Yi Nengjing and Hongkong tell fortune.

Two days ago, Yi Nengjing boarded the hot search because of a program called "202 1 Say One", along with the word "Jiwa" that just faded out.

But the triviality of Yi Nengjing is different from the triviality we resist.

Chickens in Yi Nengjing let their children develop according to their own wishes and interests, not what their parents arrange for their children to learn. Once the child doesn't like it and doesn't want to learn, he can press the pause button at any time.

Yi Nengjing, this isn't a baby chick, it's wings for children to fly. This is essentially different from the chicken we criticized.

The chickens we criticize are more about destroying babies.

Parents constantly arrange studies and activities for their children, as well as extracurricular classes and interest classes, so that children can work as hard as perpetual motion machines and "forge" their children into a learning machine with an indestructible body.

This kind of education, which parents think is paving the way for their children's future, actually pushes their children to the abyss of perdition.

0 1 was caught by the result.

Parents, how crazy can it be?

"If you have suffered, you will become the master here. People go high, water flows low, and learning must not be relaxed. "

This is the educational principle that Tian Yulan regarded as the standard in Xiao Shede.

For Tian Yulan, her son's free report card is a barometer of her mood, and her son's Olympic trophy is her refreshing artifact.

Since her son's first grade, she has enrolled her son in various Olympic math classes, bought her son various exercise books, and strictly controlled his diet. Everything he eats depends on her eyes.

Once, Ziyou just ate a piece of watermelon, and she was like an enemy, because the sugar in watermelon was too high, which would lead to obesity, which in turn affected Ziyou's sensitivity, calculation ability and thinking ability.

Some people even say that Ziyou's ideal of becoming a biologist is a fantasy and tragic for Ziyou.

Until the end, Ziyou began to accuse her mother: she only loves herself first, but she is actually just a face project for her mother.

Tian Yulan used the banner of love to satisfy her vanity. Although she earned face, she hurt the child's lining.

Ziyou finally collapsed under the pressure of her mother, and the relationship between mother and child fell to freezing point.

Parents should never be confused by good grades, let alone be blinded by their children's temporary "obedience", and go forward bravely in pursuit of good grades, but ignore the undercurrent of their children's hearts.

Now you are "happy" that your children do what you say, and tomorrow your children will obey your wishes and "separate" from you.

This kind of education is doomed to be a "loss-making business", which is neither worthwhile nor necessary.

Trying to destroy a child,

Let him just focus on learning.

Spencer, a famous British educator, once said:

"Education is to make children a happy person, and the means and methods of education should also be happy. Just like a tiny reed tube, if you enter bitter juice from this end, it will not be sweet honey juice from the other end. "

If the education we give our children makes them feel very hard, then the final feedback of this education will not be a good result.

"I can't do anything well ..." Xue Jun (a pseudonym), a high school student, cried in the suicide note.

Xue Jun, whose total score ranks in the top ten in the city, is very dissatisfied with himself because the single subject can't reach the top three in the city.

To this end, he studies hard, only sleeps for three or four hours every day, and spends the rest of his time brushing questions crazily.

His parents advised him to rest, but he turned a deaf ear and studied hysterically until he suffered from severe depression and was sent to Zhejiang Rehabilitation Center for hospitalization.

Xue Jun was indoctrinated with the idea that academic success is the only way out.

Xue Jun's growth is almost centered on learning. After entering high school, Xue Jun can only breathe for a short hour every day, listening to music and browsing the web.

Xue Jun's focus in life is only learning, so learning has become the only thing he can get, so he can't allow himself to be imperfect.

Rome was not built in a day, and all misfortunes can be traced back to the source.

Director Pei pointed out that this is actually the crux of most hospitalized children like Xue Jun.

They have almost no hobbies of their own. Even if they have their own specialties, they are required by their parents to learn, and they are rarely their real hobbies.

These children are essentially hollow people living under the wishes of their parents. They have no love of their own. Besides studying, their life is only eating and drinking Lazarus. Because of this, excellent grades can't save their empty and fearful hearts at all.

Parents who are good at following the trend,

It is easier to cultivate excellent children.

We never imagined how bad it would be to tell our children how to treat their lives.

What we think of as enthusiastic action is actually setting limits on children's lives.

What is really good for children should be to make them the first party in their own lives and live according to their own wishes, so that children will not become slaves to achievements.

This is a kind of education that goes with the flow, rather than letting nature take its course, so that the children raised will be better.

This is the case with the Yin Ran family in the documentary Little Boy.

Yin Ran has been interested in studying small insects since he was a child. He is an out-and-out "bug fan" and loves to catch bugs since he was a child.

What others find disgusting, he regards it as a treasure.

The origins and habits of various insects are readily available.

A butterfly expert in Hong Kong couldn't help calling Yin Ran, a fifth-grade student, a master.

My son has such a unique interest, so Yin's mother chose to support her just because she saw happiness in her son's focused eyes, which were charming.

In Yin's view, if all the interesting things are removed, wouldn't the child's life be boring?

Therefore, she wants to protect the light in children's eyes and protect their interesting lives.

So in normal times, she will study small insects with Yin Ran.

As soon as the winter and summer vacations arrive, she will go into the mountains with Yin's father to collect and observe all kinds of insects.

Yin's parents raised a son who is good at creating happiness with real respect education, and also raised a "master of insects" that everyone envied.

But respecting children doesn't mean letting them indulge in some kind of happiness and get carried away.

When it's time to study, mother Yin will also help make a good time plan, balance interest and study, and observe small insects while learning.

It can be said that parents in Yin Ran are doing their best to promote their children's happiness, support their children to grow up in their favorite way and make their children's lives interesting.

Because of their "great help", Yin Ran has a vision and mind beyond many peers and even adults: "The harm and benefit of insects are all made up by human beings."

When his classmates said in front of him that the insects in his carefully prepared gift-a small box were disgusting, he was not angry, but gave him another ballpoint pen.

These excellent qualities are more precious than good grades.

Sometimes, a child's growth is hidden not only in his talent, but also in his parents' decisions.

Children who can grow up freely can reap real happiness. Targeted love can light up a child's bright future.

On the way of raising children, parents should be the leaders of children's growth, not the supervisors of children.

Parents should give their children room to grow freely and explore the world, so that they can grow into towering trees.

Parenting is not easy. May there be fewer mothers in the world and more mothers in Yin, so that every child can find the love of his life and grow up happily.