There is a saying in the countryside that "visitors don't serve three courses, but unfortunately nine people don't know". What does it mean?

There is a saying in the countryside that "visitors don't serve three courses, but unfortunately nine people don't know". What does it mean? In fact, this proverb is about hospitality. You can't put three dishes (vegetarian dishes and meat dishes) on the table to entertain guests. If you make a mistake, it may lead to embarrassment or even misunderstanding, but you still have to understand.

As for these three dishes, they have been handed down from ancient times. The sacrifices used to worship the dead are based on the number three, three dishes, three pairs of chopsticks, three bowls of rice, three wine glasses, three incense sticks and three red candles.

I didn't understand this when I was a child. When I see my mother putting these things at home to worship on holidays, I have to count them, even the paper money I want to burn. I said, why bother? Put more bowls of meat and rice, and my ancestors will eat more. My mother said no, everyone has to put that number; The sacrifices placed in front of the cemetery during the Qingming period are also based on three. Later, when I grew up, I realized that it was necessary to worship the deceased and it was a kind of respect for them.

In the past, when the family was poor and guests came, my parents would simply entertain them. Generally, they would buy pork and cook it, while my mother would cook two dishes, one of which was fried with stalks, the other with tender leaves, and two dishes were served on the table. If there are many people, they are still willing to kill a duck. A duck can cook two dishes (duck blood and duck meat), and then get some tofu or vegetables and fried peanuts, making a total of five or six dishes, which is enough to eat.

And if it's a holiday, my mother will bring some delicious buns and zongzi home, usually two or five or six, but not three or four numbers.

Later, when I grew up, I felt that what my mother did made sense. In the past, people were sensitive to some numbers and homophones, but "yes-men" and numbers 2 and 6 were more popular, and numbers 3 (homophonic dispersion) and 4 (homophonic death) were not pleasant to listen to, so people didn't need to entertain guests.

Therefore, of course, guests at home can't put three dishes, which gives people an unfriendly feeling, because three dishes are used to worship the deceased talents, and the number is homophonic, which means a little curse. Of course, guests are not happy; So either make two big dishes or five or six smaller ones.

In fact, with the improvement of people's living standards, guests at home usually cook more than five dishes, with several kinds of meat and vegetables, and they are afraid that a table full of them will not be finished. Therefore, the phenomenon of "three dishes are served by guests" should not exist. It is good to know such etiquette.

Many folk proverbs are popular in rural areas, including weather, farming activities, treating people and other cultural aspects. This is all summed up by farmers from practice for thousands of years and is the crystallization of farmers' wisdom.

But some slang is catchy, and people don't quite understand its meaning. They need to explain it, not only say it, but also understand its meaning.

No, there is a saying that "it's a pity that ten people don't know if they can't serve three dishes." Do you know what this means? It turns out that this proverb goes like this: "Without three dishes, six people are not eight seats."

When people come and go, whether they are treating guests or visiting guests, they always put on a banquet to show their enthusiasm. There are also exquisite dishes, always even. According to the number of visitors, we need 4, 8, 10, 12 and other dishes, which means yes-men, yes man. In other words, this is a good luck and a good lottery. But never serve three courses. Why?

In the past, people often engaged in sacrificial activities, and the people who sacrificed most were heaven and earth, that is, offering sacrifices to heaven and earth to worship their ancestors. When offering sacrifices, three dishes of vegetarian dishes should be placed. That is to say, the last three courses are used to sacrifice the dead.

Since the guests are here, you can also serve three dishes. Is it disrespectful to the guests, causing them to get angry and break up in discord? It is not cost-effective to say that the small ones have no feelings and the big ones turn against each other.

What about the six people who didn't sit in the turtle seat? It turns out that people used to pay attention to going out and sitting at the table. There are rules where the host sits, where the host and guest sit, where the second guest sits and where the guest sits. Don't mess around. A wise man knows who is the host and who is the guest at a glance.

Six people don't make turtle seats, that is, six people sit at the table together and can't sit symmetrically, two on the left, two on the right and one at each end. It is unlucky to sit like a turtle. Although the tortoise has a long life, it is really another name for the tortoise among the people. Tortoise is a swear word, often referring to a man wearing a cuckold. Not so good.

Friends, what other meaningful slang do you know? Write it down and share it with everyone.

Visitors don't set three courses, but unfortunately ten people don't know. This is saying that people treat people to serve food. There are many stresses and taboos in folk etiquette communication, even the host and guest sit at the same table. What I have heard since I was a child is that visitors can't serve three bowls of dishes, and six people don't sit in turtle seats. It means that when guests come, invite them to dinner. When serving food, you can't just have three bowls (dishes and plates). You should eat at a table for six people. Don't sit on a tortoise's cushion. What's the name of turtle seat? It is a turtle-shaped sitting. In the past, it used to be a square table with eight people. Now it is six people, two on the left, two on the right, one in front and one behind. This is considered bad, unlucky and should not be taboo.

Why don't you treat me to three bowls of food? There's a reason. These three empty fingers represent a lot of things. Here, the three are real three, which also represents the single, and the three represent the people of heaven and earth. There are usually three kinds of tributes to deities and buddhas. These three generations are many, three sacrifices, three fruits and so on. It is disrespectful for guests to use three deities and three dishes. Therefore, it is impossible to have only three kinds of guests, from two to more than five. There are folk sayings such as "no three no four" and "three ghosts and four gods", and "three four" is considered unlucky and disrespectful. There are three customs of worshipping God and four customs of worshipping ghosts. Therefore, there are three taboos and four taboos in treating guests. Of course, local customs are different, and there are different opinions. However, it is better to avoid three and four, which is forbidden. If tourists are too picky and superstitious, they will be dissatisfied and unhappy. If they are not fastidious, it is not a big problem, but it is best to pay attention to prevent unpleasantness, which also reflects people's experience, knowledge, courtesy and character. Sacrificing Buddha or vegetarian food is often singular, but it is auspicious for people to hold banquets and treat people to serve in pairs. Nowadays, young people lack traditional etiquette education, and many don't understand those taboos, which should be noted. Some taboos of etiquette should be paid attention to and should not be easily broken, especially in some formal and grand occasions. Generally eat a meal, eat more and eat less, so don't pay so much attention to more dishes and less vegetables. Don't waste, eat well, don't care about entanglement or three or four.

"Visitors don't set three courses", let me keep coming. Rural etiquette is profound and contains many rich etiquette. "Visitors don't set three courses", and the next sentence is even more exciting. Six people don't sit on the throne.

"Guests don't put three dishes", which means "three dishes" on earth, meaning heaven and earth, and it is also an auspicious number to respect God and Buddha. In ancient times, the condition of three dishes was low, which was an indispensable way to commemorate ancestors or the dead. Three dishes are used to worship ancestors, but it is a bit rude or impolite to entertain guests with three dishes, which is also a big taboo at the dinner table.

Let me talk about the second half. There are many manners in the countryside, but we should pay more attention to important events. It is not too much to know them. Don't joke. "Six people don't make turtle seats." If you visit your in-laws, don't do it. It's hard to say who is the tortoise. Don't do bad things with kindness. You don't pay attention at home. Don't offend people when guests come to the door. Network diagram.

The phrase "it's a pity that nine people don't know if a guest doesn't put three discs" is particularly popular in Shandong and Northeast China. In these places, there are basically no three-course meals, whether it is a family dinner or a restaurant.

First, the reasons for customs

It is disrespectful to entertain guests with two or three dishes.

There is a saying in the countryside that "it's a pity for ten people if a guest doesn't put three dishes", which means that you must never put three dishes when you invite someone to dinner. Why can't we set three courses?

This proverb involves the treatment of guests. Now, when you treat people in a restaurant, it's usually 10 for one table, and 10 for at least ten dishes, right? So banquets are usually 12 dishes, 14 dishes, and no more than 16 dishes. In short, the food is even.

No matter in ancient or modern times, three courses have never been served at a banquet. This is really not a problem for a few people, but the practice of offering three courses is to worship ancestors.

In the past, when offering sacrifices to ancestors, there were three vegetarian dishes and three incense sticks on the altar, which represented the worship of heaven, earth and ancestors.

In some places, when offering sacrifices to ancestors, five dishes are served-two meats and three vegetables, two meats are a piece of cooked pork and a piece of mutton. The three dishes are two plates of white tofu and one plate of boiled green beans, which means clear and white.

In most places, the sacrifice is three courses, that is to say, only three courses are served when offering sacrifices to the dead. Therefore, when entertaining guests, it is disrespectful to serve three courses, which will make them angry, break up in discord and even turn against each other.

To sum up, folk sacrifices remain unchanged. Generally, there are three dishes on the altar, at least six dishes are served at the banquet, and the dishes of 3, 4 and 5 are never served.

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China is an ancient civilization with profound traditional culture. Even in the interpersonal communication of daily life, we should not be careless in some dining etiquette.

Otherwise, it will not only make unnecessary jokes, but sometimes even produce some misunderstandings, which will cause the other party's disgust and directly affect their feelings.

There is a saying in the countryside that "it's a pity that ten people don't know if one guest doesn't set three courses". This is the way to invite people to dinner. Today, through this topic, I would like to say a few more words about the big events and small feelings at the dinner table, and welcome everyone to share their experiences.

For example, the chopsticks we use when eating have many taboos. When dining with others, some people will unconsciously poke with chopsticks when talking to others, which is very impolite behavior.

Others like to use chopsticks to turn vegetables, only picking their own fat ones, and the poor quality is inevitably boring.

Secondly, there are seating rules when eating. The seat in the middle is the main seat, which is generally the seat of a respected old man. Sit on both sides of the seat in order. Young people should sit in the outermost position to take care of serving and running back and forth. This is the minimum respect for the guests.

Also, when eating, if you talk to others with food in your mouth, your pronunciation is not clear, and it is easy to spill the soup. The scene is very embarrassing. There is also "the host does not invite, the guest does not taste", and you must not show gluttony when eating, which will lead to insufficient cultivation.

Of course, there are ladies eating, and smoking is not allowed. Moreover, in coastal areas, eating fish can't be said to be "turning over". Say "cross over" when turning to the other side, otherwise the fishermen will be very unhappy. After all, "capsizing" means that the fishing boat will sink, so just pay attention.

Next, let's focus on the rural proverb that "ten people don't know what a pity it is if a visitor doesn't put three discs."

In life, we will find that whether it is a wedding reception or a gathering of friends, the number of dishes on the table is generally increased by twice.

Generally, it can be 8 dishes, 10 dishes, 16 dishes, 18 dishes, and even 28 dishes in some places. It can be seen that people attach importance to the homonym of "8" and "Fa".

However, in some places, it is just the opposite. You can't serve eight courses, but "8" is taboo. The first reason is that the word "up and down" has a bad meaning.

Another saying is due to the postmortem language of "the dog goes to the table-picks up the big bowl". Because "steak" and "eight" are homophonic, guests are naturally uncomfortable when serving eight courses.

So, do you have anything to say about the last seven courses? Of course there is. As long as you pay a little attention, you will find that people never serve seven dishes at dinner, because the "comfort wine" after the funeral must have seven dishes.

Besides, in the traditional concept of China people, it is unlucky to be alone in pairs. As for inviting guests to dinner, it is even more taboo to serve only three courses.

It is said that in ancient times, prisoners on death row only ate three dishes before execution. That's "decapitated rice"! There is also a very important reason, that is, when offering sacrifices to ancestors, they are also irresponsible, and they are all singular anyway.

But now three or two friends have dinner together, and there are also some three dishes, basically one for each person. It is also a waste to order too much. In fact, no one cares too much now, just remember not to line up, it will be disrespectful to people.

Why? Because when offering sacrifices, three dishes are arranged in a row, just like burning incense and burning three incense. When three dishes are arranged in a row, people will feel that you are entertaining the dead. Can people not be angry?

It can be seen that the old saying in the countryside that "visitors don't put three dishes, ten people don't know it's a pity" is reasonable.

The rural proverb "ten people don't know what a pity it is if a visitor doesn't put three dishes" is actually the most common hospitality etiquette in rural areas. As we all know, farmers in China are the most honest and kind. Guests who come from afar will definitely serve the best food at home.

However, farmers in China are actually the most particular. When the guests sit at the table, which direction to sit in, there are several plates, cups and bowls on the table, all of which are fixed and disciplined, and can't mess around. One of the biggest rules is never to serve three courses, because "three" and "scattered" are homophonic, and three courses are not used to entertain the living, but to pay homage to the dead.

So where did this unlucky number "three" first come from? It is said that Liu, the sworn brother of Taoyuan Sanjie, lived and died together, and the word righteousness came first. In the end, all three brothers died, and later generations felt the loyalty of the brothers, and specially built ancestral temples to worship.

On the first and fifteenth day of the first lunar month, incense is served, because it is for three people, so no matter whether it is vegetables or bowls and chopsticks, there are three servings. Over time, people have formed such a custom that as long as it is a memorial ceremony, you can only put the number three. It started from paying homage to Liu, and later extended to paying homage to ancestors. Therefore, if a guest finds three dishes on the table, no matter how rich they are, they will immediately leave with their sleeves off.

Then, three dishes can't be set. How many dishes are suitable? Even numbers are good, even numbers are especially auspicious. Six dishes mean you are lucky, and eight dishes mean you are rich in all aspects. If you serve ten courses, it will be perfect.

But now there is a problem that young people in rural areas don't know what some old sayings mean. In addition, many young people in rural areas are busy for various reasons after getting angry alone, and guests come home and want to cook three dishes to cope. This situation also exists, but if the old man sees it, he will sigh. If the visitor doesn't put three dishes, it will be a pity that nine people don't know.

The implication is that today's young people don't understand any rules, and there are three courses to be served. This is not to urge the guests to die. Not only three dishes can't be served, but also four dishes can't be served, because the homonym of four words is dead. Therefore, it is necessary to add a soup to the four dishes and turn them into four dishes and one soup, which means that the stars hold the moon and are lucky.

But young people nowadays don't care so much, and time is tight. They can cook as many dishes as possible. Again, the rules are made by people. Since people did it, people can change it. With the development of society, many old rules have been changed.

Like the family in the city now, it is generally a family of three, and everyone's appetite is calculated when eating and serving. If you ignore seven or eight dishes, it will not only be easy to waste, but also consume the host's time. You know, the most precious thing for people in cities is time, time is life and time is money.

It's really not cost-effective to waste time on meaningless cooking and cooking. In the countryside, although the old rules are still there, many people don't mind. When guests from afar visit, the host is pressed for time. If three dishes are fried, a pot of wine is served, which is also unique and will not have any opinions on the number of dishes. The most important thing is that both sides are satisfied with their food and have a good talk.

There is a magic number in our traditional culture, which is this "three".

From the folk sayings, we can find a lot of "three": nothing more than three pillars, there must be my teacher to the sky kingdom, and things will change. Everything that means good, important and complete will have a "three". It can be said that the cultural status of "three" is very important. From the sacred worship in ancient times to today's daily life, I really can't imagine what state it would be without this number.