Why do some people pay more and get less in return, whether it is friendship or love?

When there is a sense of giving in love, it means that there is something wrong with this relationship. Love first comes from being willing to pay, even asking for nothing in return. Only in this process, the other party will see what you have paid, and will be willing to pay for you because of their inner love. Pay in both directions, and you won't care about gains and losses. However, it has always been a one-sided effort. The other party pays little or nothing, or you can't feel the other party's pay, so you will unconsciously care and feel unbalanced. Especially in marriage, there will be complaints. At this time, the heavy sense of giving makes you feel tired and exhausted, and you need the gratitude and recognition of the other party urgently, and you will easily fall into emotional kidnapping. To solve this situation, we need to adjust this contribution. First, you are willing to pay, or even ask for nothing in return, and lower your expectations. Secondly, you should pay for yourself, take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. Third, guide the other person to see your efforts for this relationship, learn to appreciate you and recognize you. Finally, guide each other appropriately and pay for this relationship in the way you like. ?