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Am I delusional? Who can help me?

In modern society, many people have various psychological problems. In fact, the fundamental reason is that they don't understand the laws of psychology.

A teacher in Hengshui Psychological Counseling Center in Hebei Province has been suffering from mental illness for the past 10 years. Later, I tried various methods and read various materials.

I am aware of the laws of psychology. It also helped many people get out of the psychological misunderstanding. These psychological laws exist even for normal people's psychology.

It is very instructive and can help us live and work better.

With the development of modern science, psychology has also been studied as a thing. But psychology is different from general physical phenomena. So many people ask psychology.

The topic has gone into a misunderstanding, looking at psychological problems mechanically. In reality, the first substance is one and the second substance is two, which is very clear and mechanical, but the psychology is different.

It is changeable. Therefore, it is wrong for hospitals to treat mental disorders with drugs as the main means. Psychological problems are mainly psychological reasons.

As long as the mentality gets better, the problem will be solved, which has little to do with physical fitness, unless it is psychological influence that hurts the body and requires physical therapy.

Freud's subconscious theory and psychoanalytic theory are of great scientific significance, but they are far from perfect. In our psychological reality,

It doesn't have much effect in application. For example, if you know all parts of a car quite well, but you are not good at driving, you can't drive well either.

And if a person doesn't know all the parts of a car, but he is a good driver, he can drive better. The same is true of psychology, our psychology.

Driving skills determine whether our psychological work is good or not. Freud's research in his later years plunged him into complete pessimism, not only for psychotherapy.

I feel completely pessimistic, even pessimistic about all mankind. Freud himself did not actually cure a typical psychological disorder.

The patient, Freud himself admitted this.

How to make our psychology better? Throughout the ages, there have been various discussions about this. In fact, we can learn from Laozi, Zhuangzi and Buddha in ancient times.

I got a lot of useful enlightenment from Zen. But when it comes to religion, many people may think of superstitious things, of course, through ghosts and gods.

It's definitely wrong to wait for psychological improvement. But there are some real advantages in these ancient ideas. That's about psychology.

Some knowledge and methods can also be called skills.

For example, Zen advocates epiphany. In fact, this kind of enlightenment is a skill and method to master psychological laws, but it is not regarded as knowledge, it is a kind of.

This kind of experience requires you to truly feel and actually use it. When you feel good, you will know. Like you didn't eat anything, no.

No matter what others say about its taste, you still won't know its real taste. You won't know immediately until you eat it yourself. Of course, we have no idea.

It is not so magical to regard enlightenment as something that becomes a Buddha and an immortal. We only regard it as an understanding of our own psychology.

What method is this? In fact, it's so simple that you may think it's not a good way, so you will slip away from us. We are very happy

Happiness complicates problems, and our instinct makes what we think is simple even more incorrect. This is why there is a great drink in Zen, that is, Master holds a stick.

Force the apprentice to understand, which means you don't understand such a simple thing.

This method is "acceptance". Is to sincerely accept all your feelings, feelings, thoughts, behaviors, pains, fears, happiness and so on. That's it?

It's too simple. Pay attention to everything, no matter how painful, uncomfortable and unreasonable it is, just accept it. pick up

At the same time, you can also observe what your mind is thinking and feel your feelings, just like looking at another person. It's like

Buddhist sayings, "wait and see" and "be aware". Of course, you can accept it without thinking about how to accept it.

This method is equally useful for normal people and people with psychological disorders. In fact, there is not much difference between normal people and abnormal people.

Even in an instant.

We can use a person with psychological barriers as an example, which is easier to understand. For example, a person with psychological disorder always wants it before going to bed every day.

See if the door is closed. Even though he already knew that the door was closed, he would close it again. He will feel uncomfortable if he doesn't go, and he will feel uncomfortable almost every time he closes the door.

It's all closed. He realized that it was a disease and was troubled by it. If you use the method of acceptance, you will accept the idea and route.

For, accept your troubles caused by this. Then you'll be fine. Actually, it's normal for us to have strange ideas. Why can't we have this?

This kind of thinking, why not think like this is normal, if we regard it as normal to have this kind of thinking and not to have this kind of thinking, then we will be open-minded

More extensive. For example, Zhuangzi's family died, and he was not sad at all. Instead, he plays musical instruments. If someone feels abnormal, ask him why he is not sad.

Say, is it sad to die? Isn't it comforting to die and sleep with heaven and earth?

The man who always closes the door is annoyed at having such an idea, so he tries to suppress it, but it is such a psychology. The more you suppress it,

The more he resisted. If this confrontation continues, the conflict will get bigger and bigger. This is a stupid thing. If he accepts the idea and the behavior, then

It will get better gradually. Of course, this is a gradual process, which is very important. We can call it metamorphosis. Unconsciously, we

It's gonna be okay. Just like when we are sleeping, we fall asleep unconsciously. You never know when we fall asleep. Of course, this transformation

The duration varies from person to person. Some people are quick, just for a while, while others need days or dozens of days.

When accepting, our psychology gradually stops fighting, and then I and our psychology become one, just like "no self" There is a code.

So, someone asked the Buddha, why am I worried? After the Buddha explained it to him, he immediately had an epiphany. Buddha probably means that it is you who are upset, not you.

Always pestering your heart, you don't bother, why bother it? That is to say, accept your troubles and you won't bother.

Therefore, there is also an allusion. Shen Xiu said, "The body is a bodhi tree, and the heart is like a mirror platform. Always wipe, don't get dust. " Huineng said, "Bodhi has no trees.

The mirror is not a stage. There is nothing, so there is no dust. "So Huineng got the mantle of a master. It is unnecessary to struggle to clean it often.

So Buddhism often uses short stories to inspire people.

People who close the door are actually more annoyed with that idea. When he accepts, he can often close the door and even like it, but he

You can also leave the door open and accept discomfort without closing it. Gradually, it doesn't matter to him whether he closes the door or not. There is nothing wrong with psychology.

Obstacles are no longer obstacles. This process is actually a very delicate process. Sometimes it is difficult to express our words clearly, but it is easy to understand as long as we have experienced them.

The important thing is that we must experience it.

In addition, we should also believe that it will be good to accept, and believe that there will be. If you don't believe it, you will have nothing. Although this is subjective, it is psychology. Connect if you don't believe me.

There is no chance to check whether it is correct. We can call it objective psychological science. The enlightenment of Zen is also an objective psychological science.

For another example, some people have insomnia. For insomnia, medication is useless. It's all psychological. When you can't sleep, if you think so, I'll let you.

It can't sleep. I really accept it until dawn. I also accept this worry and worry. Of course, you close your eyes and put yourself to sleep. you want

Believe that it will be good to accept it. In fact, it will be fine, slowly, unconsciously, you will definitely enter the dream. This process is also very subtle.

In short, various psychological problems are similar. The solution is similar. Having psychological barriers is not necessarily a bad thing. As the saying goes, there is no mystery.

Where there is enlightenment, there is no mystery without enlightenment.

In fact, we can also learn a lot from this experience. There are also "inaction" like Laozi and Zhuangzi. Our job is to work. if we ...

When you are not working, are you just playing? When we are not working, our bodies are running and our mouths are breathing. In a sense, we can't say that we are working. therefore

Even if you accomplish nothing, in a sense, it is the same as achieving great things, that is, your thoughts should be tolerant. Sometimes secular ideas are the same.

Face. And the weakness of Laozi and Zhuangzi's thought can overcome toughness. It all makes sense.

When we accept ourselves, we can experience more feelings, and sometimes even when you sit still alone, you can feel incomparable pleasure.

We will also know that happiness and pain are relative, wave after wave, and are not controlled by our thoughts. A lot of times, what you think doesn't matter at all,

You just need to experience, you don't want to accept, but you are accepting, and it is better to accept. Our thinking sometimes binds us and makes us fall behind.

Laugh, and we will become more free and wonderful. Our hearts are big, and we have only experienced a small part.

Our world is very complicated. There are too many questions that we don't understand. Many people like to ask why. Sometimes, for some questions, you should not think about why.

Yao, don't go to a dead end. You can't figure it out. In a word, the world is like this. Our brain's thinking ability is really small.

Our world is also very contradictory, truth and error are relative, truth is wrong in a sense, and error may be right in a sense.

Yes Sometimes it is difficult to express many things in our words, and there are many imperfections in our verbal expression, so it is meaningless to argue, and you will win.

Winning is not necessarily right, and losing is not necessarily wrong. As long as we realize the real meaning, it is enough.

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