Beijing custom: how do men and women choose their spouses and get engaged in Beijing?

The Jing people practice monogamy. The traditional marriages of all ethnic groups in Beijing are mostly intermarriage within their own ethnic groups, and rarely intermarry with neighboring Han and Zhuang ethnic groups. Generally speaking, it is not allowed to marry with the same surname, and it is also forbidden to marry close relatives. Any violation will be sanctioned by clan rules. Most marriages between young men and women are arranged by their parents, that is, "parents' orders, matchmakers' words." In order to meet the demand of labor force, some families either recruit husbands or buy child brides. Of course, there is also free love between men and women, because they often collectively "do the sea", especially on the grand traditional festival "Ha Festival", young men and women get together to enjoy themselves and reward each other, thus enhancing mutual understanding, establishing feelings and even falling in love. However, whether men and women love each other or not,

In the eyes of Jing people, engagement is a lifetime thing. Once a marriage is registered, it is generally not easy to go back on our word. So people are very cautious about engagement, and their manners are quite complicated. The general process is as follows: "Missing Life". Show the birthdays of men and women to the fortune teller to see if their lives match and they can get married. If it is consistent, it will leave the change of the woman for one year; If they don't match, the matchmaker will send them back to the woman's house. Set the color title. The time limit is three days and seven days to test women's signs of meditation on their ancestors. During this period, if something unpleasant happens at home, such as illness, livestock death or breaking dishes, it is considered unlucky and the year must be returned to the woman; If you are safe and you think you are lucky, you can get married with the acquiescence of your ancestors. Life is beautiful. After winning the prize, please ask the matchmaker to report to the woman's home to discuss the bride price. People usually discuss the prices of wine, rice, pork, chicken and beef. Then the man's family gives the bride price to the woman's family, thus confirming the marriage.

Obviously, the engagement of the Jing nationality and its process were influenced by the feudal marriage customs of the Han nationality. According to the way engagement spreads from person to person, it is an extremely simple and interesting way, that is, the blue ocean spreads songs with flowers.

As a bridge or protagonist, Lan Mei gave songs to men and women. If the color books sent by both parties are consistent, it is considered as fate, providence and combination; If you don't match, you will feel that your lives are out of place and you can't be together. This practice completely obeys the rule of the gods and believes in the arrangement of fate.