The 35-year-old leftover woman despises my son: Isn't your son a 37-year-old leftover man? How to treat leftover men and women?

Among unmarried people over the age of 30, women are naturally called "older women", while men are called "bachelor of diamonds", which clearly shows the difference between unmarried men and women in the eyes of everyone.

But in fact, the so-called "leftover women" are not really leftover women, just to see if she wants to marry or who she wants to marry, because there are too many excellent ones.

The so-called "bachelors" are not all high-quality men with high gold content. Maybe he has a lot of gold, but it is not necessarily of high quality.

There are no absolute things in the world, are there?

Although everyone understands the truth, it is still impossible for unmarried women over 30 to change the name of "older leftover women". Moreover, many people think that older unmarried women must have many problems themselves, which leads them to "not get married".

According to a recent article about elderly women, I received a private letter from a reader, who said:

"Isn't it her own problem that an older woman can't get married? Didn't she choose a Gao Fushuai? Isn't this the karma that the gold digger finally couldn't get married? "

I didn't reply to this reader, because I stubbornly believe that this reader must have a very big prejudice against women's concept of mate selection, and such prejudice cannot be changed by others.

02

Aunt Wang's son in the community, after graduating from junior high school, soaked in the project site with his uncle who was doing engineering. After about 65,438+00 years of training, he is still a big worker on the project site. He feels very tired and has no income, but because of the limitation of diploma, it is a coolie to find other jobs. Aunt Wang and his wife took out their half-life savings and joined a chain fresh supermarket for their son.

My son is very capable. He runs the supermarket well and makes a lot of money every year.

With the flourishing of her son's career, Aunt Wang walks much lighter, but one thing makes Aunt Wang anxious. She is over 60 years old, and her son has no energy to help with the children. After all, her son is 37 years old, talked about two girlfriends during the period, and finally broke up.

Aunt Wang said that a month ago, someone introduced a woman to her son, who was two years younger than her son. It stands to reason that Aunt Wang did not value the woman's age.

Because her son is so excellent, it is not a problem at all to marry a younger one, so Aunt Wang is still dissatisfied with the matchmaker.

Before her son went to see her, Aunt Wang held her ear and told her son:

"After reading it, find a reason to get rid of it. Don't be a big woman who can't marry. She is still unmarried at such a big age, and her personality must be very smelly. "

To Aunt Wang's surprise, after the blind date, the woman first told the matchmaker that she didn't like her son, and the son gave back the news that the matchmaker was not satisfied.

Aunt Wang was annoyed and said to me, "It's really annoying that a 35-year-old leftover woman still despises my son!"

I didn't say anything, but said to Aunt Wang in my heart, "Isn't your son 37 years old?"

I asked about the woman's qualifications. She is the operation director of a very famous large media company, with an annual salary of several hundred thousand, a car and a house, and a postgraduate degree.

In contrast, Aunt Wang's son is probably just a rich boss who started from his parents, while a person with a junior high school education is likely to be a disdainful graduate student.

Aunt Wang wait for a while gave me a quick look and continued to say angrily, "Why does this 35-year-old leftover woman look down on my son?"

I smiled and told Aunt Wang that I had something to do, so I turned and left.

I still said to Aunt Wang in my heart: "She is really better than your son!"

03

I have met Aunt Wang's son several times. He is about 175cm tall and handsome, but he speaks a little rudely.

So when I talked with Aunt Wang, I had that kind of psychological activity. I didn't look down on Aunt Wang's son, but I felt that although the level of knowledge can't determine everything, the cultural level and contact circle of the two people are too different in marriage and love, and language communication will inevitably be embarrassing.

What's more, such excellent women also belong to the upper class of society. In terms of material and talent, she can be said to be better than Aunt Wang's son, but Aunt Wang still thinks that her excellent son should look down on women of that age. Why shouldn't she have a crush on her son?

I think the reason why the woman agreed to the matchmaker's blind date introduction may be that the matchmaker omitted the inner part of Aunt Wang's son and only thought that Aunt Wang's son and the woman matched in hardware conditions, so the woman agreed to meet, probably because she thought the man was a man with connotation. Not necessarily.

People have too much prejudice against older unmarried women. There is nothing to be picky about being labeled as a "leftover woman" and saying that you are old and yellow.

But I want to say that older women are really not leftover women, and their Excellence is often beyond the imagination of those who are biased against them.

There are many men who pay attention to the right marriage, so why can't a woman choose a spouse with the same conditions as herself and find an object with the same conditions?

When a woman marries, she is reborn for the second time, and everyone wants to marry better; Men's marriage is a venture capital, and everyone wants to marry better. These marriage concepts are equivalent to some extent.

04

Yes, in the view of marriage and love, everyone knows that everyone should not die alone, but should choose one person to die.

But you should know that only a good feeling will have a healing effect.

In fact, how many wrong marriages are married for the sake of marriage, which makes countless people miserable? If we say reproduction, we think that women should not only be tools for reproduction, but they only have the function of reproduction, but these functions must be used correctly in the right and suitable people.

No matter the influence of family background or the troubles in work and life, good feelings can gradually resolve the negative emotions accumulated by each other. On the contrary, people will be closer to the brink of collapse.

Think about it, the wrong person, the wrong marriage, disharmony, frequent contradictions, and a home without temperature. Isn't this contrary to the beauty you expect?

Women must have their own inner standards when choosing a spouse. There is nothing wrong with women wanting to marry rich people, but I believe that most women still want to find someone who is connected with them and attractive to them. The first choice of mate selection should start from the spiritual level of two people. As for material things, who doesn't want their life to be better?

If you can have your cake and eat it, who doesn't want to find someone who likes you and yourself and has excellent conditions in all aspects?

Only in the face of material choice, the spiritual level is the most important, and in the spiritual level, personality, talent and self-motivation are the first choice for women to choose a spouse.

As mentioned above, in women's world, the concept of choosing a spouse has nothing to do with age. I seldom see a woman get married for money. Even if the rich man is not handsome enough, there must be something that attracts her, and she will choose to marry.

Moreover, the older women are, the more realistic they will be about their marriage and love, because they know that if they want to entrust the rest of their lives to a trustworthy person, they must put aside too much sensibility and face the test of passion with too much rationality.

After all, different ages have different standards for their other half:

When I was in "Seeds of Love", I hoped that the other half only had his own eyes, and quarreling would be very sweet; Stepping into the society, I hope my other half is self-motivated and can make a difference on his own. I would rather give up everything and work with that person to travel around the world. After maturity, when your career is stable and excellent, the other half you need can support each other, understand each other and match the conditions. When an older woman chooses a spouse, the man she finally chooses may not be as good as herself materially, but the spiritual level must be indispensable. At least the days when two people are together can be equal in spirit, and it won't be too boring to get along.

In fact, I have always felt that people should look at single women over the age of 30, and should pay more attention to their Excellence. In other words, how many of them are over 30 and are afraid of being single under the excellent aura?

The so-called hate marriage in the eyes of others is just a concept imagined by everyone. After all, their Excellence is achieved through self-improvement in all aspects. People who are so busy improving themselves have too much free time to feel lonely. Yes, they are lonely in a sense, but their loneliness is glorious, isn't it?

How many married people dream of living such a lonely freedom that they can always be excellent?

However, no matter men or women, they can't get married for the sake of getting married, and they can't choose the wrong person for loneliness, and they won't be lonely for life because of choosing the wrong person.

Emotional conclusion:

Women over the age of 30, they sound as if they have passed the age of youth, but they live very young and attractive. If you can, please change your mind on the idea that you originally envied them but must give them the title of "leftover woman".

After all, age is not the only criterion for a person's youth and Excellence.

Marriage is a double-edged sword. Careless choices hurt people and hurt themselves, and feelings are also a sharp invisible dagger, which often hurts people without hurting themselves. Therefore, in the choice of marriage and love, the practical problems considered by older unmarried women need to be recognized.

It is natural to spend the rest of your life together. If we can improve our living standards, we can have the best of both worlds and be happy.

Imagine, if you are an unmarried woman over 30 years old and excellent in all aspects, how can you marry yourself casually?

A person looking for another person to get married must be to make himself better, whether materially or spiritually, rather than lowering his level in all aspects. It is understandable that the older a woman is, the more comprehensive she is.

Instead of getting married for the sake of getting married and choosing an unhappy other half, it is better to improve the reality of self and live a wonderful life.

what do you think?