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Marriage customs and taboos in southern Fujian

1, sign: also known as gift, one month to two weeks before marriage. The man's family will send gifts to the woman's family according to the prescribed conditions, and invite two to four female relatives (people who need all the blessings) to come to the woman's family with gifts, cash gifts and a lot of gifts. Collecting some work in Dali must have been done by the woman's elders. Usually, even-numbered foods are used for gift applications (gift cakes, gifts, gifts, earrings, etc. ). That is, in pairs. In addition to giving gifts, the man will choose two or three auspicious days for the woman to set the wedding date.

2, Qing Dynasty: That is, (choose a date), the man asked the fortune teller to choose a good day and find a good day to get married, so that the marriage will be smooth and the two will be harmonious.

3. Wedding reception: Receiving the bride is the climax of the whole wedding today. Accompanied by the best man and several brothers, the groom greeted the bride with flowers after 12. When you arrive at the bride's house. The first level is (introduction). If you want to get the beauty back, you must go through a period of intellectual and physical tests. What matters is (generous benefits). After getting started, you should pay attention to the following points: After sisters receive the benefits, they should give 10% to 50% of the benefits to their male brothers, which reads (sisters' tea money). The groom will marry the bride with flowers, and the bride's parents will light a pair of wedding candles after opening the door. The bride is brought out by her sister or maid of honor and given to her father, who then gives it to the groom. This is a formal ceremony for husband and wife to meet. The groom will offer tea to the woman's parents, and the woman's parents will give back red envelopes or items. Finally, before leaving the bride's house, everyone must eat egg sweet soup in pairs. When going out, the bridesmaid should wear a red umbrella to protect the bride from the wind. Remember, wedding candles can't be put out, and they can't be burned out until the best time of the wedding reception the next day. When returning to the new house, bridesmaids should scatter (special silver coins for celebration) everywhere from the moment they get off the bus, and read them when they arrive. Before entering the new house, it should be scattered in every corner of the room. Including (living room, bathroom, new house, kitchen, etc. When the bride is about to enter the new house, the groom will take the bride into the hall and say, we are home. Then let the bridesmaid turn on the light to indicate her arrival. Tip: (Previously, the groom's parents had to wait for the new couple in the new bedroom). At this time, the bride will knock on the door and ask her parents to go out. Then give tea to the man's parents, and the parents will reciprocate.

4. Bed: A few days before the wedding, a good woman will put the new bed in an auspicious place that is conducive to trust, then spread a dragon and phoenix quilt and sprinkle with: red mung beans, lotus seeds, red dates, longan, walnuts and other happy fruits. In ancient times, it was called "pressing the bed", which means spreading the branches and leaves. The most important ceremonies before the wedding ceremony seem to be (going to the cabinet) and (going to the top). (Going to the pavilion) means that the bride-to-be stays in a corner of the house for a short time before getting married, usually in the boudoir or attic, accompanied by a group of sisters and close friends in the boudoir, so as to get rid of the usual living habits for the time being and prepare herself psychologically so as to adapt to the unfamiliar living environment of her husband's family in the future. The bride will not leave the attic until the wedding day, so it is commonly known as teenage marriage.

5. Worship heaven and earth: Newcomers worship heaven and earth first, and then worship their ancestors. Trust and bow down to parents with tea. The bride prepares two gift cards, one for Wei Wangjin and the other for a full house, and gives it to her aunt after going through the door.

6. Bridal chamber: On the wedding night, friends and relatives who are close to the groom organized more than ten children to be grooms, and the bride "sent the children". The first one carried a pair of lanterns, followed by a jubilant "children's tray" and rushed into the bridal chamber. The noisy room ended after the "four praises" and other procedures.

7. Zhaohuimen: Zhaohuimen means that on the third day after marriage, the bride, accompanied by her husband, invites the best man and bridesmaid to have dinner with their parents and elders, and then brings back preparations and gifts to worship their ancestors. And bring a cane with a head and a tail, all the way from the new house back to her mother's house, indicating that the whole marriage process is over from beginning to end.

Wedding taboos of Minnan people

1, don't get married in the ghost month, that is, the seventh month of the lunar calendar (and don't be born in July).

2, avoid getting married in June of the lunar calendar, representing a half-moon wife.

3. When installing the bed, put the bed in the right position and avoid the sharp corners of the desk closet or any objects.

4. After the bed is fixed, until the eve of the wedding night, the prospective groom should avoid sleeping alone in the new bed, and can find a big zodiac to sleep with underage boys, such as Long Xiao.

On the day of engagement, no matter how hot the weather is, all the people who are engaged are not allowed to fan, otherwise it means breaking up.

After the wedding reception, neither party can say goodbye, otherwise it means remarriage.

7. Don't wear clothes and dresses with pockets on the bride's wedding day, so as not to take away her family's wealth.

The more the bride cries when she leaves home, the better.

9. On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, all aunts and sisters-in-law should avoid seeing each other off, because "aunt" is homophonic with "orphan" and "sister-in-law" is homophonic with "sweep", which is unlucky.

10. On the way to the wedding, if you meet another wedding motorcade, it is called "beaming", which will offset the blessing of the other party, so it is up to two matchmakers to set off firecrackers or exchange flowers to resolve it.

1 1. On the wedding day, no one is allowed to touch the new bed until going to bed at night. On that day, the bride is not allowed to touch the bed.

12. On the wedding day, the bride can't lie down, otherwise she will be ill in bed all the year round. 5 zinc

13. Because children cry easily, children should be forbidden to enter the wedding auditorium, because it is unlucky to cry in the auditorium.

14. When the bride enters the man's house, avoid stepping on the threshold and crossing the threshold.

15. Any person or widow who belongs to the "tiger" in the zodiac is not allowed to watch the ceremony and enter the new house.

16, the bride should be careful not to step on the groom's shoes, it will be a shame for her husband.

17. On the day of visiting parents, newlyweds must leave their parents' home before sunset, and they must never spend the night at their parents' home. In case they can't go home for special reasons, the husband and wife should sleep in separate rooms to avoid bumping into their parents' homes and bringing bad luck to their parents.

18. Don't attend any wedding, funeral or celebration within four months of marriage.

19, don't spend the night outside within four months of marriage.