What should I do if my husband and wife have a bad relationship and can't get divorced?

Tolstoy wrote in Anna karenin that all happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

When you feel unhappy in your marriage, you will always find thousands of reasons for the imperfection of your marriage, quietly cover up all your happiness and slowly fade out your memory.

Perhaps, marriage is not good, and it is inseparable from marriage, which has become the norm in many families. This is not good, because Qian Qian is definitely; I couldn't leave, but I was too worried and hesitated for a long time.

In fact, every family has a difficult experience! If you have a bad inseparable marriage, you will be happy.

First, assess the situation, learn to calmly analyze love, and don't blindly pursue "true love."

Why do you have the idea of divorce when your marriage is not good? Is there an extramarital affair, or "lovers talk more", or family trivia causes a lot of contradictions, or "three views disagree" Or is there something unclear between the relatives of both sides, which leads to disharmony in marriage?

You should learn to think calmly, don't be impulsive, and just say "Let's get a divorce". You know, once or twice, the other party thought it was a joke, but once and for all, it was serious. On the other hand, "divorce is divorce, who is afraid of who." It is difficult to clean up the mess.

You have to endure it and see love clearly. Maybe you will find that quarreling is because you care about each other and love each other too tightly, not because the contradiction is too deep. If you have an extramarital affair, or have the idea of finding another lover, you should be more calm. You know, "it is difficult to get married for the first time, and it is even harder to get married for the second time." How many couples know that "husband and wife are the original match" after divorce.

Second, apart for a period of time, do you really feel happy with each other and will you "regret"?

It is a disaster for people to get too close to each other. Because when I walked in, I saw not only the advantages, but also the disadvantages. Therefore, keeping a moderate distance is the secret of keeping love fresh. Many separated couples meet several times a month, but they still don't separate because they "miss each other every day" and are eager for love.

If your marriage is inseparable and you are not doing well, take a break and see if you are doing well alone. A friend of mine divorced his wife, and she went back to her parents in a rage. In the first few days, he felt "his ears were clean". But after a few days, I didn't think it was a smell. The child came home clamoring for the meal cooked by his mother. It's really annoying for him to cook alone. Sleeping alone, I suddenly feel a little lonely and want to fight; The house has not been cleaned for many days, and there is more dust; I wanted to drink, and suddenly I found that there was no wine at home ... I was used to having her, but suddenly I was not used to being alone, so my friend took the initiative to go to my parents' house and invited my wife back.

Just try it. If two people are separated for a period of time and don't contact each other, if their lives are better, then divorce may be necessary. If you are not used to it and still miss it, it means that you really can't get divorced, so go on.

Third, if you have children, when you really divorce, you should be "cautious" about how to arrange your children.

There is a song: Only mothers are good in the world, and children with mothers are like treasures. If you throw it into your mother's arms, you won't enjoy happiness ... It's hard to leave anyone, son. The mother is the child's mentor and the father is the child's role model.

If you want a divorce, let's assume that you are divorced and live alone with your children to see if you are happy. Or do you think it doesn't matter if you let the other person leave with the children for a while?

Many people can't divorce because "children are the bond". If you can't let go of the children and the other party can't let go of the children, then don't divorce. Take good care of children and grow up well. Maybe in a few years, when the children grow up and the family laughs more, they don't want to divorce.

Fourth, investigate other people's families, understand how others live, and then "compare" from multiple angles.

If you want a divorce and feel that marriage is not good, go and see other people's homes. As an "investigator", we can design some questionnaires from the marriage survey of friends around us. Look at other people's answers and see if there are unhappy factors, then how do others deal with these "unhappy factors"

You should learn to compare with others. From the aspects of economy, residence, work, emotional connection and bad habits. We will know where our marriage is, where there are problems and where we will work hard in the future.

In fact, other people's marriages are also very difficult. Happiness is an illusion and an external image; There are no families without contradictions, almost none. Your marriage can't go on, others are worse, but you are still putting up with it. Think about it, if you endure it, you will get old and become "wives" with each other.

Fifth, enrich yourself, don't think too much, and slowly see career as "more important" than love.

If the marriage is not good, it may be "thinking too much". You are always dissatisfied with your marriage and stare at its "defects". Well, it's time for you to adjust your perspective on life, put aside your marriage and work hard. You are busy every day and have no time to think about your messy feelings. Perhaps, you will feel that life is suddenly relaxed and you earn more money.

Love is not the whole of life. You have parents to take care of, and you have to work hard. Perhaps, if you have lofty ideals, then do it. Perhaps, when you strive to realize your ideal, you will find that the other party can be a helper and two people can become "business partners". This kind of love has gradually become "unspeakable true love".

One's view of family will change. When you reach a certain age, you will see through "true love outside marriage" and your own happiness.

Nothing goes wrong in life, just "slowly adjust" your mentality and love each other with a grateful heart; Treat each other's "criticism" as "concern"; Let your life not be troubled by love. Years later, the "inseparable from bad" marriage is not perfect, but it is also perfect.