Do you want to be popular? Let's try cold mind reading, the life application and teaching of cold mind reading.

What is the mood of a person facing the window? Lonely or lonely, alone, have you mastered the skills of getting along with others?

The scenery outside the window is your world. Open the window gently, let the breeze blow your skin, and go out to face all kinds of life.

Over time, you will have more and more interpersonal relationships, but will you feel tired and can't guess what the other person is thinking? Maybe you think you can't understand cold mind-reading or you think you can't, but in fact, cold mind-reading is around you, just like the air around you.

1 cup skills

In love, it is very difficult to correctly grasp each other's sense of distance when you and your partner are in an ambiguous stage. The most terrible thing is that you feel that the relationship between the two is already very good and should be pulled into the next stage. But the other party doesn't think so at all. In other words, there is a subtle gap between two people's sense of distance.

Let's have a drink with each other sometime. Chatting for a while, pretending to inadvertently move your cup closer to the other person's cup. If the other person doesn't move the cup, it can be said that the sense of distance between two people is shortened. If the other person takes the cup away, it means that he thinks the two of them should keep the status quo and have no further plans.

The distance between two people can be measured by the distance between cups.

This little trick can make you take the initiative easily and plan what to do next, but it doesn't rule out that some people naturally stay or don't pay attention to your little moves.

2 skills of looking in the mirror

On the occasion of business conversation when we first meet, we must be very alert to each other and it is difficult to talk harmoniously. At this point, use the

The skill of "looking in the mirror" can naturally create an atmosphere of harmonious conversation.

It's simple, just imitate each other's movements casually-that's all.

For example, two people sit face to face. If the other person picks up the coffee cup with his right hand, you pick up yourself with your left hand.

Cup. That is, from the other side, my wife's actions seem to be reflected in the mirror. But don't let the other person notice you.

Imitate him, just let the other person's subconscious feel it.

Because it is unnatural to imitate each other's actions at the same time, it is best to imitate them later. So,

Even if the other person's consciousness doesn't realize it, the subconscious will involuntarily start to feel close and comfortable with you.

When two people's body movements have the same wavelength, their hearts will naturally resonate.

Even if you don't know this skill, a congenial partner will subconsciously do the same thing. In other words, sculpture

Meaning each other to make the same action, will naturally emerge a sense of closeness.

Cold mind reading is very helpful for a quick and harmonious conversation when we meet for the first time. You may be nervous, but this skill will not work well in the next 100 trials. You just have to do it carefully.

3 look at personality from the outside.

In order to see through each other's personality, cold reading often adopts a method, that is, observing each other's teeth when speaking.

When speaking, the upper row of teeth is obviously visible, and the lower row of teeth is almost invisible. Is a good giver, no matter what.

Whether mentally or materially, any effort will make him feel happy. Although good at giving, but not good at receiving.

Therefore, even if others express their love to him, he will feel: "Someone will really fall in love with someone like me."

Really? "

On the other hand, the teeth in the lower row are obviously visible, and the teeth in the upper row are almost invisible, so they are acceptable people. although

But he is not good at expressing himself, but he is good at reading words and observing emotions.

A person whose upper and lower teeth are evenly visible can be said to be a person who can keep a balance between giving and receiving.

Although the richness of expression will affect the visual way of teeth, as long as we observe according to the above skills, it can still be accurate.

Really guess each other's personality.

It's easy to see through each other's personality from the outside. Language can be practiced through nurture, but action habits can't be changed overnight. So this technology is very practical.

4 Conversation strategy that will never be rejected-the secret of "double bondage"

The "double restraint" conversation strategy is a skill that does not give the other party a chance to say "no".

When someone asks you for help, what should you consider first? Yes or no, right?

If so, listen to the other party to further explain the details; If not, think about what reason to use.

Refuse to be gorgeous. For example, after receiving a sales call, probably few people will want to know what Fengfang is selling. Usually listen continuously.

I don't even want to hear it. I just want to refuse as soon as I receive it.

Fang's heart has decided "no", no matter how hard he tries, it is hard to change his mind.

Fang's reason is useless.

"Can I date you?"

"No, I'm busy today."

"How about having a cup of tea together?"

"I really don't have time."

"When are you free?"

I don't know.

An invitation like this gives the other person a chance to have a "no" in his heart, that is, to let his thoughts in.

Enter the mode of how to refuse.

So it is very important to block the initial "no" reaction.

How can I block "no"? It's very simple, just use the saying that you can't answer "no", such as "

Dialogue of "double bondage"

"Shall we have dinner or tea?"

"But I'm not available."

"Then go and have tea."

"Well, a cup of tea will be fine."

Yes Can I date you? This sentence can say "no", but it is right. "Shall we have dinner or tea?"

The answer to "no" in this sentence is obviously a grammatical error.

Q: "Which is better?" But answering "no" is a bit irrelevant, so that the other person's mind will not be out.

Now, the idea of "no" will be slightly relaxed, and it is easy to have the idea of "Oh, just have a cup of tea and you can come back in 20 minutes by phone".

This is also a skill of ingenious rules, a skill of inducing psychological changes in an extremely fine way.

Tips to help work and love. Double binding skills that you can easily use.

As long as you know a little about the skills of double binding, you can communicate smoothly. At least it will not be suppressed by the other party, but it can calmly make judgments and reactions.

The key point of double binding is simply "not asking the other party", because as long as there is a pleading meaning, it may immediately cause a "no" reaction. Of course, this also requires the skill of clever rules.

Dating artifact, but some people directly answer "I don't have time." I don't want to have anything to do with you directly, so give up. To say the least, this is not just a date. This technique is also very practical in daily life.

5-band reverse direction

Just say "get married"

Suppose you have been dating your lover for a while and think it's time to get married. I want to marry her in my heart, but

I'm afraid the other party has no will. Maybe the word "marriage" makes the whole atmosphere cool, so it's always late.

No time to talk.

At this point, you can use the following techniques:

"Hey, you say, what should the ideal husband and wife be like? 」

The point of this sentence is that without the word "marriage", the other party naturally has no room for refutation.

Using the word "marriage" will inevitably make the other party feel as if they are forced to perform their obligations, but "husband and wife" is this.

A word doesn't mean that. Therefore, the other party will not refuse, but will answer you.

If the other person doesn't want to get married, he may answer, "I haven't decided yet." 」

At this point, all you have to do is say, "Yes, it's still early. 」

You will be safe.

If the other person has the will to get married and may talk about the ideal husband and wife image, then you say, "Should we not get married?" Will not be refuted.

A sharp weapon to propose marriage, take retreat as progress. Friends who dare not say that they are married must try this. Maybe it will help your relationship.

Well, I won't list them one by one. Finally, I'll teach you a little trick. Learn the Banan effect first.

Maybe many people who have heard of cold reading, or when someone tells you about cold reading, will think that what cold reading said is wonderful. However, if you use your friends for cold reading, you will know that the essence of cold reading is Banan effect. As for other skills, the author just wrote some common skills of other psychological skills into the book. Cold reading is actually a skill used to enhance mutual relations in communication. So when you study cold reading? I hope you can learn the Banan effect first.

The following is the Banan effect

Barnum effect: a psychological concept. If there is a description of personality traits, and this description is vague, positive and can be used to describe everyone, then everyone will think that it is describing their own personality. Mainly used for divination, astrology and criminal investigation.

1949, psychologist BertarnForer made an experiment. He called a group of students and asked them to do a personality diagnosis test. A few days later, he handed the diagnosis report to the students, and then counted the students' evaluation of the effectiveness of the diagnosis result-"How much do you think the report said?" The total score is five, and the average score of students is 4.3. That is to say, the students think that the accuracy of the diagnosis report is 86%, and 4 1% of them even rated it as "this report completely conforms to my personality". This test is really amazing! "

In fact, Ford's diagnosis report to students is exactly the same, which is composed of several sentences selected from the articles in fortune-telling magazines bought in small shops in the station. Ford's real purpose is to prove that "people's self-evaluation is unreliable". Why are students deceived? That's because Ford said, "This report is your test result". When students hear "this is a report for you only", they are psychologically involved in this situation, but they can't do it. "Is this thing suitable for anyone?" Objective judgment.

Professor Banan's Personality Diagnostic Test

Are you-

Sometimes there are quite unrealistic expectations.

Sometimes I am outgoing, sociable and get along well with others, and sometimes I am introverted, cautious and withdrawn.

You know from your past life experience that it is unwise to express yourself too frankly.

I think I have my own ideas and won't believe what others say without foundation.

I like a certain degree of change and freedom, but I also have troubles and anxiety inside.

Had sexual dissatisfaction.

Yes, there are some shortcomings in personality, but on the whole, they can be made up.

The untapped talent lurking inside.

Where you are too strict with yourself.

I hope to be liked and have a strong desire to be recognized.

How many did you match?

The same is true of constellations. Use vague personality words that most people have, or use antonyms that appear in pairs. For antonyms, most people will have one aspect. When the opposite happens, people tend to ignore the "wrong" evaluation.

When you see the readers here, please recall that psychology is really so unfathomable. In my opinion, psychology is an art. When you touch it, you will find it beside you.

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