What are the customs of Huanggang natives?

1, visiting relatives and friends: "Six relatives, meet each other"; Three friends and four friends, walk from time to time. The traditional customs and habits of greeting relatives are regular and irregular. It regularly includes "sending three festivals (Spring Festival, Dragon Boat Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival)", "Farewell the old year" and "Happy New Year", taking newly-married women back to their parents' home for dinner and "Celebrating June", and sending married women winter shoes to their parents. Irregular visits include visits, greetings, farewell, congratulations, invitations, visits, visits to daughters and visits to parents' homes. The rule is, visit the sick early and never be late. Preferably before noon. Greetings are mainly for the elderly and elders. It is called "farewell" for the younger generation to go to relatives' homes when they are away from home. When you come back, bring a gift before you say hello. Relatives may prepare a "farewell dinner" or send money, and then prepare a "welcome dinner" for you when you return. Relatives and friends should bring gifts to congratulate them on their marriage, building houses and scientific research. The person who is congratulated will return gifts in the future to show his gratitude.

2, hospitality: welcome friends to see the situation. If it is rare to meet, come from afar and make an appointment, either at home or outside the door. If a friend has arrived home, he should hear the sound. When you visit during the Spring Festival, set off firecrackers to welcome you (and see your friends off). Go out to see you with enthusiasm and sincerity. When the guests arrived, the host watched and sat down, offering tea and cigarettes with both hands. Hongan treats tea with special respect. Every time a guest drinks dry, the host pours tea. The guests arrived and introduced them one by one. If the host is in a hurry, he must apologize in case the guests feel cold. Don't rummage through the things carried by the guests; Gifts should not be eaten by guests in front of their families. When the guests are sitting, the family should not quarrel, change their faces, make trouble by scolding, and try not to let the little girl cry. Be modest when entertaining guests. There are seats with the north as the top, some with the crossbar as the top, and some with the left side or the side against the wall as the top. When serving wine, guests come first. Guests don't eat, and the host misbehaves; The host won't finish the party until the guests stop. During the Spring Festival, there is a habit of "making soup" everywhere. The host entertained the guests with cakes, dried noodles, poached eggs and chicken. When a guest eats or sips soup, he puts it back. This is called "returning to the bowl". If you are a guest, you will dress neatly and generously and go to dinner on time. Don't peek into the host's inner room, don't overeat, don't turn over the dishes, and don't sit in the host's seat.

3. Gift instructions: red represents happiness, and black and white represent sadness. Wedding gifts are taboo, and funerals are taboo, except for the old bereavement (as the saying goes, the old bereavement is a white marriage). In the past, birthday gifts were not given money (money is synonymous with paper money for offering sacrifices to ghosts and gods) or bells (bells are homophonic with "final"), but now the rules have been broken. Generally, men and women don't send underwear to each other. Except for advanced supplements such as ginseng and bird's nest, drugs are generally not sent. When feeding pork, don't send male and female to grow pork. In aquatic products, bighead carp (commonly known as "fat head"), eel, catfish, tortoise, soft-shelled turtle, mullet and gorgon euryales (commonly known as "chicken head") are not sent because they are not beautiful. Fruit, tobacco, alcohol, drinks, clothes and handicrafts are also very popular in this town.

4. Common appellation: Family appellation includes general appellation, reverse appellation, pronoun, intimate appellation, derogatory appellation, family nickname and taboo appellation. Father, mother, uncle, uncle, aunt, brother, sister-in-law, brother, sister and younger sister are generic names; Calling "dad" means calling "mom", calling "mom" means calling "dad", calling "dad" means calling "uncle" means calling "dad". Calling a husband an outsider and a wife an outsider, the eldest son, the second son, the eldest son, the eldest son and the second son are all pronouns. Calling children "Mao Mao", "Baby", "Dear", "Sister" and "Baby" are all pet names. Disguised names include "Duoya", "Hate Ya", "Endure Brother", "Cat" and "Shit". Nicknames are "dead ghost", "my son", "my father", "my mother", "old man" and "mother-in-law". Generally speaking, most areas are taboo to call "aunt" or "wife". Some places have special names, such as Wuxue calling his wife "màmà" and Hongan calling his mother "da". Also, in most places, my name is Grandpa and Dad, and my name is Dad Ye, while Huangmei is the opposite. Huangzhou, Tuanfeng and other places are also called Ye Ayi. The appellation of relatives is similar to that in other places. Only in the northern mountainous areas, grandpa is called "Jia (gà) Gong", grandma is called "Jia (gà) Po", and in-laws are called qìng gā.

5. Appellations for relatives and people other than relatives include "old man", "you are old" and "your husband's family" for the elderly; Address readers as "sir", "teacher" and "xianggong"; Calling cadres "comrades" or "public officials" is also called official positions; Call craftsmen "master", "old master" and "master"; People who do business are called bosses, big bosses, small bosses and shopkeepers, and now they are called managers and waiters. Call each other's parents "your father" and "your mother"; Call each other's sister "your sister"; Call each other's daughter "Ai Ling"; Calling teachers' children "Shixiong" and "Shimei"; Also known as "Jenny", "Master", "Senior Brother" and "Senior Sister".

Second, the birth and birthday

1. Folk custom of praying for children: According to ancient customs, women in China often pray for their children's blessings by means of "touching autumn", "sending dragon balls" and "sending Kirin". Among them, touching the autumn is the most accustomed feature: on the Mid-Autumn Festival night, infertile women who have been married for many years clean themselves on an empty stomach, quietly enter the melon garden next door, touch the favorite object-wax gourd home, wipe off the fluff, hug wax gourd to sleep, wait for wax gourd to snuggle up, and get up and enter the kitchen to control the kitchen. The next day, I hinted to my neighbors, which made them scream. The more you scold, the happier you are. A man who loses his mind knows well, and scolds without hurting. If you happen to have a child, your husband's family will entertain you with wine. This custom used to be popular in some villages in Yingshan, Macheng and Luotian.

2. Birth nickname: it is commonly known as "happy" when a woman is pregnant; Eosinophils are "harmful to children"; Abdominal bulge "out of the chest"; Prenatal abdominal pain is called "occurrence"; Labor is called "labor"; After giving birth, he said, "The moon has fallen"; Users who do not appear in court in January say "save the moon" and "sit on the moon"; The first child is called "Xie Huai"; Call the parturient "big sister in the middle of the month"; First hand out "asking for salt"; Feet are first famous for "stepping on peanuts"; Put out your arm first and say "sit on peanuts"; When you fall to the ground, you don't cry. The male students are named "Nongzhang" and the female students are named "Doll" (or "De Xianggong" and "De Daughter"). The farmer's son said, "Cowherd"; The woman said "lose money". He Fujia gave birth to a son, called "Song Yue descended to God"; His own daughter said, "Priority is not beneficial. "In his later years, his son said," Old mussels produce pearls "."Washing the Three Dynasties "means" meeting of soup and cakes "(or" eating red eggs "). These are collectively referred to as "pregnancy" and "delivery".

3. Birth ceremony: In the old countryside, there were many ceremonies after the baby was born. One is to report good news. After the newborn came out, the father took a rooster to his parents' house to report the good news. Mother-in-law gives hens and brings back her husband's chickens (this custom is at the junction of Anhui and Henan). The second is to send wedding cakes. Along the Yangtze River, wedding cakes are sent and boys and girls are born. Relatives and neighbors always give gifts when they receive wedding cakes, especially parents-in-law. From rocking nests and strollers to clothes, hats, dried noodles, eggs, pork, brown sugar and glutinous rice. The third is to wash the three dynasties. On the third day of birth, I washed three dynasties. Steps: Wash the soaked wormwood first, and then roll the boiled eggs all over your body. The fourth is to shave the "hairy head". In January, boys and girls had their hair cut by a barber 18 days ago. Leave a pinch of hair on the top of the child's head, which is called "help (d m)", also known as "centenarian hair". The shaved hair was kneaded into a ball and given to the mother for safekeeping. The fifth is to do it for a month. In January, incense was burned to worship the ancestors, and well-off families held drinks to treat them. Some still want to "do nine dynasties" and "do one hundred days". The sixth is to make "patchwork clothes" and "long life circle". When the baby was still in its infancy, its mother visited relatives and friends and begged a piece of cloth and an egg from each family. Sewing "patchwork clothes" with pieces of cloth, and exchanging eggs for silver rings to make "long-lived collars", which means blessing.

4. Birthday when you are young: The domestic custom is generally to celebrate the old and the young together, and the birthdays of one year old and sixty years old are the most grand.

(1) Children will "grasp the week" when they are one year old. In the main room, wine was served, tables were tied to the altar, and brocade was placed in the hall to attend. Clothes, shoes and socks, whips, bows and arrows, Four Treasures of the Study, chess, calligraphy and painting, abacus knife ruler, precious toys, rouge gouache, onion (homophonic) fruit cakes and miscellaneous things are all displayed on the altar. After dressing up, the mother helped the child sit in a dustpan full of things, watching what he grabbed first and inferring his hobby in the future. I hope he can seize the book and weigh it first. The master often puts the book in the child's hand to weigh it. But whatever is caught, the audience will applaud. Drink wine for a year after "grasping the week"

(2) When children are ten years old, "ten years old" is popular. Several counties along the Yangtze River and Hong 'an and Macheng are particularly important, but there are no specific ceremonies. Generally, reception agreements are also invited, and gifts from parents, relatives and friends are also rich. Today, only on-demand TV songs are used to celebrate. Parents also express their opinions on their children's usual birthdays. Usually cut some meat, kill a chicken, cook two dishes, or make eggs and dried noodles for children. Children who violate the rules on their birthdays can be exempted from beating and scolding.

5. Birthday celebration for the elderly: People celebrate their birthdays at the age of 50, commonly known as "birthday celebration". After the first birthday, there will be a "small birthday" every Friday and a "big birthday" on the tenth. When parents are alive, they don't celebrate birthdays, even if they are "well dressed" or "old and thin". There are couples who are 60 years old in the same month of the same year, and their elders have made an exception for "double birthdays". This kind of etiquette is particularly grand. Some people are afraid that relatives and friends will spend money, so they propose not to celebrate their birthdays in advance, but to go to relatives and friends' homes the day before. This is called "avoiding longevity".

The birthday worship ceremony is to lay felt strips in the hall (if there is no felt strip, it will be replaced by a manuscript) and set up a incense table. "Shouxing" led a small family to worship their ancestors and sat high in the middle hall to accept the worship of the younger generation. After the worship, distribute birthday cakes and noodles to family, relatives and friends.

Third, weddings and funerals.

1, Old-fashioned Marriage: Before the liberation of China, men and women in rural areas were engaged and married early, and they paid attention to the right match. Marriage is mostly the fate of parents and the words of matchmakers. Most marriages are arranged marriages, and child brides, consanguineous marriages (cousin marriages) and buying and selling marriages are also common. After the founding of the Republic, the marriage law was implemented and the customs were changed. Illegal marriage was banned and the old form of marriage was changed. In the past, wedding etiquette was complicated and old-fashioned. When engaged, the central media first agreed. The man invited the matchmaker to the woman's house to "ask her name" and get the consent of her parents to get married. Then "change it to paste." The birth year of men and women and the monthly report of the fortune teller are matched and sent to the woman's home. The man brought gifts to the woman's house, and the woman prepared a banquet to "send off" her son-in-law. In some places, there is a trend of "pan son-in-law" for aunts. Finally, choose the wedding date, put the "date" in the Cambodian box, bring money and things, and send them to the woman's home. In marriage, there are many stereotypes, one is crying. Married women have been crying since they accepted "Tian", expressing their pity for themselves and their loved ones and demanding a dowry. I cried to my relatives and friends half a day before the wedding. Cryers often send "red envelopes" to express their feelings. The second is to move the dowry. On the wedding day, the man asked someone to carry it, and the groom went, and all the tools he carried were hung red. The woman's house bought a bartender and closed the "profit market" (tip). Most people's dowry is household appliances and clothes and quilts. The rich woman's "Quanfu dowry" is full of gold, silver, jewels, Shan Ye, farmhouses and shops. When moving, the son-in-law knelt in front of his mother-in-law and asked for the key. To male families. Open the cupboard and "pick the box" to show off the new sewing skills, which makes people evaluate. The third is to get married. Before the Republic of China, the bride was married in a sedan chair, which was divided into two types: small sedan chair and big sedan chair. The sedan chair is carried by two people, with lanterns hanging at the four corners, curtains hanging around it, mirrors hanging on the eyebrows of the sedan chair, and the word "hi" affixed to it, which is intended to ward off evil spirits. The sedan chair is carried by four people. The curtain is luxuriously decorated and surrounded by dragons and phoenixes. The front row is ceremonial, followed by strings, gongs and drums, horns and suona. When the bus arrived, the woman closed the door and both sides put whips through the door. The man sent enough "door-to-door gifts" and sprinkled enough "bride price money" before the woman opened the door to pick up the car. After "opening the face" (plucking hair from the face), making up, "resigning one's ancestors" and "resigning one's relatives", the woman was carried on the sedan chair, and the bridesmaids followed with the drums and music. Male families greet the village head with lanterns and firecrackers. A ceremony of "returning to the horse" was held at the gate. The groom untied the sedan chair and the bride was helped out by the "mother" (two women). Visit the church and drink the wine of perfection. Relatives and neighbors who came to congratulate the wedding had a "wedding banquet". Most places have the custom of "disturbing the new house" after drinking.

The next morning, a "See you in class" ceremony was held. The room is covered with red carpets and manuscripts. It seems that the bride has gone to visit relatives and friends. One by one, worshippers got "lucky money". On the third morning, the groom went to the kitchen to touch the spoon and bowl cover, and went to his uncle's kitchen to have a look. It was a day of "participation in the kitchen". In the morning, accompanied by her husband, she returned to the door (to visit her parents). Return the same day. It is customary to think that a new house cannot be empty. On the full moon, bring gifts and go back to your aunt's house to visit your parents.

2. New-style wedding: Since the implementation of the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China, the marriage customs have been changed and simplified. Generally, the introducer will arrange meetings and blind dates, and after both parties agree, they will take photos and give gifts to each other. Then go to the door to meet the parents of both sides, and the man gives the woman a "meeting ceremony". The wedding date is agreed by both men and women, and the ceremony cannot be the same. After marriage registration, we decided to take New Year's Day, March 8th, May 1 day, May 4th, National Day and other dates (commonly known as "old days"). When you get married, you rent a tractor and rarely take a sedan chair. There is no memorial service at the wedding, and the officiating person (leading cadre) speaks words of encouragement, the couple introduces love stories, and then spreads cigarettes and sweets. It is also possible for a new house or bride to make trouble, but it is not too much. There are collective weddings hosted by the Communist Youth League and the Women's Federation in the town. Tourism marriage was once popular, and banquets were often included in hotels. "Dowry" is provided by both men and women. "Forty-nine legs" was popularized in the 1970s, and "four modernizations of electrical appliances" and modular furniture were popularized in the 1980s. Etiquette such as matching eight characters, sending Geng stickers, drinking the right cup, crying for marriage, crying for sedan chair, returning to sedan chair, and cooking are gone. It is more affordable to recognize relatives, pass by, send festivals, greet people, prepare for marriage, send bride price, hold a wedding banquet and see you in class.