My 86-year-old grandfather advised my 39-year-old single granddaughter not to have children, which was unexpected. what do you think?

I think so too. Nowadays, many young people will go far away if they have the ability to work. They go to work far from home. Their daily communication with their parents is limited to mobile phones, and the number of times they go home each year is limited. For these children, they may be filial, but their parents are still empty, so I think many children can't be relied on by their parents.

First, children will have their own lives when they grow up. When giving birth to a child, many parents will put all their expectations on the child. They will do their best to let their children study hard, get into a good university and have a good future. Parents are selfless because they don't want to be a burden to their children. For children, children will be particularly dependent on their parents, but when they grow up, they will have their own lives and can't always be with their parents. After children go to work, they gradually have their own lives and feel alienated from their parents. They will feel that they live in different times and have different final ideas. They are unwilling to share the joys and sorrows of life with their parents, and even some children have little chance to communicate with their parents every year. So I think what the 86-year-old grandfather said is very reasonable. You are not sure about your child's future life path, and you are not sure whether your child can take care of your life in the future.

Second, relying on yourself is the most realistic. I always feel that it is useless to rely on anyone, because when another person suddenly gets cold and doesn't want to be nice to you, you will be helpless. Of all the dependencies, self-reliance is the truest one. What children can do is to take care of their parents when they are sick, and give them some money on time every month after their parents lose their ability to work, so that they can live a more wonderful life, but all this must be based on their own economic ability. If the child grows up and still has no economic foundation in the future, then parents will continue to contribute to this child. Parents may feel hard to take care of their children, but they never care about gains and losses, but when children grow up, they may feel that their parents will be their own burden in the future.

I am a child who goes out to work all the year round. For my parents, they seldom see me every year. All I can do is give them more money every month to enjoy a better life, but I know this is not what my parents really want. So I really think what this grandfather said is very reasonable. Now many children can't accompany their parents when they grow up.