A 33-year-old male doctor is dating an older woman and asks why the engagement was decisively hacked.

Chen Xiaojing, a talk show actress, did not perform satisfactorily at the talk show conference, but some of her jokes left a deep impression on me.

As one of the few high-profile actors in the legendary swordsman, Chen Xiaojing often tells some jokes about love. Once when it comes to parents urging marriage, she said:

"In the past two years, I have been under great pressure. My family has been urging me to marry a rich man. I said don't talk to me. You have to persuade the rich, I am willing! "

I couldn't help laughing after listening.

0 1. There are cognitive differences between men and women in the face of feelings.

In real life, there are often such scenes. When parents urge us to get married, they will say, "Don't choose again, find a similar one." .

In fact, we are also willing to marry a similar man, but the problem is that what our parents see is similar, similar to what we see, but much worse.

Besides, marriage is a matter for two people. Often you think he is a person who can almost get married, but he thinks you are not.

Cognitive difference is a big problem.

There will be huge cognitive differences not only between us and our parents but also between us and men.

Take "almost" as an example, there is also a world of difference between "almost" in men's eyes and "almost" in women's eyes.

02. Women need more time to think about feelings and marriage.

A man's blind date must first weigh the woman's various hard conditions, and then look at the girl's personality and appearance. If everything is ok, he thinks it is almost enough.

But girls are not like this. The man's education, work, income, family background and other hard conditions are all qualified, which only shows that the man has a ticket and there are many assessment criteria left.

There are also great cognitive differences between men and women about the time of blind date communication.

According to the research of foreign psychologists, it usually takes only one or two weeks for men to determine their minds when they are in contact.

But women often need more time to think about feelings and marriage.

Therefore, it often happens that men feel that they can almost enter marriage, and women are still in the assessment stage.

03. Older women meet male doctors on blind date.

My friend Xiao Fei (a pseudonym) is 30 years old and still unmarried. Her parents are worried about her future and often arrange for her to go on blind dates.

Xiao Fei doesn't resist marriage, she can accept blind date to find a partner. As soon as she meets, she will sit down and chat together. When you meet someone you don't like, just perfunctory words, take a bag and leave.

Not long ago, Xiao Fei met a 33-year-old doctor through a blind date. The other party is a little short of money, and all other aspects are in line with Xiao Fei's mate selection criteria.

Xiao Fei also knows that a man like the other person is a real "potential stock", so she takes this blind date very seriously.

After two months of communication, both sides are very satisfied. Xiao Fei thinks that although the other person is "straight", he is very simple, and no one is as "greasy" as middle-aged people.

She wants to spend more time with each other to see if they are honest and emotionally stable, and then go to her hometown in the countryside to see his growing environment.

If all this can satisfy her, she can almost consider getting married.

04. The male doctor who dated for two months asked for engagement.

However, a blind date with a male doctor caused great resentment in Xiao Fei.

It turned out that the blind date felt that after two months of getting along, both sides knew about it. He sent an introducer to the door to urge Xiao Fei's parents to settle their marriage as soon as possible.

At that time, Xiao Fei was also present.

The introducer praised the man first, and then began to suppress Xiao Fei, saying that Xiao Fei was lucky to meet such a nice person at his age.

The introducer also said that the man is very popular, so you should do it quickly, or there will be no shop after this village.

Xiao Fei was bored after hearing this. She wants to ask a blind date out to make it clear. He wants to introduce someone. Why can't he come forward?

05. The male doctor's words annoyed the female.

Later, Xiao Fei sent a message to the blind date. Considering that the blind date was not good at words, he was in a panic and didn't want to wait until we met.

Who knows that the words of the blind date also made her angry.

Blind date men usually don't talk much when they meet, but online chat is one set after another. He first expressed his approval for Xiao Fei, and then admitted that the other party was not young, and getting married was a top priority.

The blind date man also said that the two sides have been in contact for two months, and there is no opinion or contradiction between them. It is better to fix the marriage first, so that both parents can feel at ease.

Most importantly, after the marriage is confirmed, he can devote himself to his work.

Xiao Fei was very unhappy when he saw that he started talking about his age and then put pressure on his parents.

The blind date's later words made her feel that the other party only regarded marriage as a task, not a natural feeling.

I have only known each other for two months. Is it appropriate to get married right away?

Xiao Fei held her breath and asked, "We have only known each other for two months, and we haven't fully understood each other. Our emotional foundation is very weak. Is it appropriate to enter marriage immediately? "

Blind date men believe that any marriage needs running-in. Even those couples who have been in love for many years need to adapt and run in with each other after entering marriage.

In this case, since we are both so old, why don't we get married first, then slowly get used to it and cultivate our feelings.

Moreover, with the constraints of marriage, even if there are some small frictions in the running-in, there will be concerns and no impulse to break up.

The words of the blind date man made Xiao Fei even angrier. According to the other side, he can marry any woman as long as the conditions are right.

Xiao Fei refused the blind date's request. She can't accept such a hasty marriage and feels that the blind date doesn't respect marriage.

07. The male doctor was hacked decisively.

After the blind date man was rejected, some became angry and said, "We are all adults, can we stop being so melodramatic?"

Xiao Fei thinks that Tao is different, and there is no common goal, no common goal. Since each other's views on marriage and love are different, entanglement will not have a good end. She hacked each other decisively.

Xiao Fei was scolded by her parents for her failed blind date for a long time, but she always felt that she had done nothing wrong.

In fact, I think the idea of dating a male doctor represents the thinking of a large part of men in blind date, but this idea is too rational and purposeful, which makes people very uncomfortable.

I really need to be cautious about marriage, so I don't think Xiao Fei did anything wrong.

The key problem still lies in the cognitive differences between men and women on blind date.

However, there is a sentence in Dr. Male Blind Date that is quite reasonable. "Any marriage needs to be run-in."

Indeed, there are no 100% right people in this world, and most of them gradually enter the right people from "almost".

There is a saying: marriage is not a puzzle, everything is ready, only to meet; Marriage is cutting jade, just to carve the best appearance of two people.

I hope you can also meet a "similar" person, and then in the quiet years, slowly meet each other's unique.