After the only trip to the world for two people, I divorced decisively.

Author |? Nana's double happiness wing student

Coordinates |? Changsha, Hunan

1? I thought I found a reliable man.

"What was the happiest trip you had with your family?"

This question of my friend opened the curtain of my memories.

I am a person who lives in the present, and I don't like recalling the past very much.

However, this question took me back to the past along the long line of time.

When I was a child, I never traveled.

Mom and dad are very busy at work, and the only trip I remember most clearly is when I was in the fifth grade of primary school. I won the title of story king in the county, and the organizing Committee arranged for the winners to go to Hengshan, Hunan.

However, considering that my father was having a meeting in Changsha at that time, my mother promised to wait for my fifth grade graduation and take my brother and grandfather to Changsha to find my father.

Then, our family of five went to Hengshan Mountain in Nanyue.

Because it is too small, only some pictures are left on this trip.

For example, I want to eat a popsicle, but my mother says it's not clean. My grandfather secretly bought one for me in the back.

For example, Hengshan Mountain in Nanyue, we walked for a long time, but we just couldn't get around it. My mother is very wordy.

Later, I had a stomachache. My mother reflected that she must have made a god herself, apologized quickly, and miraculously stopped the pain.

In addition, Hengshan Mountain is very big and difficult to climb. On both sides of the stairs in the worse gate, there are beggars. The scene was spectacular, and I was scared.

This is my only memory of playing with my parents when I was a child.

The second real trip will be the summer vacation before the postgraduate entrance examination.

At that time, my ex-husband and I fell in love.

We started from Changsha to Wuhan, and then went to Tianzhu Mountain in Anhui with friends from Wuhan.

It was a relaxing trip, and my ex-husband's words laid the foundation for my decision to marry him.

We stayed at his friend's house in Wuhan that night. They all sleep in the living room and I sleep in the bedroom.

The two of them are chatting. A friend asked her boyfriend, "What would you do if Nana didn't get into graduate school?" ? She is not from Changsha. "

In the mid-1990s, hukou was a magical thing that kept many young people from being together.

My boyfriend said, "Then I'll rent a facade and let her do some small business. Life can still be lived. "

I never thought about doing small business, but my boyfriend's unpretentious answer was very reassuring.

At that time, I was glad to find a trustworthy and reliable man.

Of course, I didn't expect that it was his complacency that became the root cause of our differences later.

At that time, there was a temple on the mountain. There was an old monk in the temple who knew divination.

I also drew a lot at that time, and I vaguely remembered what he said.

I am a woman who is easy to listen to others. If I want to live a stable life, I have to make no friends with anyone, so I just have to follow my husband honestly.

I was particularly puzzled at that time.

Now that I think about it, the old monk should have seen that I was lively by nature and had a restless and hard-working heart, so he gave me advice.

As it happens, I like fortune telling, but I belong to the kind of person who listens well and forgets the bad.

So, I remember this scene, but I didn't let this sign decide my life.

Just, at that time, I didn't know who I was, what I wanted, and how to be happy.

2? Only two people travel around the world.

After graduating from master's degree, I went to Xinzhou, Shanxi for military training for three months, laying a good professional foundation.

Actually, strictly speaking, this trip is not a trip, but a training.

An outdoor military training activity showed me the western regions in autumn:

Large tracts of sunflowers;

Every household has a mountain of corn;

Rows of earth holes are built on the hillside;

The plants on the mountain have four distinct seasons from bottom to top. ......

Very memorable.

On the same day, Wu of our brigade set out from the base and wandered around the village all the time, only to find some over the mountains.

At 7 o'clock in the evening, as night fell, we got lost in the mountains. Several friends climbed a hill and jumped with excitement when they saw the iconic tree on the hillside of the training base.

At that time, there were a lot of hardships and tiredness. Now, in retrospect, it's really sweet as honey, full of emotion and emotion.

Thank you for that hard journey, which sharpened my will and mind and made me strong and not give up easily.

Then, I entered the marriage step by step and gave birth to a child.

Now that I think about it, I can't find happy memories of traveling with my ex-husband.

Only a few times, it was an army trip, women took care of children, and men drank and played cards. The only difference is to do these things in another place.

I'm tired of this travel mode, and I gradually fade out of the so-called family gathering trip, feeling that I have lost the meaning of traveling.

In the summer vacation of 2009, I had initially decided to divorce my ex-husband, but I hesitated, wondering if my decision was a mistake.

They all say to see if the other person is suitable, so go on a trip.

So my ex-husband and I decided to leave our daughter at home and drive to Guilin by ourselves.

This is also our only trip alone.

I made careful planning in advance, including various means of transportation, the connection between scenic spots and scenic spots, how to reach the Lijiang River ferry by raft instead of cruise ship, and so on.

Everything is going well. The scenery in Guangxi is the best in the world, and the Lijiang River is really picturesque.

After getting off the raft, my ex-husband helped me tie the loose shoelaces. The ferryman said to me enviously, "Girl, you have found a good man!" " "

At that moment, I felt that things had turned around and maybe we could start over.

On the night of West Street, major differences began to appear.

I am full of interest in the night tour in the street. He didn't like to accompany me to the street and urged me to go back.

Finally, less than nine o'clock, the two returned to the homestay.

He is lying in bed watching TV, comfortable and comfortable; I'm not reconciled. I feel bored.

Later, I learned that another group of friends were on the road trip route from Guizhou to Hunan. He suggested, "Let's turn around and meet them."

I watched the strategy of going to see the terraced fields the next day, which was done on my mobile phone. I had already discussed it with him and was disheartened.

I said, "Okay, whatever."

He may not know that I made all the pleasant and novel arrangements on the trip with my heart.

However, all this is not as good as his brothers who can drink and chat.

If we can't play together, what can we say?

It was the only and last time that my ex-husband and I traveled alone.

Then we will negotiate a divorce and live in our own way.

Later, he sent his daughter to the United States, and we took her out to play, which was not very impressive.

After that, there was no after.

So, what was my happiest trip?

3? The whole world is ours.

A picture deep in my mind slowly surfaced and became clearer and clearer.

Yes, I am sure that such a trip is worthy of the title of "the happiest"

It was six years ago that I was a visiting scholar at the University of California and bought a used Honda car.

I often drive my daughter to the nearby beach or outlets on weekends, and the scenes on the way are always fresh in my memory.

It was just me and my daughter in the car.

At that time, she was only 9 years old, holding an iPad in the back seat and learning to sing English songs from Protestant schools loudly. I added a few words from time to time, and two people roared loudly, one after another.

I will open the window, the traffic outside is full of exotic atmosphere, but the car is noisy and boiling, and our laughter floats out of the window.

At that time, I really wanted to shout: "Let time stop, this is what I want!" " "

On the way, I feel that the whole world is ours.

Now my daughters like go on road trip very much, which may be inseparable from this experience.

After returning home, my daughter and I were busy with busy and competitive studies in China, and gradually lost our mentality in the United States.

I am often angry, and the child is very patient.

The winter before last, I took her, and the two of us flew to Chengdu, Sichuan, where we borrowed a car, took her to see the Dead Sea in Suining and climbed the Xiling Snow Mountain.

Although there were unpleasantness, conflicts and two adolescence along the way, it was strange not to make noise or make trouble, but on the whole it was very pleasant.

I began to adjust myself slowly. If I want to be happy, my children will be happier.

Travel memories behind me began to become happy and interesting.

In recent years, I have been to many places. I prefer mountains and rivers to appreciate the mystery of nature.

Fly directly to Lugu Lake, and stay quietly at Huwowo Inn on the edge of Princess Island for three days.

This inn needs to paddle in and out, and after three days, I came out on a raft, feeling back on earth, and everything was so beautiful.

I also made an appointment with my best friend to visit to the sky kingdom's shooting place in Tengchong, Yunnan.

I found that the peach blossoms in the field are all plastic, and there are only two or three peach gardens in Shili. The Qingqiu Fox Cave in Baiqian is just a lettering on a stone by the roadside.

But I still found the fun.

Walking past the roadside inn, the young boss and proprietress are entertaining their guests. I ran over and asked for a dish to eat, and that night turned into a chat.

They talked about the great influence of the development of tourism on local folk customs.

I see, it turns out that in such a place with backward culture and blocked information, girls get married at the age of twelve or thirteen.

And got a warm invitation from the host's family to have lunch the next day. ...

Last year, after my operation, a group of women organized a trip to the Flower Sea in Bijie, Yunshe, Guizhou. In order to take care of me, they rented an RV and cut down two scenic spots.

So, we laughed all the way to Brother Lu, leaving pictures of us lingering in the sea, all laughing like flowers.

Looking back, in the past few years after my divorce, I have become more and more happy, almost free-wheeling, satisfied and full of happiness.

Correspondingly, the yearning for tourism and the outward impulse also slowly slowed down.

I was invited to go out to play many times this summer vacation, but I refused. I stayed at home with my daughter for two months.

I live with this little guy sweetly and lovingly every day, sending her to training classes, going to the gym, eating meals cooked by her grandparents, and letting her take her grandparents to the movies. My heart is full and happy.

Because, now I know very well: the best poems and distant places are around me.

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