My classmate's beautiful wife makes my heart surge.

Five years ago, my life was ok. I rented a high-grade office building in the bustling commercial center of the city, with 100 employees. My parents in Mei Mei and my family are retired teachers, and their family education is very strict, which makes me a little stiff and rebellious. My wife used to be my colleague. When I started my own company, she went home to teach her husband and children. My daughter-in-law is very beautiful. Everyone who has seen her says that she is very lucky and is Wang Fu's life. We have a precious daughter, who is very smart and lovely. Every year, my family will travel and live a carefree life.

Before I met my classmate's wife, I hardly worried about things at home. The first time I saw my classmate's wife, I was in a mess. Speaking of shame, my classmate is very honest. He has worked in the office for more than ten years and is still a small clerk. He married a beautiful kindergarten teacher as his daughter-in-law and had a son over one year old. To outsiders, his family lives a happy life. However, I personally ruined the happiness of our two families.

The relationship with her began at dinner. My daughter-in-law never participates in my social activities, but she is different. Students eat out, and she is definitely the protagonist at the dinner, which makes all beings fall for it. I envy her. When our relationship suddenly changes, our two families will face disintegration. First of all, my daughter-in-law, who is determined to divorce me. I knelt down to her. To be honest, even if my classmate's wife was charming, if I had a choice, I would choose my family instead of an affair. I said to my wife, "any man who doesn't make mistakes can forgive his husband who makes mistakes." Why can't you forgive me once? " The wife said: "others are others, I am me!" " "

Although my classmate is honest, he can't swallow this tone and wants to divorce his wife. His wife found me reluctantly. I was very distressed at that moment, because it all started with me. I comforted her and said, "Don't worry, I will be responsible for you!" " She was very pleased with my promise, and finally we both divorced. After the divorce, her residence became a problem. I can't let her move in with me right away, because my parents and children can't accept her yet, so she has to rent a house temporarily. But during that time, I also had some operational problems, and the company's operating conditions declined rapidly. I'm so busy every day that I don't care to marry her. After the Spring Festival, I went to calculate a divination, and the fortune teller said that I was "destined for good luck". As a result, in less than a year, my company moved from a high-grade office building to an ordinary office building and laid off most of its employees. I was once disheartened.

But it's hard for her to understand my situation. Living in a rented house, she began to complain about me. After a long time, I recognized her voice. She criticized me for doing nothing when the company was deteriorating. I think, what will happen to us if I go bankrupt one day? Her answer is: "am I doing this for your money?" He is not richer than you? "I suddenly felt a little touched and felt that she should really love me.

Another year has passed and my business is still not improving. The house leaks when it rains all night, my father is paralyzed in winter, and my mother has some indirect neurasthenia. Considering my parents' physical condition, I decided to take my daughter who has already gone to primary school with me. She objected: "Why should I help you with your children?" That attitude is particularly hurtful. I said, "You agreed to have a baby. If you like, we will register for marriage tomorrow! " "She said," what do you take to marry me? "Her words left me speechless. If we continue to argue, it will only hurt each other more.

After a while, my daughter finally moved in with me. It's her first time to cook, and she discussed with me at the weekend, asking her to bring her son, so that the two children can have a companion. Once again, I told myself that I must cherish her in my life. But the reality makes my heart cold on my back. Once, my daughter cried out of breath with tears all over her face and said to me, "Aunt is a bad egg!" " "The child said that I am not at home, my aunt can't cook, let such a small child make instant noodles by himself, and don't tell Dad. Every time my brother comes, menstruation gives him all the food and play, and keeps her alone in the house. I listened to the whole person silly, she can be so vicious!

I had an argument with her about the baby. She denied what the child said, but my intuition told me that the child was too young to gossip, but her excuse was plausible. Who is right and who is wrong? During that time, I almost collapsed and things at home seemed to be a mess. However, there is no doubt that my daughter and she can't live in harmony. In less than half a year, the lively and lovely children can't find a smile now. Look at her, too She is sallow and emaciated. When quarreling with me, she once said bitterly, "I thought you were a man, but I didn't expect you to be so weak and incompetent!" " These words hurt my heart.

Before the Spring Festival, an old friend asked us, "When will you have a wedding banquet?" None of us want to answer directly. Can we still be the same as when we first started? Can there be a happy future?

Song Jiayu's answer is that men should not be mean and women should not be guilty.

Is there a clear criterion for judging right and wrong in the relationship between men and women? Should a man and a woman go out with each other, regardless of marriage or background? To what extent? This is a difficult problem to define and explain clearly. The only criterion for identification is their communication motivation. Although it is hidden behind the communication behavior and difficult to be found, it is a decisive factor to promote the development of communication in a certain direction.

It is no exaggeration for married men to admire married women. It is understandable that many women are better than their wives or more attractive to their wives. It's normal for men to express it or keep it in their hearts. Even if they want to associate with these excellent women, it's nothing. The key is to what extent they want to associate and what purpose they want to achieve. This is the power of communication. If this thing is not simply unhealthy, the result must be a mess.

Does a married man have the qualification and right to please and pursue other people's wives or other unmarried women in a normal marriage relationship? Is this just a moral issue? I think this is more a question of right and wrong of consciousness and behavior, and a problem of bad behavior caused by dirty motives. Men who have this behavior do not regard marriage as a relationship of mutual loyalty and restraint between husband and wife, but only consider their own feelings, and think that it is their right to like and please (pursue) other women, which has nothing to do with their wives and marriage. There are many men who hold this idea at present. I call this man's psychology and behavior "mean".

Women (whether married or not) should set up basic defense lines when facing the expression of love given by married men. It is true that accepting any praise, appreciation and love from the opposite sex will make women feel relaxed and happy, but it is doubtful and vigilant that what kind of motives married men have for themselves is a question that women must think about. Confused women only accept praise and enjoy love, which is of course related to the fact that women get too little praise and love in marriage (or gradually lose it). The problem is that this kind of "acceptance" and "enjoyment" will make women dependent and gradually regard fantasy as reality. In the end, men's bad motives will eventually become a reality, while women will gradually fall into the trap made up by men. Undoubtedly, everyone has the right to like (admire) others, but for married people, this right is limited, and the motivation and form of communication must conform to healthy social, ethical and moral standards. If you really appreciate it, then "stay away" and enjoy it; If it is an increasingly ambiguous "appreciation", it must have ulterior motives. On the contrary, women should really stay away from him, otherwise they will be cheated and suffer. I call a woman who is willing to accept the unprincipled love and pursuit of a married man and get closer and closer. Most "cheating" women will become third parties, while almost all "cheating" men are cheating.

You are a typical shrew; She is a typical bastard who is chased by you because you gave up your marriage. The cleverest person is your wife. She leads a smart life. She knows what she needs is a good man, and a good man will not be stingy. Good people are rarely mean.