The host gave my daughter an all-soil name.

Why are so many parents looking for help to name their children here? Don't parents understand that their right to name their children may only happen once in their lives! Just give it away? What a pity. Not a pity?

And ... the name of the whole soil property ... is really hard for me to understand. What attribute is not an attribute? Do you want to train your daughter to be Harry Potter?

On Baidu Know, I saw many parents who just had children asking: What's my child's name?

I don't think it's necessary at all.

People may only have one chance to name their children in this life. Under the existing one-child policy, parents may only have one chance to name their children. Because children are born by themselves, it is a unique right for parents to name their children. It is incomprehensible why so many parents do not want to enjoy this right themselves, but want to give it to others. Even pay fortune tellers to name their children? Is it because parents lack confidence in whether they can give their children a good name?

Of course, I admit that a good name can really affect personal development to a certain extent, so what kind of name is a good name? When many people encounter this problem, they should think of hiring a person, using five lines of gossip of Birthdays to calculate the birth date of the child, and calculating the attributes of the five elements of the child. If the five elements are missing, they should try to fill in their names ... It seems that this will be very famous.

The problem is that birthdays can only reflect the date of a person's birth at most, and the recording time is not too much. Some people use birthdays to tell fortune, which is very unreliable. Because a person's fate is influenced by many conditions, besides the weather, there are also restrictions on the region and people he grew up in. Coupled with the different opportunities, how much can the influence of birth time account for? What's more, the "five elements attribute" is even more illusory. The attribute of the five elements is only a material view of the ancients, who thought that everything in the world was composed of five basic elements: "Jin Mu's fire, water and earth". This view of matter is definitely wrong from the perspective of modern science, so the five elements are not necessarily related to a person's name.

Also, the five elements are always associated with gossip and I ching, so what are gossip and I ching? The Book of Changes as we know it now should be a version compiled by Confucius more than 2000 years ago. The Book of Changes should actually be Confucius' annotation on gossip, which contains many ancient philosophical thoughts, most of which are actively available now-but no matter from which angle, the Book of Changes has nothing to do with gossip and fortune telling-and has nothing to do with Marx's philosophical thoughts and a person's name. To put it another way, Europeans and Americans don't pay attention to five lines of gossip, and they don't consider this issue when naming it. It does not seem to affect a person's survival and development in society. If you name him according to the gossip, I'm afraid Obama shouldn't be called Obama or Bill Gates. ...

Then, if a person's name has nothing to do with five lines of gossip, how can we know whether a person's name is good or not?

We can look at this problem from another angle.

First of all, people are socialized groups, and people must be in groups to pursue survival and development. Names are codes for people in a specific group. If you leave the group and live entirely alone, it may not matter whether the individual has a name or not. The development of individuals in the group will be influenced by many factors, such as personal knowledge, family background, appearance, personal accomplishment, growth environment, specific opportunities and so on. Names have a certain influence on these factors, but they can never have a decisive influence. For example, if the famous host "Wang" is not famous, her name is probably just an extremely ordinary and simple name, even a little rustic. Another example is the famous basketball star "Yao Ming". The names are two words from China, and those who are followed by the word "Ming" may have gone to sea, such as "Li Ming", "Li Ming", "Wang Ming" and "Zhang Ming". It seems that as long as it is a surname, the word "Ming" can be added at the back, and then it can be used as a person's name ... There are many famous people. If you just look at the names, they may all be ordinary. In addition, there is a serious phenomenon of duplicate names in China, and there must be many people with the same name. It can be seen that whether a person will have a good development has little to do with his name.

Secondly, since people are socialized groups, the development of people in the group must depend on the communication between people-parents raising children is a kind of communication, children attending classes at school, receiving education from schools and teachers is also a kind of communication, stepping into society, and the relationship with colleagues and leaders is also communication; A person's name plays the role of a code in interpersonal communication. If a person knows who another person is, the first thing he should know is another person's name. If a person's name is remembered by many people, he will naturally get more opportunities. From this point of view, if a person's name is simple and easy to remember, or distinctive, people will have a deep impression when they hear it, then this person's name should be a good name. For example, A and B are classmates, and A's name is simple and easy to remember, while B's name is difficult to remember, complicated and tedious, so under the same conditions, teachers and classmates may be more likely to remember A and ignore B, so A will have an advantage over B in interpersonal communication and getting teachers' attention. Under the same conditions, A is likely to be known by more people because of a simple and memorable name, which means that he may get more opportunities than B. In short, under such conditions, a simple and memorable name may have an advantage over a complex and difficult name, and a name with this advantage and benefits to individuals is naturally a good name.

Finally, to sum up, I think that when parents are considering naming their children, they should probably think more about how to give them a memorable name, which is more beneficial to their children, instead of pursuing the illusory gossip and birthday elements. Of course, if it is a simple name that is easy to remember and communicate according to the laws of five lines of gossip and birthdates, you can certainly use it, but before doing so, you should carefully consider-is it worthwhile to give up the right to name your child once in your life?