It is a great evil in the world to be born without raising, and to raise without loving.

There is an old saying: you can fight back if you are born without raising it. This sentence means that once life is given, it is not raised, and it is still good to break a finger. I think it is a sin to be born without raising it. Just don't hate it. What do you need to repay?

Just like at the beginning of the movie "How to Be Home", the teenager in prison praised suing his parents, and the judge asked him, "What do you want to sue them?" Zan said firmly, "They gave birth to me." Yes, Zan's miserable life in the movie was largely caused by his parents.

In the movie, Zan's parents don't remember his birthday, and no one even knows his age. His father wouldn't let him go to school. He arranged to work in a grocery store since he was a child, and he had to undertake heavy work since he was a child. My parents also sold my sister, who had just had her period, to the grocer and landlord as his wife, which was incredible. On the other hand, parents, who live at the bottom of society, are trampled like ants. After eating the last meal, I have been born. Five or six children in the family don't even have a place to sleep. The tragic death of the betrayed sister due to pregnancy bleeding did not stop his parents from giving birth. In the second half of the film, when the judge asked Zan what he wanted, he said categorically, "Let them not have any more children in the future!" " "And his parents can't do this because Zan's mother is about to give birth again.

The amazing experience was embarrassing, and when the drama ended, a faint sentence appeared on the screen, which made me burst into tears after being suppressed for two hours: "Most of the plots performed in this film are his real experiences." It turns out that real life is far more cruel than stories.

Indeed, in this society, some people have children without considering the consequences. I have seen those disabled children in welfare homes. The staff said that they were all abandoned since childhood because of birth defects, and some were thrown at hospitals, street corners, toilets and hospital gates. They were thrown away as garbage before they could take their first sip of breast milk. In fact, many physical defects can be screened out in advance through prenatal examination. It is not known whether their mother has never had a prenatal examination or whether she has found out the defects but wants to take a chance. Being born without raising is a heinous thing in itself. You think you gave them life, but they got a painful life. If they had a choice, they wouldn't choose to live this life. It is a responsibility and an obligation to be born as a man and grow as a man. It is the common emotion of motherhood in nature. Birds in the sky and birds on the ground follow this law. People who can be advanced animals mercilessly abandon the children who are pregnant in October. I'm sorry I was born human.

Simple parenting is not love. At present, there are nearly 70 million left-behind children in China, and some of them suffer from the pain of their parents raising them but not loving them. There is a boy in a remote mountainous area of Guizhou in the deformation meter of Hunan Satellite TV. His name is Liang Xun. Unlike left-behind children entrusted to grandparents or other relatives, he is the only one in the family. My parents have been working in other places for many years, and my younger brother and sister are studying in Shanxia Town. He is the only one who lives in the shabby house at home. In life, he cuts wood, cooks, washes clothes and feeds pigs alone. In cold weather, he had to carry drinking water to his home at the top of the mountain and climb a mountain to go to school. He said, "They left me alone at home for four or five years." He didn't sue his parents like in the movie. He had a simple wish: he wanted to grow up quickly, go out to work and let his parents enjoy happiness. Perhaps for him, poverty is not terrible, the most terrible thing is loneliness day after day. I have seen and heard of many poor people, but he is the first one who is so lonely and miserable. I don't know how many left-behind children in those remote mountainous areas are like this.

Some people may say that his parents don't want this, and there is nothing they can do. Yes, you can't improve your life, but you can have no children! Love and companionship are irreparable. Just like fourteen-year-old Liang Xun, who is chronically malnourished, looks less than ten years old. How to make up for it in the future may not necessarily make you a strong man like your peers.

Raising but not loving is not limited to poor families. I once heard a friend say that one of his relatives is a young girl. Unfortunately, the girl had cancer, but she didn't tell her family and didn't want to receive chemotherapy. She just wants to die in peace. By the time her parents found out, it was too late. She said that her parents are extremely selfish and indifferent people, and they have never felt love since childhood. "It's just a relief," she said easily. The living conditions of the girl's family are still excellent, and she has successfully finished college, but simple parenting is not love, love is not giving, love is heartfelt care and companionship, and love makes people feel warm and hopeful.

Because of my work, I will come into contact with some juvenile offenders. Most of them have one thing in common: parents are born without love. A 14-year-old accidentally stabbed his father to death because of domestic violence; A fighting boy whose parents have gone out to work for many years without news and lack of discipline; Some children have no choice but to steal things because their parents refuse to pay for school uniforms. All kinds of cases have shocked me. Someone joked that it's terrible that parents can go to work if they don't pass the exam.

I remember a female prisoner who was sentenced for drug trafficking. After the court, I met her young daughter. The little girl asked me, "My mother is in prison. Can I get a new mother? " What the little girl said was childish, but I heard it badly. Her father has been missing for many years and her mother has been taking drugs for a long time. Her elderly grandmother is her only support, but not long ago, she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Due to the compression of the optic nerve, she was almost blind. Looking into the innocent eyes of the little girl, I was speechless.

It is a great evil in the world to be born without raising, and to raise without loving. This evil is so far away and so close to us that it is closely related to each of us. We all have the right to have children. Please don't have children when you are not ready to be a parent. When you can't provide a good living environment, please think twice. Since you choose to live, you should try to pass on your love and don't let your own flesh and blood suffer in the world. This is what qualified parents should do.