After learning Buddhism, will you still beat and scold your children?

In the afternoon, I chatted with my friends and talked about one thing, saying that a lady wanted to have a second child very much. She worked hard with her husband for a long time, but she never got it. When she let go, she accidentally found herself pregnant and was very happy at the beginning of pregnancy. But later, for some reason, the lady went to a fortune teller and said that the lady's children would be bad for her future. Unexpectedly, the lady listened to the master's words and finally aborted the child. As a listener, I was very shocked to hear such a thing.

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From this, I also thought of something I have seen before. A mother, a Buddhist child, is a layman at home. But she never liked children, and no matter how beautiful the children were, she wouldn't hug them. The lady got married and had her own children, all of whom were smart and beautiful, but her mother just didn't like children and didn't do her duty as a mother. The child was always brought up by her grandmother before she went to primary school, and this mother only looked after the child when she went to her mother-in-law's house for dinner after work every day.

This mother is also very strict with her children and has higher requirements. Although her children's homework has been above 90%, the mother will beat and scold her for her children's mistakes on a certain issue. When she takes her children to review their homework, they have a bad attitude and she will also hit them. This kind of beating and cursing is also increasing, and it has entered a vicious circle. Later, my mother admitted that she felt that she had psychological problems and wanted to change. She also read many books on psychology. But I forgot after reading it. It's useless. So her daughter complained, Are you still a Buddhist?

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Children have good intelligence, and they can recite some classics, such as the great compassion mantra and the Heart Sutra. Children are also excellent in all aspects, and they are also very polite and considerate to their elders. However, the child's temper is getting worse and worse, and he often gets angry for some small things. If he is dissatisfied, he scolds his mother and even beats his mother.

So this mother is reviewing herself. She said that she loves textual research and further studies, including studying Buddhism. She can be very enthusiastic and even sympathetic to outsiders, often return good for evil, never be persistent in her work, do things as she pleases, and have a good relationship with her colleagues. But just for this daughter, I am often persistent and don't understand why the child just doesn't listen to her. Why rebel? Mother said that she was a failed mother, and she felt that her daughter was not her "destiny takes a hand's love".

The lady in this story has always disliked children, and she gets annoyed at the sight of them, and she doesn't like children, including her own daughter, who was brought up by her mother-in-law. What is the reason?

Maybe this girl had an unhappy childhood? Or experienced some kind of deep pain, or suffered too much denial, so that my mother learned to refuse and deny, and became indifferent. And subconsciously, she associated the role of the child with some kind of pain, so no matter how cute the child is, it will make the mother instinctively escape and hate, even her own child.

Although the mother is keen on textual research and further study, it is only a means for her to create a sense of self-achievement. Or an escape from real life. Although the mother is warm and sympathetic to outsiders and does a good job, she is actually trying to get praise from the outside world.

She may feel confident in life, but in fact she feels inferior, because this mother is too dependent on other people's evaluation and especially cares about other people's opinions. Other people's opinions are even greater than their own feelings. In other words, she hardly cares about herself, and certainly doesn't care about the children, because neither she nor the children are important.

She thinks that she is kind to repay evil with good, but in fact, she exchanges praise from others through grievances. Because if she really wants to return good for evil, she will never beat or scold her children.

The purpose of all religions in the world is actually to save people's souls and let people find the meaning of life. The most fundamental purpose is to guide people to know themselves. Only when they really know themselves can they really fall in love with themselves, instead of falling in love with themselves in the eyes of others.

Then you will fall in love with your children, then you will really fall in love with everyone, and finally you will be able to return good for evil.

For example, the daughter in the story asks her mother: Are you still a Buddhist? Actually, I'm reminding you that it's time to get to know something again. It is necessary to reflect on yourself.