How to treat men's family orientation, Zhihu

In traditional culture, the social division of labor and family roles of men and women can be summarized as "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside"-on the one hand, men are required to participate more in social affairs, so as to obtain corresponding benefits and become the main source of income for families; On the other hand, while men are the "heads of the family" and "pillars", women are more responsible for family affairs and maintain the orderly operation within the family.

Therefore, in the past, the core requirement for men's social orientation and family orientation was "masculinity"-to be able to do things, dare to take things and be able to do things; Under such inertia, many men are used to suffering outside and then earning money to go home and enjoy the feeling of "male chauvinism".

But it's different now. "Male chauvinism" has become a derogatory term in the eyes of many people.

There is a popular "new good man standard" on the Internet-getting the hall and getting the kitchen; Can afford BMW and buildings; Wash diapers and brush old walls; Resist the temptation and coax your mother-in-law The most important thing is: celebrate Children's Day for your wife every year!

In addition, there is a new "three obedience and four virtues" for men-the wife should follow "obedience" when going out, the wife should follow "obedience" when giving orders, and the wife should follow "obedience" when making mistakes; A wife has to wait for her makeup, give up her money, endure her anger and remember her birthday.

Although these are all online jokes, it is inevitable that there are banter elements, but it can also reflect that with the development of society, the traditional mode of "I am responsible for earning money to support my family and you are responsible for beauty" is quietly changing.

Not only do women participate more in social activities, but men also begin to participate more actively in family affairs. More representatively, female elites in the workplace, rich women in business circles and female leaders in politics are becoming more and more common around. "One living room and one kitchen" has gradually become one of the standard configurations of "new good men", and even everyone understands and accepts "full-time nanny".

However, no matter how the times change, people are still given high expectations and requirements by social families, just like people often say "Be like a man" and "Just because you are a man".

So, my fellow men, what else is there to say? Come on!