Anyone who cares about his own personal interests will become inhuman.

There is a saying that "every man for himself, the devil takes the hindmost". The meaning of this sentence shows that human selfishness is a natural and innate human nature.

Is there anyone who is absolutely unselfish? We dare not say no, but at least there are few such people around us, and most people are not selfish. The only difference is the degree of selfishness. Maybe you are selfish, too.

In fact, selfishness is an instinct for human beings to seek survival. There is nothing strange about it. Why should we know the selfish side of human nature?

You can use "selfishness" to interpret other people's behavior, so that you won't feel sorry for other people's behavior.

I am puzzled and can look at it with a "normal heart".

Selfishness is an instinct of human beings, and many human behaviors are formed around it. According to different personality, education and life experience, selfishness has different manifestations in behavior. One is the form of "goodness". Selfishness is manifested in the form of "goodness", which benefits others and benefits themselves. For example, when ordinary people go to work, on the one hand, they work for their bosses and serve consumers indirectly, on the other hand, they earn money, which can support themselves and their families and meet their survival needs. However, there are also some people who only seek benefits, not self-interest. For example, some missionaries are in a barren land, just to help some people in need, and their lives are not only unhappy, but even masochistic. In the eyes of the world who only think about themselves, such people are really admirable.

Another form is the form of "evil". This form of selfishness only seeks self-interest at the expense of others. If you are only selfish and don't hurt others, then this selfishness is not "evil." Some people are selfish at the expense of others, which is really "evil"!

This kind of behavior, such as robbery, fraud, framing, betrayal, and more seriously, murder and arson, endangers the safety of others. For ordinary people, life-threatening things are generally not encountered, but you will encounter selfish behavior from time to time. You don't have to care about this. Instead, you should have this idea: How should I deal with these selfish behaviors to create a harmonious relationship between the two sides or get his assistance and cooperation?

Really doing this is very humble, and it is right to satisfy each other's selfishness.

The "satisfaction" mentioned here is not infinite satisfaction. If you do this, it will harm you, because people's desires are endless. So what should we do?

(1) On the negative side, if you don't deprive the other person of his interests, whether he really needs them or not, if you deprive him, he will spare you desperately.

(2) From a positive perspective, give the other person benefits. As long as he is willing to accept it, then he will definitely listen to you. Therefore, many emperors will use heavy money to win over their subordinates, big bosses will give bonuses to their subordinates, and warriors who can carry the tripod are willing to work for their helpless masters for money. Besides money, status is also a kind of interest, so "promotion to the palace" can also buy people's hearts, because you satisfy Ding's selfishness!

However, when satisfying each other's selfish desires, you should pay attention to two points.

(1) You can't completely satisfy each other at once. You can go from less to more, not from more to less, otherwise the other party will not appreciate you, but will resent you.

(2) Enrich your resources from time to time, and let the other party feel that you still have many "benefits", so that they will maintain a good relationship with you for those "benefits". Once the benefits are gone, they are likely to leave you. If this happens, there is no need to sigh, because it is the necessity of human nature. You see, who cares about those declining nobles, politicians who are out of power, and "rich people" who are down and out? In addition, you can't ignore people's "selfishness" at the spiritual and psychological level, that is, everyone likes to be respected. If you respect him, then everything is easy to say!

Look at the selfishness of human nature more, and then satisfy the selfishness of others to a certain extent, so that you can handle it well!

"Selfishness of human nature" is the corrosive agent of a harmonious society.

Building a harmonious socialist society needs the support of correct public opinion and ideological education. Recently, an argument appeared in some newspapers and forums: "Selfishness is human nature, and everyone is selfish". Although it is the same old tune, it has corrosive effect on building a harmonious society.

If people want to survive, live well and develop, they must seek their own interests. Seeking the legitimate interests of individuals is everyone's right and responsibility, which should be respected and should not be regarded as selfish. Marxism never talks only about lectures but not benefits. It never denies the motives and behaviors of people seeking their own legitimate interests, and publicly declares that the proletariat should not only liberate itself and other laborers, but also liberate all mankind. Only care about their own interests, regardless of the interests of others and the collective, or even harm others, this kind of psychology and behavior is selfish.

Selfishness is not human nature, but the product of social history. In the primitive commune, people were not selfish. At that time, the production tools were extremely simple, and in the face of harsh natural environment, individuals could not survive by labor alone. People must take care of each other, work together, and jointly possess and share the fruits of labor. Everything is public, there is no private property, and even everyone is like a member of the community and cannot be independent. There, if everyone only cares about themselves, it can only be a dead end. In other words, selfishness brings death to selfish people instead of benefits. In this way, who will be selfish? People at that time were not selfish, not because "human nature is good", but because of living conditions.

Selfish psychology and behavior are rooted in private ownership. As workers, people can easily appreciate the benefits of cooperation, mutual assistance and unity. As private owners, they are separated and opposed to each other. This relationship between private owners has given birth to and encouraged the mentality and behavior of taking care of themselves. When people regard each other as private individuals, for example, in a purely business relationship, they only consider their own interests. Selfishness is not out of mysterious "nature" or "human nature is evil", but a reflection of private ownership social relations.

Many social relations between people need mutual understanding and care. For example, workers working under the same capitalist have a relationship of labor cooperation and unity in order to strive for common rights and interests from employers. In these relationships, they will take care of each other and act in concert. People are despised for thinking only of themselves, hindering cooperation and undermining unity. In the struggle against foreign aggression or overthrowing reactionary rule, people will unite and fight against the enemy together, and will not tolerate selfish people who only care about themselves regardless of the overall situation. In daily life, people also need to take care of each other in many ways. Only in this way can it exist and develop. For example, love, affection and friendship are all based on mutual concern. In this relationship, under normal circumstances, people will not only care about themselves, but will care for and maintain each other. Ordinary neighborhood relations also need to care for each other and live in harmony. Even if it happens to be in the same car, the same boat and the same plane, this selfish behavior of taking care of yourself and ignoring others will bring inconvenience to everyone and be condemned by everyone. Maintain public health, protect the environment, and obey traffic rules. We have to take care of each other. If everyone only cares about himself and his convenience, I'm afraid even these basic social orders will collapse. In short, people often take care of each other in interpersonal relationships with common interests and need to take care of each other. This is human nature, but it is not out of some mysterious "nature", but the common experience that people have summed up from hundreds of millions of years of practice, which is the objective need of human survival and social development.

Absolute selfish people only care about themselves, not the country, the collective, anyone, even their parents and children. Such people are divorced from all interpersonal relationships, cut off all human contacts, completely lost the "human essence" and lost the taste of people. Can such people be called "people" and can they be tolerated by the world?

Some bourgeois economists assume that people are only private individuals, and only attribute interpersonal relationships to the mutual opposition of private individuals, and put forward the hypothetical "economic man" as their theoretical premise. The basic feature of what they call an economic man is that he only considers his own interests. No matter how these economists interpret "self-interest" and how they constantly refine and enrich it (for example, from "interest" to "profit maximization", to "utility maximization", to "security", "self-esteem" and then to the supplement of "interest"), this person can't jump out of the self-centered circle. The reason is that bourgeois economists can't jump out of the eternal superstition of private ownership. They grasp the characteristics of people as private owners and commodity traders, while ignoring other social identities and social relations of people; They regard private ownership as the premise of their argument, regardless of the origin, conditions, limitations and development prospects of private ownership. Although this kind of economics can explain some phenomena of capitalist private economy, it cannot explain many basic social relations (such as labor and exploitation, rights and obligations, productivity and production relations, economic base and superstructure, etc.). ) and the basic laws of social development in this society.

It is a profound change that public ownership replaces private ownership for thousands of years. To consolidate and develop the socialist basic economic system with public ownership as the main body and multiple ownership economies developing together, we should not only have sufficiently developed productive forces as the basis, but also have certain ideological conditions, that is, to break the "selfish theory of human nature", to reverse the conservative concept that only private ownership can conform to human nature, to vigorously carry forward the spirit of patriotism, collectivism and socialism, and to vigorously advocate that workers (including managers) treat public property and joint work as masters and overcome selfishness. Because socialist public ownership is in the dominant position, people have more common interests than capitalist society with private ownership as the main body, which is a solid economic foundation for cultivating the spirit of unity, mutual assistance and selfless dedication and building a harmonious socialist society. Harmony is not to erase the differences and contradictions of interests, but to coordinate different interests. The basis of harmony lies in the common interests of different stakeholders. With this foundation, all parties concerned need to take care of each other, pay attention to understanding and achieve mutual benefit and win-win results. If, although there are common interests, all parties only care about themselves, regardless of others and refuse to compromise for common interests, it is impossible to be harmonious. Imagine, in any organization, everyone is selfish and only cares about themselves, regardless of others and the whole, can it be harmonious? In a country, between ethnic groups, between regions, between urban and rural areas, between departments and between groups, all aspects only care about themselves, regardless of each other, the whole and the overall situation. Can society be harmonious? In a word, if selfishness is regarded as the golden rule, there will be no harmony. Therefore, I think we should resolutely abandon the "selfish theory of human nature" and not let this decadent dogma interfere with the construction of a harmonious socialist society. Sincerity is not unrequited, it is only a matter of time. ...