Reflections on the three brushes of bouquet-like love

The second time I brushed it, I talked about my feelings from this drama. I predicted what problems I might encounter in my future love and what attitude I should take to solve them. I summed up 13, which are all very useful. After three brushes, it feels completely different.

I have a good memory. I have watched most of the plays once, and even after a long time, I can repeat the plot inside. This is one of my few three-brush plays. After three brushes, my direction is no longer "what I learned from this play", but "what should that man do"

As the name implies, the love between the hero and heroine is like a flash in the pan, intense and rich, and has had a wonderful experience, but it will inevitably wither and wither in the end. In this love, it seems that everyone is wrong, but it seems that everyone is right. Because who is wrong? What's the matter? It is impossible to make it clear.

I came straight to the point and came to a shocking conclusion: two people should not be together from the beginning.

Is it inappropriate for two people to be together? Not at all. Their hobbies are 80% similar, including wearing the same shoes and reading the same books ... and they can tolerate differences. The hostess will insist on saying "I like this type of documentary" when she is clearly asleep after watching it. The male host can also get to the subway station in time when the female host encounters setbacks and give each other a comforting hug.

Perhaps in the eyes of normal people, this is simply the benchmark of love relationship. The three views are harmonious and love harmony, and no running-in is needed. Two people can't even quarrel, and what the other thinks is what I see. My idea can get the biggest and most direct resonance from the other side. This is simply "two identical leaves" and "another me created by God".

Such a relationship seems to have no possibility of breaking up.

But is this really the case?

In my opinion, the problem lies in this "greatest resonance of thought". This relationship is perfect to the extreme, too perfect, too perfect to be terrible, and the two naturally come together. But these two people ignored the most crucial point, that is, human nature is flawed, everyone is not a saint, and human greed is only a few minutes, and there is no difference between right and wrong. No one can avoid custom because he is eager to see Shu and greedy.

"Perfect love" and "impossible perfect humanity" are the biggest conflicts in this play.

After the man and the woman are together, they just want to enjoy "Platonic love". Not only do they have no sense of crisis, but they also keep asking each other for more things unconsciously. Just like an actor whose appearance is the peak, the most dazzling flower blooms. From the peak to the dazzling moment, they have been in the process of decline and death, and everything they do afterwards is essentially to continue their lives for this moment.

This "life span" lasted for four years, which means that the shelf life of this love is also four years, which is a very good result. Why can't we continue? As far as I'm concerned, it's either another problem or money.

It's really vulgar to talk about money with your mouth open and your mouth closed at any time. I admit it! But the essence of the contradiction between men and women is money. Men like painting, but the art industry is too replaceable. One painting at 1000 yen became three paintings at 1000 yen. In the end, you have no chance to accept the order at all. The reality is so cruel, and the artistic route is "get out of the sky".

To tell the truth, the man's family conditions are not bad. He doesn't want to go back to his hometown. In order to give himself and his lover a better future, he resolutely stayed in Tokyo to rent a house. Both of them have this ambition and this condition. Otherwise, don't say that I have been in love for four years, and I feel suspended for four months.

But even so, I have to bow to reality. Faced with the courage of "unwilling to ask their families for money" and rising rents, they are unwilling to do jobs they don't like very much. The man clearly promised his lover to watch a movie together, but in the face of the boss's call, he still had to break his word and be on call. In the face of the ridicule of his colleagues, he can only submit to humiliation. These things made him feel heavy. As a man, he can't solve it-even talking has become a luxury. At the moment, he is not alone, but more like a stray dog that nobody cares about. His hobby changed from reading elegant literary works to having fun.

The hostess works in a bar, and she also needs emotional communication-even physical communication. However, it seems that she just doesn't grow up, so that she always separates the ideal from the reality. I hope she and her husband can have the same tacit understanding as before and continue to read her "elegant literature", but everything has changed. This is not the woman's fault. On the contrary, it can prove that the man has protected his lover well and can give her the ability to fantasize, which is very rare.

However, as I said before, people will inevitably ask for more inadvertently. This love is the most perfect. Two people gave each other their best selves from the beginning. It's the upper limit. It would be terrible to ask for more. What the man wants is personal space and the other person's understanding, so he said more than once, "It is best for us to maintain the status quo." The hostess is very ideal. I hope that the two will get better and better, and I am also planning my future. "Hope", which is seriously inconsistent with reality, is also a requirement in essence.

As the saying goes, "everyone is innocent, but guilty." What the man has is a perfect fate that his economic strength can't control at all. This fate is a "jade" and a beautiful jade. Under this condition, he is only a "person" in the face of this "jade". He didn't realize it himself, and he didn't care to maintain it. On the contrary, he wants more. Then, this relationship owned by this "ignorant" will eventually perish.

There is a scene that makes me particularly depressed and even has a feeling of nausea. That is, when they met for the first time, including for a long time after they got together, both of them wore identical white sports shoes. But when the conflict between two people is about to break out, the woman is still the pair of white sneakers, and the man is replaced by a pair of exquisite leather shoes.

Don't say "better and better". In reality, even "maintaining the status quo" is a great luxury. It's nobody's fault, or everyone's fault, that two people have come this far. What's more strange is that they were perfect from the beginning. They can't realize the fact that this relationship "peaked when it appeared and slowly declined", and even dream of "maintaining the status quo" and "getting better and better". This seems ridiculous to us onlookers, but who wouldn't expect better from the authorities?

This is a trend that no one can stop. With money, we may be able to postpone it. Two people can persist until they die, and then this story will be written into a book and become a classic.

However, it didn't. Plus, you only care about enjoying love at first, and you don't have this consciousness. It is doomed that you can't solve the problem in detail and fundamentally. When the real contradiction came out, it was too late. What's more, this story happened not only in the play, but also in everyone.

Love without running-in is fragile and dangerous, just like flowers in a greenhouse. Once you come into contact with reality, you will die.

As a rational boy, I will naturally try to maximize the interests of both sides in this matter, so I have come to a seemingly ridiculous conclusion that two people should not be together in the first place.

I'm not talking nonsense, and I'm not talking nonsense. It's just that I've taken such a path myself.

For ten years, I have been unable to define a relationship, and I don't even know if it is a relationship. Friends? But we only said 43 sentences. Or a stranger? But that's why we knew there was such a person. Or a lover? That's even more bullshit. Even if you pass by, you don't know who the other person is without introducing yourself. It's just the relationship between neighbors and college alumni It was not until I saw the play that I defined this "special relationship".

The age at which a man meets a woman in the play is 2 1. And my mistress, I met at the age of 14. We not only have almost the same hobbies, but even have similar ideals. More importantly, our family lives in the same street, primary school and junior high school are in the same street, and high school is diagonally opposite. Even the university is the same university, and I am the first person she knows in this university. Even now, the dormitory where she works is only 2.6km away from my university, which can be reached by running 18 minutes. 20 18.8. 10 I learned that I met her when I was 14 years old. To tell the truth, this fate is much stronger than a bouquet.

But until today, I have not confessed, not that I am timid, but that I have long recognized this relationship. Even if we are together, I have no strength to maintain it. Sooner or later, it is inevitable that we will not be together at the beginning, or even have too much contact. I don't like this man at all. I told myself that I just kept dreaming, and the content of the dream is this "N-year fate" in reality.

It's just that I couldn't describe it in proper language until I saw the play Bouquet, and finally I could give a clear definition.

The flowers in the dream are also real and empty. Although it is not your own thing, it will never wither. The flowers in the dream are both real and empty. Although it is not a real flower, it will never wither. )

Destined to meet a lover. May this fate, a solution and a knot. If one day you really meet a lover, your dream will be lifted immediately and your fate will end immediately. )

That person should go my way and take this idea as the driving force of his own efforts. He just needs to know that "there are so many people exactly like me in this world, and I will redouble my efforts to live up to the fate entrusted to me by God". As for the rest, if you don't have that economic strength, don't expect more. If you have time, study hard for a master's degree. For four years, I must have learned something, or I am in a very high position. And if you spend your time on a love that will eventually die, after four years, there will be nothing left but a history.

I was never fit to study science. After studying liberal arts in high school for two months, I was forced to change my wishes, but basically it was this motivation that got me here today. Later, I took the postgraduate entrance examination and graduate school, which really didn't suit me, but I did it anyway. It was a difficult time, even unbearable. I didn't speak very well today, but it was good.

The heroine in my story, like me, has a mother named Solo. She won a national scholarship in college for three years, but because of the epidemic, she was closed at home for 10 months, and she didn't study hard at home, which led to her failure in postgraduate entrance examination and postgraduate entrance examination. She has given up on herself since she failed in the postgraduate entrance examination. He said he would take the ACCA exam, but he signed up but failed. Later, I was idolized all day, fortune-telling, buying lottery tickets, working overtime, being gay ... completely falling into the stereotype.

I met her and her father on February 7th this year. They don't know me anymore. I was sorry at first when I saw her now, but I was deeply relieved later. I'm glad I didn't know this until I was 14 years old, and I'm even more glad I didn't tell her at that time. Otherwise, whether we are together or not, my life will be much worse than it is now. ...

Considering this, I decided not to go to Shanghai, to fulfill her poor and unrealistic dream of people in the past, and to be with friends.

Finally, I wish everyone in the world can find their original heart, manage the people in front of them well, not to mention getting better and better, try to maintain the status quo and have a clear conscience, which is the greatest success.