I admire your courage to have a second child, and I firmly choose the only child.

I was actually slapped when I said this. When I first gave birth to Duobao two years ago, I dared to say that I would definitely have a second child! But two years later, after struggling on the road of parenting, I gave up! Also reasonable!

Actually, having a second child is good! In order to change the aging problem of the country, you have made great contributions! Also indirectly realized the dream of wanting a brother and sister! The most important thing is that the chicken soup says, leave a relative for the child!

It's too hard to take care of children! Exhausted, exhausted! Be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, you have to catch up with your ancestors in time, space, manpower and financial resources, because it is no longer the time to win by quantity, and everyone is desperate to win by quality. So, I really admire your courage to have a second child!

Indeed, having a second child has many advantages.

Children are accompanied by their peers during the whole growth process, unlike our parents who are locked in iron gates and yell at the children next door when they go to work. Being bullied, I don't have the courage to say, wait, I'll ask my brother/sister to clean you up! In order to make up for the vacancy, all kinds of brothers and sisters recognize it (don't tell me you don't have it, I don't believe it)!

Maybe they will fight with each other when they are young, but they will become strategic alliances when they grow up! Especially in supporting parents, as only children, we don't have to fight alone, and we are most afraid of hearing what's wrong with our parents. People always have birth, illness and death, and they will always encounter difficulties related to life. When you have brothers and sisters, you should bear each other, so you shouldn't be so sad. So, when I said I didn't want to have a second child, everyone replied, that's because you haven't met anything yet!

But after countless times of thinking and imagining the future, I still firmly chose the only child! Because it takes time, place, people and money to have a second child, and people and money are the key.

First, let's talk about the weather. Anyone who has given birth to a child knows that the arrival of a child really has to go with the flow. Some people are not going to say that there will be, and some people try their best to no avail. I once visited a fortune teller. He analyzed the timing of giving birth from the perspective of numerology. According to everyone's eight characters and four pillars, it is also a bit awesome. Although it seems to be a feudal superstition, it is also possible to use this as a slogan when I really encounter infertility. Who wants to say directly that I can't have children? Everything means not yet!

The second is geographical location. Are you capable of raising two children by yourself? If not, do you need help from the elderly? Does this old man live in the same city as you? If not, would the elderly like to come to your city? I heard that too many people have a second child, and the older one is taken away by grandparents, which leads to the interruption of parents and children. Because mom can't take care of two children at the same time, grandparents can't adapt to the new environment. Originally, the second child was to accompany the child, but in this way, the child even lost his parents. Have you considered his feelings? Have you asked him if he would like to have brothers and sisters?

Thirdly, being a man, harmony is very important. Originally, marriage is the combination of two families, and the birth of a child is a weapon to test whether the three views of both sides are consistent. The birth of a child is really a watershed between husband-wife relationship and mother-in-law relationship. Once a pregnant mother swore to me that she wouldn't. Her husband loved her very much, and her mother-in-law listened to her. She began to vomit soon after giving birth. . . So, when raising children, what kind of parenting style will you choose? Have you made a good division of labor for the arrival of the second child? Once these are not solved, the complaints that follow will make the original harmonious relationship fragmented, which will be unfavorable to the growth of children and make everyone's emotions collapse.

Finally, there is more money. As I said before, this is an era of pursuing quality, and everyone is particularly concerned about children. It is not enough for me to care about your food and clothing. Eat well, use well, dress well, and attend early education, travel and interest classes. It happens that the old people at home can't help. Do you want to invite another aunt? There is another child at home. Should we improve our housing and buy a 7-seat car or something? These all need money! Cruel, isn't it? ! I think so too! These do not include the loss of income caused by giving up your career in order to have children.

So, one day, I suddenly had an epiphany and decided to choose the only child. At that moment, I felt instantly relaxed. Because the thought of having to bear the pain of giving birth again with my life, sacrificing my own time, giving up my hobbies and starting over, and more importantly, grasping my mother's freedom is terrible!

In fact, there is nothing wrong with being an only child. Isn't it normal for thousands of only children in China to thrive? Those who say that the only child is selfish, frustrated and not independent, in fact, you don't realize the link of family education.

I think everyone is an individual. I believe he has no parents, no brothers and sisters, no wife and children, no friends. I believe he has the ability to accompany himself! Everyone comes into this world alone and leaves alone, and no one will always be with you. Teach children to have independent personality and the ability to think independently. Even if you don't keep him company, he can still live well.

Therefore, different people have different views on whether to have a second child. There is no need for seven aunts and eight aunts to earnestly persuade me that if the national policy is liberalized, there will be no benefits and losses if you don't have children.

When I give a child life, I think I should play the role of a good mother in his life. I feel that when I can't fulfill my obligations as a mother of two children, I shouldn't lead the birth of another child with my rights. Just as we ask our children if they want brothers and sisters, we should also consider whether the second child wants brothers and sisters. Don't be angry with mom and dad, just like when we were young, say why you are angry with me! That's how it can't be stuffed back.