As the saying goes, "If you don't do it, you will do it, it runs in the family." Have you ever had such an experience?

China has a history of 5,000 years, which also contributes to the long and profound culture of China. Among them, proverbs, as a vein of traditional culture, are a summary of people's own life experiences, some are descriptions of folk life, and some are reflections on life. Because it is easy to understand and catchy, it is widely circulated among the people, and there are profound reasons behind many proverbs. For example, the older generation said that "no guarantee, no matchmaker for three generations" has a profound truth. Next, let's take a look.

If you don't do it in the middle, you are naturally a middleman. When people need help, if they don't know each other, they will find a middleman to introduce them. If things are done, the middleman will get the thanks of both parties. But if it is not done well, it is likely that both sides will not please. The one who asks for help will dislike you for being unreliable, and the other will dislike you for causing trouble to others.

On the other hand, to be a middleman is to be a mediator of contradictions. If there is any contradiction between the two sides, find a middleman to mediate. If that sentence is not taken or misunderstood, it will easily lead to thankless work and offend people on both sides. In particular, family conflicts and marriage conflicts cannot be clearly explained in a few words. Husband and wife are fighting at the end of the bed, but you are the bad guy. Therefore, it is easy not to be a middleman. Everyone has their own problems, and everyone has different ideas. It is better to let the parties solve it themselves.

No insurance refers to the guarantor. The general guarantor appears in the debt problem. For example, if a person wants to do business and does not have enough start-up funds, he will want to borrow money from his fellow villagers, but his money is not blown by the wind and his fellow villagers are afraid to lend it to others. At this time, he needs to find a guarantor to prove to the borrower that he will pay back the money in the future. If this person is successful in business and makes money, naturally there is no problem. But if there is any debt dispute, it is very likely that neither side is human. What is more serious is that this person failed in business and ran away. The guarantor is likely to bear the responsibility of repaying the borrower's debt and be scolded. So not everything can be guaranteed.

As the saying goes, "know people, know faces, but don't know hearts." It is true to help people with kindness, but when it comes to economic interests, we should weigh them carefully, otherwise we may end up losing money.

Don't be a matchmaker. In ancient times, people paid attention to the matchmaker to get married. It is unreasonable if marriage does not go through the front line of the matchmaker. In ancient times, women couldn't go out, and men and women were not close, so before marriage, two people and their families might not be familiar with each other. At this time, we need a matchmaker to understand the basic situation of both parties, try to match each other and accurately reflect each other's situation to both parents, but we should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses so that both parties can reach an engagement willingly, so the matchmaker's role is to eliminate future information. And even if it is two people in two of a kind, the man will come to the door under the guise of a matchmaker first, and the woman's parents will agree to make a marriage. ...

From proposing the bride to getting engaged and completing the wedding, any step in the process needs the contact and mediation of the matchmaker. It is precisely because of the importance of matchmaker in marriage that it is not easy to be a matchmaker. When the marriage is agreed, the life of husband and wife will be happy. If you don't speak well, it will hurt not only the husband and wife, but also two families. So don't be a matchmaker easily.

But with the development of the times, everyone pays attention to free love, so the matchmaker who makes a living as a matchmaker has withdrawn from the historical stage. Although there are still many blind dates, matchmakers are generally relatives of both parties, and they are considered as introducers, not matchmakers. Except for relatives and friends at home, people are trying to avoid being matchmakers for others. Although they are kind, they bear greater responsibilities, and it makes sense not to be matchmakers.

To sum up, as the saying goes, "If you don't do it, you won't be a guarantee, and three generations won't be a matchmaker", which can't harm people, let alone prevent them. Don't do that thankless thing just because you are kind at the moment.

Bian Xiao has something to say: There is still a general idea that friends and classmates introduce people. Because modern people are busy at work and have a small social circle, many people accept blind date, but after all, there is a generation gap between our parents and us. Many times, we will be embarrassed to tell our parents and relatives about our mate selection criteria. Parents and relatives look at people differently from us. So many people like to find friends or classmates around them to introduce them, so as to know the root cause, but

First of all, the other side's conditions. In case of bad conditions, your friend may think that you look down on him, so that's why. There is also that if both parties are satisfied, any problems in communication will come to you, and you should always worry about it. If two people get married in the future, there will be conflicts between husband and wife, and your friends may even resent you, so you should carefully introduce your partner to friends or classmates.