Excuse me, what's the etiquette in Jieyang?

First, propose. Usually arranged by the matchmaker or introduced by relatives and friends. Second, get married. The matchmaker took the woman's birthday sticker and sent it to the man, so that the man could invite the celebrity family to celebrate the birthday of both men and women. If Mr. Wang speculates that the birth dates of the two parties will not "conflict", he will stick Geng in front of the "Kitchen God" and within three days, the family will be all right, so it can be confirmed as a combination. If something goes wrong, consider it "inappropriate" and send the woman's Geng sticker back. It is called "eat a few baskets", the third category is called "eat baskets", the fourth category is called "baskets" and the fifth category is called "chicken wine". Chicken wine is the lowest, and the poor can't afford it, so the man gave the woman two cocks, two Jin of pork, two pots of wine and several pairs of eggs. The bride's parents also give little dowry. Generally speaking, the mantissa of the guest engagement fee should be two "nine" digits, which is a good sign for a long time. Dan Hong's post was sent to the woman's home by the matchmaker. If the woman approves, it is convenient for the man to make an engagement. Fourth, engagement. Sending an engagement, also known as "accepting talents". On auspicious days, the man sends the agreed betrothal money to the woman's house, and the woman returns the man with two sugar bags and pomegranate flowers, which is called "betrothal gift". According to Mr. Chen Bichu and Mr. Sifeng Wang of Puning City, the custom of Hongyang in Puning County in the old days was that after the woman was hired, in addition to returning the man's candy, she also sent four pairs of good luck, which was called auspicious; There are two clumps of spring grass, called "grass head knot"; Pig heart and pig lungs are a pair, indicating that the heart is connected with the heart; Five kinds of seeds: early millet (that is, rice harvested in summer), mung bean, yeast cake, dried longan and sesame oil, which are called "five sons entering the household"; Some bananas are called tricks. After being hired, both men and women give a packet of sugar packets to relatives and friends, which is called "being popular". Relatives and friends return gifts to congratulate the woman and give her gifts such as cloth and pollen. In the old society, it was called "adding boxes". Before accepting talents, men and women could not ask each other's names, or even greet each other and exchange letters after engagement. Therefore, in the old society, men and women didn't know each other except blood and marriage until the red cloth was uncovered. The son-in-law can't go to his wife's house until the lobby. "Going to class" is actually a kind of etiquette to entertain a new son-in-law. In the old days, after a daughter got married in Jieyang, her parents would choose an auspicious day, or take advantage of the lively performance of the village gods to prepare a banquet for her son-in-law. The son-in-law would put on a "gown" and sit at the banquet, which was called a "red table". In the future, the son-in-law can communicate with the Yue family normally; If the Yue family has a funeral, the son-in-law can go to the funeral and eat a "white watch". If the new son-in-law has never eaten the "red table" and the Yue family holds a funeral, they must first hold the "red table" before they can eat the "white table" and attend the funeral. Fifth, get married. The man chooses the wedding date, writes it down in red pen and sends it to the woman's home, which is called "reporting the day". Before a woman gets married, she should ask an elderly woman to "pull her face". This "smiling woman" is generally a prestigious elderly woman in the village. She is "lucky", full of children and grandchildren, and pays attention to hygiene. When pulling a face, the woman first powders and lubricates her face. Then, pull a yarn in a circle with both hands, bite the other end with your teeth, and "twist" it across the woman's face to remove the dirt on her face, which is also equal to massage and plastic surgery. Before marriage, the girl will invite her sisters to eat coarse beets, sleep in front of the stove, and lay straw under the stove with the intention of getting married and starting a family, with good popularity and a sweet and beautiful life. In the old society of Jieyang County, girls slept in the grass shop the night before they got married, just like prisoners before execution. Mr. Huang Guangqi said that this custom originated from a vicious stepmother in the past. This stepmother humiliated the daughter left by her predecessor, and when she got married, she had a happy event to send her to death row. Unexpectedly, after this woman got married, she made a fortune and her children prospered. Since then, people have followed suit and followed suit. Sixth, get married. When the woman gets married, the man prepares colorful sedan chairs, relatives and friends prepare costumes, and accompany the groom to the woman's house to get married. The procedure for a fashionable woman to get married and a man to get married is that after the man arrives in a colorful sedan chair, the bride's father or clan elders pour a bowl of water on the top of the sedan chair and say auspicious words: "If the bowl of water is poured on the sedan chair, the daughter will become a lady." Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, she should say goodbye to her parents, whimper, express her farewell to her parents who raised her, and leave some tears for her family, which was called "lucky star" in ancient times. The bridesmaid and sister-in-law accompanied the bride into the sedan chair and left together. My uncle (the younger brother of the bride) "whipped the oil bottle" and accompanied my sister to get married. The guest's home is also holding the bride's red envelope to "press the sedan chair". The sedan chair was carried to the man's door, and another boy bowed. Then the groom buckled the sedan chair three times with a paper fan, the bride covered her head with a red cloth, and a "good woman" led the sedan chair door into the house. When the bride arrives home, the bride and groom worship their ancestors first, then their parents and uncles, and then the husband and wife worship each other, firecrackers and gongs and drums are loud. After the ceremony, the bride enters the bridal chamber. At noon, the groom's family fetes relatives and friends, the bride and groom have lunch together, and the husband and wife have a drink for a change, which is called "drinking". After the luncheon, the bride will offer tea to the elders, relatives, in-laws and guests in turn, from the outside to the inside, from the elders to the younger generation. When offering tea, you should kneel to your elders. The worshippers should hold the bride with both hands, drink two cups of tea and give her red envelopes or gold and silver jewelry. This is called "face money". Seventh, build a new house. On the night of the wedding, relatives and friends visited the bride and made trouble in the new house, making "four words". Finally, the "green mother" (matchmaker) led the corner and said a few auspicious words. For example, some "green mothers" sing: peony embroidered on the head corner, and husband and wife respect each other as guests. See well-informed, generous people (Chao pronunciation: Niang) respect and honor everyone (Chao meaning: Jia Po) * * * big official (Jia Weng). Then I was led by a trumpet to embroider Lan Zhi, and the husband and wife were as respectful as guests. Farming has money and silver, and women spin fields for men.