Scores are not unique. How do excellent mothers educate their children?

Scores are not unique. How do excellent mothers educate their children? Review the movie "Hi, Mom". Although the film was created by comedian Jia Ling in memory of his mother, Li Huanying, in addition to the strong affection between mother and daughter, the film also exudes educational ideas in life. There will be a story in the movie: at the dinner table, my daughter Jia Xiaoling tells her mother Li Huanying "fortune-telling", telling her that her daughter is elegant in temperament, excellent in study and work, and will make a lot of money in the future ... but her mother says, "My own daughter, just be healthy and happy." But in reality, many parents can't accept that their children become ordinary people.

Parents cannot accept their children. Many ordinary parents will pin their hopes on their children, hoping that their children will have a successful career and "dream" for their children. Therefore, as soon as children are born, they start to rush about for their future, build roads for their future development, and the high-priced degree rooms and various counseling institutions are packed, so they want their children to go to prestigious schools. In the TV series Growing with You, Hook plays He Jinghua's mother and daughter who failed in the college entrance examination and chose to repeat in senior three. However, when someone mentioned this matter, He Jinghua "defended" that it was not her daughter who failed to pass the exam before she resumed her senior three studies. On the contrary, she looks down on these institutions, and must use the institutions that have passed the 985,211before repeating the third year of high school.

When He Jinghua said this, she was praised by many mothers as an ideal daughter. Before she finished boasting, her daughter asked her directly, "Mom, I didn't fail in the college entrance examination. Is it difficult? " This scene is exactly the same as everyone in life. I know my children are ordinary, but in front of outsiders, I have been reluctant to tell objective facts. Because we cannot accept that children should pay attention to their ordinary fortune. In Fuyang, Anhui, a father and son had an argument in the street.

The father despises every job of his son, delivering fast food, running business and setting up stalls; He felt that these hurt his face. The Zhihu-based parent's question aroused nearly 6.5438+0.7 million viewers and strong response: Why do parents want their children to be particularly excellent? The fundamental reason is that he projected his wishes and needs on his children and wanted to get his favorite sense of accomplishment and pride from them. Secondly, parents deprive their children of the right to be "ordinary people". Many parents sincerely feel that their children can get the first place in the exam and be admitted to a prestigious school. I have such high expectations for my children from the bottom of my heart that parents can't accept that their children are not excellent.