Mr. Toad went to see a psychiatrist: two difficult problems in psychological counseling.

The book "Mr. Toad goes to see a psychiatrist" is only a thin 200 pages, which looks like a fairy tale but is horribly professional.

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When should I do psychological counseling?

Who is in charge of psychological counseling and why?

Mr. Toad, the protagonist in the book, becomes withdrawn and nobody cares. His friend Mole went to visit him and rang the doorbell for a long time, but toad didn't answer. Later, the mole found an unlocked door and saw the toad get out of the old clothes. Toad's eyes were half-open, his face was dim, his clothes were covered with food oil stains, and his bloomers, which were originally fit, became loose, indicating that Toad had lost weight. He opened his mouth and said to the mole, "I don't feel well." Then he burst into tears and collapsed.

This description is a typical "three low symptoms" of depression, including depression, slow thinking, decreased will and behavior. Depression is easy to understand and intuitive; Slow thinking means that you don't take the initiative to speak, and your speech speed is obviously slow, just like the machine is rusted. The decline of will and behavior shows that life is very passive, unwilling to participate in the activities of the outside world and original interests, and just want to be alone. People who have jobs often want to escape from work, and their lives become lazy and idle. In severe cases, I repeatedly want to commit suicide, because people with depression will feel that it is the hardest thing to live, even harder than death. Because they not only have three low symptoms, but also most of them have physiological symptoms such as sleep disorder, loss of appetite, weight loss, palpitation, chest tightness and nausea. They went for a physical examination and found nothing wrong with themselves.

Obviously, Mr. Toad has no requirements for life, his work is neglected and his interpersonal communication stops. This is a situation that a person's social function will be damaged and he can't work, live and socialize normally, so he needs psychological counseling. But life is not necessarily depression. Are some people stressed and anxious? Others are social fear, love problems, employment problems, parent-child relationship, mother-in-law relationship and so on. Is it necessary for Mr. Toad to go to psychological counseling in such a bad situation?

No, Mr toad actually put it off for a long time. Before going to see the doctor for the first time, he wanted to commit suicide. Fortunately, several friends came to visit him. Although their persuasion was ineffective, they brought in psychologist Helen. These are all social support. When a person is at a low ebb, it is very important to have social support, because everyone needs to be seen and cared for. When to do psychological counseling, just like the small advertisement released by Heron: Anyone who has personal problems and causes unhappiness or anxiety can make an appointment. In other words, if you have persistent psychological and emotional problems, you can find a psychological counselor to sort them out.

In life, many people will have conflicts because of some contradictions in life and work. If you have been in a bad mood for more than a month, or have been in a bad mood intermittently for two months, you still can't get out, but your life, work and social activities are still going on normally. This is a common psychological problem. Just like being divorced and unemployed, it's depressing to think about it, but life and other social activities go on as usual.

Serious psychological problems may be caused by the same thing, or even from unsolved general psychological problems. Bad emotions last for as long as two months and as little as half a year, which seriously affects life, work and social interaction. It's no use persuading friends. It is also possible to see other small things that are also very unpleasant. The so-called bad whole person has often become a serious psychological problem.

Of course, the simpler the problem, the easier it is to solve it through consultation, and it may be solved several times. Serious psychological problems need periodic psychological counseling and healing process, just like Mr. Toad, who has done psychological counseling for ten times and gained a new life.

It can be seen that psychological problems, like other diseases, prevention is better than cure, rather than turning a blind eye, so that small problems accumulate and evolve into big problems. For example, serious psychological problems last for more than half a year, and even develop into neurosis, including neurasthenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety, phobia and so on. It is very painful, but there is no physical problem to prove.

Let's talk about the second question first: Who is in charge of psychological counseling and why?

Whoever has the final say is who wants to do psychological counseling and is willing to pay for it. Both are indispensable. Willingness to pay reflects the price you are willing to pay for change, and money is part of the price. Mr. Toad's first psychological consultation was strongly recommended by his friend and paid for by his friend Badger. Dr. Heron told him that no one who paid for the consultation would come voluntarily, at least the will was not strong enough and sincere enough. When you want to make yourself better, you don't consult to live up to the expectations of your relatives and friends. At this time, you can find a psychological counselor and form a real cooperation by signing a contract. You will become an active participant in the consultation process.

In the past, I met some people who asked for help. It seems that I will also come to consult and want to improve my emotional state, but I don't want to pay too much. First, I always feel that chatting and enlightening is enough. Second, I feel that the cost is a burden and I don't want to bear this burden. There is another one who doesn't want to come, but is really pushed by family or friends. Even family and friends are afraid to tell this person who needs counseling and treatment how much it will cost. In any case, there is no opportunity for consultation and cooperation, because their own willingness to change is insufficient and their motivation is insufficient. Imagine, are some people not feeling very uncomfortable, but also dragging their feet without seeing a doctor and taking medicine, and when the situation becomes more and more serious and unbearable, they start looking for a doctor. The same is true of psychological troubles. Most people don't ask for help when the problem is still small. Only when the pain is unbearable will they really want to change. This is a pity, but it is also determined by the degree of cognition and human weakness.

As for how many times you need to consult, you need more than four times for general problems and no less than ten times for serious problems. The exact cycle, as the book says, depends on the cooperation of the visitor and the consultant Qi Xin, but in the final analysis, it still depends on the visitor. Besides doing it regularly, does the location have to be fixed? Generally, it is a fixed place, but it is not constant, as long as tourists feel comfortable and suitable for consultation and exchange. What consultants do is to help others and help themselves. By listening and asking questions, they help tourists think and grow. It is themselves who really help the visitors.

Psychological counseling is not fortune-telling, and no one directly gives you a fatalistic answer, so that you can do whatever you say. On the contrary, you are the one who thinks and decides what to do.

I am Ye Chengnuo 'er. If my words or photos accurately express the throb you want to express for you, it means that we have experienced the same mentality in different time and space.

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