Chengdu dad settled accounts and urged marriage. "Getting married at the age of 25 is five years happier than getting married at the age of 30." Do you agree?

A few days ago, some netizens exposed a video of their father urging marriage at a relative's banquet, which attracted heated discussion among netizens. In the video, my father said that my daughter must bring her son-in-law back next year. He doesn't want to play mahjong. After that, I calculated a happy account for my daughter: You must explain clearly. People have lived for 100 years, so if you find your happiness at the age of 25, it will be 75 years after 100 years; If you find your own happiness at the age of 30, it will take only 70 years, and your happiness will be five years less than others? At the same time, there is an economic account. If you had got married five years earlier,

In the eyes of parents, they always think that their children will be happy as soon as they get married, but times have changed. You can be happy not as soon as you get married, but when you meet someone who really loves you. If you get married in a hurry because of parents' urging, then if the two sides don't know each other very well, conflicts will easily arise after marriage, and happiness will naturally not be strong. However, these cannot be clearly explained to parents. They want their children to get married in their twenties. If they are over 30, they will be older men/women. It will be difficult to get married then.

So how should we deal with parents' frequent urging of marriage? Here are three ways to avoid this situation as much as possible without hurting your relationship with your parents.

1. Understand parents, look at the problem of urging marriage from their point of view, and then communicate. Because many of their outlook on life, values and marriage have been stereotyped, there are traces left by their specific times. Therefore, instead of refuting parents blindly, it is better to calmly show that you agree with their motives and starting points and understand their worries and worries behind urging marriage. You can accompany and listen to your parents patiently, so that parents can feel that their children are trying to understand them and accompany them. ?

2. Confess your wedding plans. Make it clear to your parents that you have a good plan for your job and marriage, so that they don't have to worry too much. Let parents realize that as adults, they can arrange their own life and work. ?

3. Peaceful communication. In the face of parents' frequent urging for marriage, many young people will show impatience, and then quarrel with their parents, resulting in cracks in the relationship between the two sides. This will not only make your parents urge you to get married, but will make your parents feel that your mood is caused by no object, thus encouraging other elders to urge you to get married.

On the issue of urging marriage, I still hope that parents and children can treat it rationally and do not have contradictions.