, and there will be too many unpredictable things in the future marriage life, so

For the sake of future marriage, Dodo said to her husband on the spot, "This is absolutely impossible. The big deal is that I earn money to support my children. " This is the first time that Duoduo refused her husband's request, and it is also the first time that she began to doubt whether she had misunderstood her husband. Her husband likes her brother, but she doesn't like their children together and even contradicts her. Many can't help but wonder if my husband has ever cared about himself and seriously considered his feelings.

However, Duoduo is doomed not to ask this question voluntarily. Knowing her husband's attitude, I set off for my parents' home and decided to give birth to my child at their parents' home. Seeing this, Duoduo's husband deliberately tried to stop it. I don't know whether to stop Duoduo from leaving or to stop the baby in Duoduo's belly from being born. Duoduo may never be able or dare to face the complete chilling after getting the answer.

It is especially important to get married and have children. Many examples are not unique. There are many women in the secular world who have similar but different experiences. Often they may be forced to abort the fetus in their bellies, but women should remember that you are aborting not only the crystallization of love between your husband and wife, but also the shackles that exist in marriage.

We can't jump to conclusions about who is right or wrong between Duoduo and her husband. After careful consideration, both husband and wife have a point. One is for his brother, and the other is for the fetus in his belly, but their attitudes are quite different. One agrees to raise his younger brother at the same time after giving birth, and the other insists that his younger brother should consider and insist on aborting the current fetus when he grows up. No matter who is right or wrong, the first thing to think about is whether Huanhuan's husband cares about Huanhuan's idea.

The importance of children to marriage goes without saying. If there are no children to maintain the feelings between husband and wife and do not listen to and respect each other's opinions, then it is obviously impossible for husband and wife to really come to the end in the changeable marriage in the future. Therefore, marriage should not only maintain the most basic respect between husband and wife, but also provide an easy bond between husband and wife to cope with the future marriage crisis, and this bond lies in the children raised by husband and wife together.