When life is difficult, men may be unreliable, but friendship lasts for a long time.

In July, I made a systematic review of myself.

At every stage of my life, I find that friends are too important. Many times, men may be unreliable, but their friendship is long-lasting. For men, women may be the same.

As a woman, I want to talk to you about the topic of friendship from my own point of view.

Affection is a natural blood relationship. Without choice and intimacy, there will be more expectations. The greater the expectations, the more disappointed they are.

On the other hand, friendship is different. Friends encourage you, support you and walk with you, but they have a sense of boundaries and are less involved in your life.

There are not many intimate friends in life, but we must have 3-5 intimate friends, who are our emotional pillars. I am very lucky. I have met many friends along the way, even if they are only a part of life, they really give and influence each other.

I admit that we will make friends, and we will really cross, such as robbing your boyfriend's best friend and leaving the relationship quickly at the bottom of life, but after the precipitation of time, we will always meet some sincere friends.

I will share some of my experience in making friends, sum up my experience and lessons, and give you some reference.

In the third grade, I made my first real friend, Kiki. After getting to know her, I found that we still have some distant relatives. My cousin (grandmother's) and she come from the same family. In this way, one month older than me and one year older, she became my cousin. Whenever we don't know how to explain our meeting, we unify our relationship: cousins.

Mr. Liu and Gigi are high school classmates. When I came to Shanghai, Gigi specially called Mr. Liu and asked him to take care of me. Although I came into contact with Mr. Liu because of an alumni gathering, because of this relationship, we trust each other and get along well.

The first time we chat, we always talk about people we know together. When I was in high school, I was with Gigi. I know everyone around her. She is a classmate of Miss Liu. )

When I failed in the senior high school entrance examination, Gigi wrote to me and encouraged me to study hard. She is waiting for me in No.1 Middle School. She also helped me inquire about the secret love of boys, which was clearly written in the letter and gave me more motivation. After the college entrance examination, she got good grades, went to Sichuan University, and sorted out all her high school notes and gave them to me.

After I failed in the postgraduate entrance examination, she lent me money for World War II, and my first job took me in.

In the early years, our relationship was not smooth, and we talked to each other, and no one disliked anyone. It was like this for a while.

I have written many articles based on her, all of which are very wise experiences. She changed her name because of her work. )

Gigi's biggest influence on me is the way she handles interpersonal relationships. Once I complained that my roommates had a bad relationship and everyone was not active. She asked me, "Why don't you take the initiative?" Why can't you try to be the glue of the relationship? "

She's been doing this. She is always warm, helpful, beautiful and has many suitors. Like the sun, she illuminates the people around her.

She has been my role model for many years. I want to be her, learn from her, study hard and treat others sincerely.

Later, I made a second female friend, Pearl Krabs, which was a great surprise to me. She had never had a good relationship with girls. Because of them, I slowly learned to get along with my female classmates and my popularity improved.

Pearl Krabs is my roommate and deskmate in senior one. We have dinner together every noon and evening. She doesn't belong to Xueba. She has a gentle personality and a particularly good temper.

Personality, we are very different, but I like her very much. Even though senior two and senior three are separated, whenever I appear at the door of their classroom, her classmates will take the initiative to remind her that your best friend is here.

Fortunately, we went to the same university, the same campus, and we had dinner together when we had nothing to do. When I was in college, my father lost money in business and the conditions were not good. In 2008, I remember very clearly that my father suddenly couldn't afford the tuition for my sophomore year, and I didn't apply for a student loan.

I called Pearl Krabs and she asked me where I was. She came to me at once, took me to the bank, took out her living expenses for half a year, collected enough tuition fees, and let me give it to the school first.

She told me, "It doesn't matter. If there is any difficulty, you still have me. Let's find a way together. "

Pearl Krabs didn't take the postgraduate entrance examination. She worked a year earlier than me and is also in our city. She is afraid that my life is not good. As soon as she has time, she will go to the company to wait for me and treat me to delicious food.

During my two years working in my hometown, Gigi and Pearl Krabs gave me a lot of help in the difficult period of my life.

Every time I go back to my hometown, apart from my family, they are my biggest stumbling block. Whenever I recall the past, I am glad to have them.

In high school, I also made some good friends, such as Xiaoxue and CoCo Lee.

Sorry to mention it. They all lent me money. Because of the situation at home, living expenses were not paid in time. Basically, I borrowed money from my friends to pay my tuition. After I saved enough money, I paid them back.

Later some of them bought houses and lent me money. I borrowed it without hesitation. They asked me, "Aren't you worried that I won't return it?" I said, "I admit it."

They joked that they were very valuable in my heart.

Actually, I really think so. They are worth my efforts. When I had nothing, they all accompanied me and tried their best to help me when my family changed. They said to me, "Xiaomi, I believe you are better than myself. I will definitely succeed in my career and get up."

Xiaoxue, a god student, reads novels in class, turns pens and occasionally skips classes. But she went to Tsinghua, and got a math test in the college entrance examination 147. She asked me, "Why should I be deducted 3 points?" I wish you would stop talking. )

For a long time, her home was my foothold. Volunteer for the college entrance examination, get together with college classmates, go back to the countryside without a car, and live in her house. Her parents treat me like their own children and often cook for us. I know almost all the Xiaoxue family and have been to her aunt's house and grandma's house. ......

Once, we went to the physics teacher's house to see how some experiments were done. At noon, I ate at Xiaoxue's house with my first boyfriend.

Xiaoxue's father is the vice president in charge of business in a local school. When my brother wanted to transfer to this school, he found some people, but he couldn't. Xiaoxue knows, I found it with her father, and the transfer was successful.

She got married in an instant and went back to write her love story and her textual research experience. She is a construction-related industry, and those certificates contain high gold content and are difficult to test. She basically passed the first time and learned everything quickly. Driving hard, too. A man drove home from other places and bought a manual gear.

CoCo Lee, my first good friend of the opposite sex, is also my first boyfriend's roommate, and a classmate in Grade Two and Grade Three. He often helps us deliver love letters.

He has strong social skills, and both boys and girls like him and become fathers. He is regarded as a social genius in our county. Now, I am not in my hometown, and I can't handle some things at home. I just asked him for help.

We know each other's "black history". After the college entrance examination, several of our good friends went to tell fortune together. People told CoCo Lee, "Don't fall in love in college, study hard, or you won't be admitted to graduate school."

As a result, in the first semester of college, he called me and said that he was in love and didn't go to graduate school, haha.

In Shanghai, I rent a house, plus the deposit, I have to pay 1 ten thousand. At that time, I had just fallen in love with Teacher Liu. I'm sorry I called CoCo Lee, and he called me quickly and said, "Is 65,438+00,000 enough? If it is not enough, I have it here. "

We have participated in each other's lives, not family, but family.

When I was in college, I had a very good relationship with my roommates. We study together, take exams together, sort out materials together, watch movies together, celebrate birthdays together and have dinner together.

I was lovelorn in college and kept crying. They comforted me. At that time, I was very strong and thought that I must have an event sponsorship. On Saturday and Sunday, my roommate Hui Hui accompanied me around.

Sometimes, the activities I take part in need the cooperation of other departments. Some of them work in the student union and will help me find someone in a department, and some even bother my boyfriend.

And my college classmate, Brother Zhong, born in 1990, is two years younger than me and goes to school earlier. Everyone calls him that. 183 handsome guy, there are few boys in our class, and he is a peerless beauty.

World War II also took the postgraduate entrance examination and was admitted. I went back to school late to review. He paid attention to the school advertisement and helped me rent a bed in the girls' dormitory. I have to talk to others to get a good price. It is estimated that people see him as handsome and want little money.

He is the most emotional handsome guy I have ever met. After three years of first love, they broke up and made up. In order to be together, they have made a lot of efforts and are now married.

After so many years, his pursuers can write more than n stories. He never has an affair with anyone, and I appreciate his way of doing things.

Many college students live together almost every day, and many of them are my nobles, which brought me up and limited me to write in other articles.

After work, I met many outstanding people, almost every boss, and many colleagues. During our work, we are very professional partners. After we left, we didn't have a common job, but it was easy to talk together.

Today's friends may not be as simple as when they were students, but their feelings are true, and it is easier to become good business partners if they are sincere.

I want to talk about Xia Sumu I met on 20 15. The only time she took the initiative, she left me a message and added friends in the background of WeChat official account. Unexpectedly, this is our biggest surprise.

At the beginning of 20 17, I just paid off the down payment for buying a house. I have something to do at home, and I need 65438+ million, which is not a small sum. Su Mo knew this and lent it to me without hesitation. Just like Pearl Krabs in those days, "Xiaomi, if it is not enough, let's find a way together."

I often talk to Su Mo on the phone for four hours and forget to have lunch. Both Mr. Liu and Mr. Feng were surprised. "Why can you all talk about a little thing with relish?"

When I registered the company at that time, I needed another shareholder. Mr. Liu has a job, and the company stipulates that there can be no other business outside.

I called Su Mo, and she agreed. She sent me an ID card directly and offered to supplement an agreement. The income of the company has nothing to do with her.

Su Mo, because of her family experience, has gone a long way in spiritual exploration and learned reiki and crystal healing. I didn't really believe this before, although I knew it was related to psychology.

But because she is my friend, trying to understand, she helped me see a lot of my emotions. As an inner child, I saw my own fears and fears, and I also saw myself. I felt a sense of unity of body and mind.

I joked that she became my spiritual mentor. When I am confused, ask me a few questions to guide me to understand.

Because we have been cooperating in writing class for almost three years, sometimes we disagree and make a few words, but we all dare, because we firmly believe that even if we don't cooperate, we won't dislike each other.

This is the sense of security, mutual trust, and it feels good.

For so many years, I have been working hard. There is another reason besides trying to prove myself. I don't want to always be a person in need. I also want to repay my friends, teachers and nobles.

I come from the countryside, and I have also suffered family changes. I just have a terrible job and career. For many years, I was short of money. They gave me help and support.

Once, my friend Qiqi said that for a while, she reflected that she was not worthy to be my friend. I had a successful career and gave her help, but she gave me nothing.

I told her it was not like that. I also learned a lot from her. Making friends is not so utilitarian. Our car was hit in the 4S decoration shop. As a lawyer, she took time off from work to help me deal with it.

When I published the book, I helped me revise the contract of the publishing house, which made the editor very big and talked about a good condition.

When I first started my business, the fees were very low. Being a legal adviser to our company helps to avoid many risks.

Along the way, some so-called friends also separated. I want to say that even in a utilitarian world, everyone longs for sincerity. If you want to get the sincerity of others, you also need to pay the sincerity.

Now, it is really easy for me to make friends, but I find that I regard others as friends and resources. Sometimes, invite you to dinner, let me think of a plan, or promote something. Either send you some local specialties and make a bigger request. If you don't agree, you will feel that you are not interesting enough.

So I began to take the initiative to push off many parties, take the initiative to pay the bill, and people who are not familiar with it will also push off.

I have experienced family changes. I climbed from the bottom. I've seen many things.

My principle is to be sincere to people at the beginning and talk about people according to things. Once I decide, I will not associate with them, or be polite on the surface.

When I was in college, I had a junior. At that time, I followed the teacher to do the project, and I was also the man of the hour in the school. I am very kind to her. As a result, in the first year, I failed in the postgraduate entrance examination, and people said goodbye to me because it was useless.

There are also some school girls, Beckham, who is studying PhD at Beijing Normal University, who learned that I didn't get into graduate school and encouraged me actively. "Sister Mi, I believe you. Don't be discouraged." I left school a month late and Beckham took me in.

This is just one of them, and there are others. I endorse the credit and introduce the resources, but the other party forgets when they run out.

I understand very well that the truth in everyone's eyes is different. You think it's a friend, but that's not how the other person defines it.

We must firmly believe that people who do things well are not fools, but they just didn't see them clearly at first. If they want to go far, they can't be smart. They always want to be small and broad, and don't want to pay. It's hard to go far if you succeed for a while.

Of course, we can't change the principle of making friends because of some unworthy people and treat others sincerely. There are also many sincere people who have done what they should and have nothing to regret.

I also know some people who fall in love with brains. As long as you have a boyfriend, you love him the most and don't go to dormitory parties. After breaking up, I suddenly found that I didn't have a friend to talk to.

At any time, we should have our own circle of friends, and no one can make you lose your independent social relationship.

There are so many words, I really can't tell my husband. You can't complain to my husband about how bad his house is. This will intensify contradictions and worsen feelings.

But good friends can. Su Mo and I have called N times to speak ill of Mr. Liu, but we all know that life will go on. Under emotions, people are inevitably irrational.

Sometimes, a sincere good friend will clean up love rat for you and help you get out of your heart.

A few of our entrepreneurial friends will also vomit and recruit people together, some colleagues who will make us bigger. I think colleagues are the same, and friends call us unscrupulous bosses.

This does not prevent everyone from working together.

How can people always be in a good mood? At this time, friends will give you good support.

I have many friends of the opposite sex, and their wives or girlfriends are very relieved of me, and some of them have become friends with me.

Since I got married, I seldom call friends of the opposite sex in the middle of the night. Even if you meet alone to talk about things, you make an appointment in a public place, cafe or office.

When they are still playing together late at night, their other half must be there. Also, close friends and family members mostly know each other, so we can know each other's situation and give support to what happens at home.

For example, some of my friends met the so-called love rat and were still together, so I reminded them to watch their money and not to get pregnant, and others just took it easy. After they broke up, I gave her a shoulder to lean on.

My friend's husband cheated me. After thinking about it, she decided to forgive and not divorce.

I choose to respect their choice and will not persuade them to break up. I can't interfere with other people's life topics and their growth.

I will not judge my friends morally, nor will I criticize anything. Anyone who knows me well knows that I cover up my mistakes. We don't know what each other has been through. Blaming the other party for not solving the problem will only make things worse.

None of us is perfect, and I also have many shortcomings. Only by seeing each other can we be more tolerant and better together.

Also, many difficulties in life depend on yourself. Friends are external forces. Without hard work, the problem still exists and cannot be solved.

Things will really get better when I change.

Write it at the end

Nowadays, more and more young people choose not to get married or to be a dink. Everyone plans to travel together and live in a nursing home together after retirement.

Emotion is a luxury, but it can't be satisfied. I am lucky, I met love, and my life is very long. I believe in my other half. But I don't know what will happen tomorrow or the accident.

Over the years, my friends have given me great strength. I am lucky and cherish it.

One more reminder, to be a better self, friends are also attracted to each other, and the way to make friends is to be awesome together.

Do you have any friends to go with? What experience do you have in getting along with friends? Welcome to share in the message area.