Why not be jealous of other people's good luck?

Everyone has many advantages. Never be jealous of successful people, but learn from their strengths and make up for their shortcomings.

The word "jealousy" comes from two poems in Qu Yuan's Lisao: "The world is beautiful, so it is beautiful and jealous." In the history of China, it is not uncommon for jealousy to lead to tragedy. Qu Yuan himself was jealous of the treacherous court official, refused the appointment of the bad king Chu Huaiwang, and finally died in tears.

Jealousy and jealousy are different. Envy a comfortable house, beautiful and generous clothes are not necessarily malicious. Napoleon said, "A soldier who doesn't want to be a marshal is not a good soldier!" "

Jealousy makes us not want to give someone the praise they deserve, for fear that others will get more praise;

Jealousy makes us prefer to say that someone has a good character than to recognize his talent;

Jealousy makes us lower our expectations of others and hate their good fortune.

Jealousy is more manifested in a negative way. Jealousy often leads to negative behaviors such as slander, resentment and slander. Jealousy is often associated with narrow-mindedness and lack of cultivation. A narrow-minded person will be jealous because of some trivial things, and anything that others are better than him has become the origin of his jealousy. People who lack self-cultivation will turn jealousy into negative jealousy behavior and seriously destroy interpersonal relationships.

As the saying goes, "No pains, no gains." When we see others enjoying fruitful results, have you ever thought about how much others have paid? Instead of being jealous of others, get up and try to realize your wishes.

Carnegie, a famous American writer, famously said, "Remember, you are unique in the world." He also said: "Your inner strength is unique, and only you know what you can do." This tells us: don't envy others. You have to believe in your own strength. The enhancement of self-confidence will eliminate your jealousy.

British philosopher Spinoza said: "Envy is a kind of hate, which makes people feel pain for the happiness of others and happy for the disasters of others."

Balzac also said: "A jealous person is more miserable than anyone else, and his own misfortune and the happiness of others make him extremely miserable. People who are jealous often start by hating others and end up hurting themselves. "

In real life, some people will be jealous. Seeing the success of others is not for their happiness, but for jealousy. On the contrary, when others are frustrated, they often gloat. Don't be jealous of other people's good luck. In many cases, a successful strategy is based on the success of the other party.

When we are jealous of others' good luck, why not change our mentality to thank them for their success? When we are worried about something, why not change our mentality and think about the solution?

Bertrand Russell is one of the most famous and influential thinkers in the 20th century. 1950 won the Nobel Prize in Literature. When talking about jealousy in the book The Philosophy of Happiness, he said: "Although jealousy is an evil and its function is terrible, it is not entirely a demon. Part of it is a heroic expression of pain. People grope blindly in the dark, perhaps towards a better home, perhaps just towards death and destruction. If a civilized person wants to get rid of this despair and look for that broad road, he must expand his mind like his expanded brain. He must learn to surpass himself, and in the process of surpassing himself, learn to be as carefree as everything in the universe. "

Since ancient times, there have always been some people who, seeing that others are more capable and smarter than him, are jealous and try their best to harm others by any means. Zhou Yu of the Three Kingdoms and Pang Juan of the Warring States are such people.

In the Three Kingdoms, Zhou Yu saw that Zhuge Liang was brilliant and surpassed himself everywhere, so he wanted to kill Zhuge Liang. He asked Zhuge Liang to sew 100 thousand arrows in three days on the grounds that the army lacked arrows. Who knows that Zhuge Liang readily promised and made a written pledge. Zhou Yu was secretly happy, thinking that Zhuge Liang could be eliminated. Zhuge Liang, a versatile man, used his profound knowledge to watch the stars at night and ride horses in the fog. He "borrowed" more than 100,000 arrows from Cao Ying and came back to me, thus defeating Zhou Yu's plot.

During the Warring States Period, Pang Juan and Sun Bin were classmates and became brothers, and they studied the art of war under Mr. Gui Guzi. We'll talk about it later. Both became officials in Wei, Pang Juan became a general and Sun Bin became a guest. Sun Bin is aboveboard and resourceful. And Pang Juan is jealous and sinister. He thought, "My grandchildren are more talented than me. If you don't get rid of it, you will be bullied in the future. " So he went into slander, killed Sun Bin, framed him for adultery with Qi, gouged out his kneecap, and was disabled for life. He also tried to trick him into writing Sun Tzu's Art of War, and then killed him. Later, Sun Bin learned the truth, pretended to be crazy and saved him, and was reused by the King of Qi. He led the Qi army to attack Wei and set an ambush in the battle of Maling. He sent someone to cut off the bark of a big tree and wrote the words "Pang Juan died under this tree". Pang Juan came to the big tree in the dark. Because he couldn't read the words on the tree clearly, he lit a flashlight to illuminate. Words haven't say that finish, qi has been an arrow. Wei Jun was separated in the chaos. Pang Juan knew that he could outwit Sun's stomach, and the battle had been lost. Had to commit suicide. Pang Juan was jealous of Sun Bin, but Sun Bin schemed to kill Pang Juan. Pang Juan is a coincidence. If you miss it, you will be killed.

Appreciate each other and be each other's ladders. Everyone has many advantages. Never be jealous of successful people, but learn from their strengths and make up for their shortcomings. Learn a little experience from every successful person, and you will achieve yourself. As an American famous saying goes, "If you don't believe in others' success, you will never succeed." Don't be jealous of others' success. When the opportunity comes, you should always be ready. You should find it in time, grasp it firmly and make full use of it.

The famous mathematician Hua is such a person. When I was a child, my arithmetic scores were poor and I often failed. He didn't envy excellent classmates, but often encouraged himself: others are human, so am I. I can do what others can do. So he studied why others did so well in the exam, learned from others' strengths to make up for his own shortcomings, and finally became a famous mathematician. What a valuable enterprising spirit!

Life is hard, good flowers don't bloom often, and good luck doesn't exist often. Don't complain about the unfairness of fate, don't envy the winner, and don't comfort yourself with the saying that fate is doomed and the wind and water turn around. Everything is in vain.

There are always people in this world who are more talented, richer and more beautiful than you. Enjoy what you have, don't envy what you don't have, so as to keep a happy mood. People live all their lives. You can't have everything. Instead of letting what you don't have tempt you and ruin your life, be content with a little happiness and peace that you already have.

-quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, "Being angry equals punishing yourself"