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After a married woman gives birth to a child (commonly known as pregnancy), the bride's family must prepare a generous gift and send it to the son-in-law's family one month before giving birth. This is called "giving birth to a child". Birth is the first child. One is to express condolences to the pregnant woman, and the other is to pray for a smooth birth and wish the mother and son well. Generally speaking, the gifts for giving birth are: brown sugar, white snapper, ham, red eggs, live chickens, longan and red dates, as well as baby clothes, swaddling clothes, diapers and quilts for drying diapers. Avoid sending shoes, saying that they are shaped like coffins, which is unlucky. Red eggs are wrapped in red cloth and sent to the pregnant woman's bed. When the red eggs roll down, they say "laying eggs is as fast" and pray for a natural birth. Gifts are all pasted with red paper to show good luck. After the baby is born, it is necessary to "report the birth" to the parents. If you have a boy, you should choose a wedding banquet for your relatives, one with two pots, and the first one for your parents-in-law. All the relatives who accept the wedding banquet should send eggs, sugar, noodles, chicken and other supplements to the parturient, commonly known as "raw woman soup". After giving birth to a girl, there is no need to give her a wedding banquet, and relatives will not give her "wife soup". Most mother-in-law will come to see you, which reflects the bad habits of men in the old society. After liberation, men and women are equal, and relatives will give gifts to congratulate them on the birth of boys and girls. Within one month after delivery, pregnant women are called "confinement" or "being pregnant", and there are many taboos. The delivery room must close the doors and windows, which is called "darkroom". It is forbidden to place iron tools indoors, and red cloth is hung at the door to remind idle people not to enter to prevent the spread of germs. The parturient wears a scarf on her head, does not leave the house, and does not go to work. Avoid fanning in summer and washing your face with cold water. Mother-in-law or mother's careful care, beware of illness, it is said that illness in the month, life-long difficult to heal. One day after the baby is born, he is called "Fang Shi" to feed a little Chinese medicine, and then he can eat milk. First, the husband or the child next door sucks milk for the mother, which is called "milking". Within seven days after the baby is born, it must be wrapped in a robe and tied with a belt, which is called a "candle bag" to prevent the baby from catching cold, crushing or growing into round legs. On the seventh day, do "seven mornings" and invite the midwife to eat. Farmers have the custom of asking relatives or neighbors for old clothes worn by strong children, or asking for scattered pieces of cloth to be made into "hundred clothes", saying that babies wear them smoothly.

Women and babies are not allowed to go to grandma's house before the full moon. The baby should drink full moon wine and shave the head of the full moon. If it is the eldest son, the full moon wine is especially grand, offering sacrifices to the gods and ancestors and entertaining relatives and friends of Qi. During the dinner, I held the baby to see the guests, and the guests gave gifts. In the old society, people gave each other more than 100 pieces of copper coins, commonly known as "centenary money", which means longevity. The day and time of shaving is decided by the fortune teller, and grandma's family must have a haircut at that time. The baby was dressed in shaving clothes, so the barber was invited home. Hair style is generally "tile head", and some people leave a "duck ass" at the back of their heads. When you're done, hold your baby to worship your ancestors. Shaved fetal hair is kneaded into a ball, put into a cloth bag and hung on a hook; There is also a small amount of hair buried in the onion basin on the wall, saying that children will grow smart. When the baby comes to grandma's house for the first time, grandma must send red eggs, cakes, fruits, old hens and so on. The old hen's feathers are dyed red, and the chicken's neck is tied with a red rope, which is auspicious. After returning home, cakes, fruits and other "gifts" were distributed to relatives and neighbors.

When Jou Yuan was one year old, he was called "Texas". Holding "Dezhou Wine", offering sacrifices to gods and ancestors, entertaining people, and making "Dezhou Fruit" with glutinous rice flour as a gift for relatives and friends. Grandma sent "Zhouyi clothes" and red eggs, and relatives also gave gifts to congratulate them. After the sacrifice to the gods and ancestors, a "lottery" ceremony was held: the utensils and toys used by scholars, industry and commerce were put on the table for the children to catch, and the first one caught was the symbol of future interests and future. On that day of the week, a ceremony of "putting hamstrings" was held. In the sandy area, put a few straws or straws on the rice field, arrange them in a line, put them under the child's crotch, help the child walk, and cut the grass with a knife. A straw rope was put in the south to help the children cross it, and then the straw rope was cut off. As the saying goes, children can grow up smoothly, and their lives are safe and less bumpy.