10 psychology book recommendation?

At the beginning, I borrowed a sentence from Wang Yangming's psychology: faith can neither be proved nor falsified, and it depends entirely on our own choices. You can think that life is just a small and short-lived existence in the vast universe. People came to this world by accident, and there is nothing special about living, just eating and drinking men and women; You can also think that the essence of life is noble and sacred. Everyone comes to this world with a mission, that is, to improve their personality and give full play to their potential, so as to create value for others and society, and at the same time to obtain a happy, happy and successful high-quality life for themselves. We should establish correct core values and form good habits, so as to create value for society. Here I share 10 my favorite psychology book, and share it with you.

1, inferiority and transcendence-alfred adler/Cao Wanhong

This book is the first psychological book I have ever read. I have been wanting to read Adler's Individual Psychology for years, so this book should be a treasure. Contrary to Freud's "determinism" theory, he does not think that bad experiences in the past may not necessarily have a negative impact on us. What really affects us is how we look at the past, just as setbacks depend entirely on how we look at a person's growth, strengths or weaknesses. So the so-called influence of family background on us is totally untenable. Don't make excuses to say that you had bad experiences before, which made us who we are now. We are afraid to face the past and can't accept ourselves! This book explains the difference between inferiority and inferiority in detail. At the same time, I listed many cases about our society, our relationship with others and our family, and finally told me how to get rid of inferiority.

It would be better to read this book together with kishida fumio's Courage to Hate and Home of the Native. In short, the ways to get rid of inferiority include accepting yourself, trusting others and giving others. Finally, I recommend seeing Cao Wanhong's translation. I have seen another translation before, and I don't feel very logical.

2. Self-control-Kelly Magnag/Wang Cenhui

This book is dry and practical, and it is suitable for reading several times. I first learned about meditation from this book. Later, I learned meditation basically by reading 10 Minute Meditation. The core idea I understand in this book is to build willpower, that is, my core values or beliefs, which is the driving force of all behaviors. Don't mistake the behavior that supports the realization of the goal for the goal itself. Progress can inspire people and even improve their self-control in the future, but only if you take your actions as evidence of your efforts to achieve your goals. In other words, you should know what you have done and keep an eye on your goals. Focus on your commitment to yourself, not simple progress. In order to achieve your goal, you should be willing to pay more. You can learn willpower, emotional management and meditation from this book, which is suitable for most readers.

3. Great Me-Chen Haixian

A favorite teacher thinks that the whole book is about himself and puts forward a concept that most psychologists will put forward: fixed thinking mode and growth thinking mode. Do you believe that everything is destiny takes a hand, or that you can achieve something through hard work? Negative emotions and positive emotions determine your achievements, and psychology is also called self-testifying prophecy. If you believe that you can change, if you turn it into a habit, then change is real and feasible. Just like a piece of paper or a coat, once folded, it will fold down along the same track. This is the real power of habit: your choice determines your habit.

Once a choice is made, it becomes a spontaneous behavior, which is not only true and feasible, but also seems inevitable, which makes us finally move towards our own destiny, no matter what the fate is, we can't resist it. Our way of thinking determines our fate, good or bad. Finally, a word for you: you are not here to prove yourself right, but to learn skills. Learning skills means learning to let go of yourself.

4. Lifelong Growth-Carol Dwek

This book also puts forward the same fixed thinking mode and growth thinking mode as the ego. People with fixed thinking patterns like to have a sense of superiority, unwilling or afraid to try, and afraid that they are not perfect, so they often think: I just didn't do it, and if I did, I would definitely do better than others. But I've never seen them try. Therefore, when some parents set an ideal goal of a fixed thinking mode for their children, they actually require their children to conform to the model of a smart and talented child, otherwise they will be considered worthless. They didn't leave room for children to make mistakes, and they didn't leave room for children to show their own personality-children's own interests, personality, desires and values were suppressed, which is very terrible. True self-confidence is "having the courage to open your heart and welcome new changes and ideas, no matter where they come from". True self-confidence comes from your mode of thinking, and has nothing to do with external material: you are ready to grow.

5. The Tao Te Ching-Ceng Shiqiang's Interpretation

These two books should also be regarded as psychology. Tao is the root and source of all things, and virtue is the external expression. There are too many contents in it, it's hard to say, and there are many interpretations in the evening, but I strongly recommend this book. Ceng Shiqiang himself has a profound understanding of the Book of Changes and Tao Te Ching, and his language is very simple and relaxed, which is very suitable for a little white rookie like me. After reading Zeng Guofan's books, you should know that he has been practicing Laozi's moral benevolence, righteousness and propriety, as he has repeatedly mentioned, "The world is the softest, galloping between heaven and earth" and "Jianghai can be the king of all valleys, and its goodness is also". Finally, the way to sanctification is to strive for it.

6. Read a child's mind-Fan Deng

I feel that this book is quite meaningful for children's education. There are many interpretations about rebellious period, homework, independence, talent, introversion and so on. The general principle is, I think it's better to think from another angle, and learn to communicate with children on an equal footing, and don't command or control children with an adult attitude. Most of the time, we always use our knowledge to educate our children and never think about what children really need. We must learn to compromise with our children. Never think that parents are all right, and never think that children must be parents' accessories. In the process of educating children, it is not that parents should always teach their children, but that parents should find ways to improve their self-cultivation and grow up with their children. Learning to be a parent is more important than knowing how to teach children.

7. procrastination psychology Jane Bok/Jiang Yongqiang (translated)

Don't expect this book to solve all your procrastination. It is important that you realize your procrastination and analyze the reasons for procrastination, and learn to face up to your fears and failures. You can learn some skills from this book. For example, clear specific goals must be very detailed. When you want to delay, you can try to start for a few minutes (there is a 2-minute rule). The more you expect from yourself, the more you are afraid of whether you can do it or not, and the easier it is to delay, so don't be too perfect, accept yourself and adjust your direction in the process. Procrastination is not a time management problem, nor a moral problem, but a complex psychological problem. Fundamentally speaking, procrastination is a question of how a person gets along with himself, and it also reflects a person's self-esteem.

8. The Power of Habit Charles Duhige/:Wu Yijun (translated)

I read this book in 2023. I can't remember most of the content clearly, but I still liked it at that time. I plan to read it again in the near future. It tells the three elements of habit: habit suggestion, habit behavior and habit reward. This is the key point, such as a pack of cigarettes, then the smoker's brain begins to predict the taste of nicotine. When you know this, you will know where to start to form good habits. This book is easier to operate by combining "control habits", and the core ideas of the two books are similar. This can form good habits and give up bad habits. Habits cannot be eliminated, but can only be replaced. Habits are most malleable when using the golden rule of changing habits: if we keep the same hints and rewards, we can implant a new habit. But even this would not be enough In order to keep this habit, people must believe that change is possible. If you want to change a habit, you must find another habit to replace it.

9. How to live independently Monica Bohr/Zhang Xinlei (translated)

This book is less than 200 pages, many of which are practical pages, and readers can supplement them themselves as exercise guides. There is a lot of content in it, but it doesn't go to the end. It needs other psychological books as the basis. It's all about taming inner criticism, self-worth, and learning to use intuition. It's still a good book. It's best to read it every few months. Real success requires internal motivation.

10, Feeling of Ascension: I am doing psychological counseling at Harvard University, Yue Xiaodong.

A book I read in 2020 tells many practical cases, all of which are problems that will be encountered in ordinary life. It is a clear and simple introduction to psychology, which is equivalent to visualizing knowledge. It's not boring, it's not telling the truth, it's literature and art, it's related to love, and it's the reading orientation of ordinary people. I recommend you to read it.

There are also several psychological books, such as Wang Yangming's psychology, cognitive awakening, mastering habits and courage to be hated, which are also very helpful psychological books. Because it was mentioned in the previous article "Recommended 10 Books Worth Repeated Reading", I won't repeat it this time. If there are any mistakes, please criticize and correct them.

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