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What does it mean to be unconscious when getting married in ancient times?

The wedding will be held at dusk. In ancient China, the word "marriage" was written as "faint", which has a very long history. Zheng Xuan's note "Zhou Li" pointed out that "in ancient times, there was a ceremony of marrying a wife, which lasted for a period of fainting". Generally speaking, in ancient China, for a long time, marriage was held at dusk, which meant that Yin and Yang gradually alternated, so it was called "marriage".

In ancient times, there were inexplicable beliefs about time and good luck. The "auspicious time has come" often heard in film and television dramas, and then implement related matters. It can be seen that the ancients attached importance to time. In particular, some major events pay more attention to time. And the wedding time in ancient times was also very particular.

This is the auspicious day of the Chinese zodiac, which was calculated by both sides and asked by "experts" very early. Although superstitious, it is understandable. Many times, what we seek is a kind of psychological comfort, and we pray for some success in our hearts. And the wedding time is a little particular. Now people's weddings are usually held in the morning, which makes them feel full of energy in the day, but in ancient times, weddings were usually held in the afternoon. It is said that the evolution of the word "marriage" is that women get married at dusk, which is called "marriage".

This is related to the earliest marriage tradition. According to legend, from the earliest ancient society to the patriarchal society, the custom of robbing marriage was very popular in the past. The so-called wedding robbery means that the man calls his relatives and friends to the woman's house at dusk, and it is not dark and the ground is not bright, forcing him to marry himself. The peak time of this kind of wedding is usually in the afternoon or dusk. This is why in many film and television dramas, weddings are usually held, guests have dinner, and then the wedding is just right.

The basic steps of ancient marriage:

Ancient marriage

The old-style wedding evolved from the ancient "six ceremonies" (one ceremony, two questions, three ceremonies, four ceremonies, five invitations to the sun, and six weddings).

Propose marriage

When a man and a woman get married, the matchmaker, according to their parents' instructions, thinks that the door is right, and presses the exchanged "Geng Tie" (age and birthday) on the bottom of the net cup in front of the kitchen god statue to test God's will. If there are no "abnormal" situations such as broken bowls and lamps, disgusting meals, quarreling with family members, restless cats and dogs at home within three days, please ask the fortune teller to "arrange eight characters" to see if the year is appropriate and the zodiac is compatible. In the old society, some people were superstitious about the so-called six-year big rush and three-year small rush; Men get married at the age of two, and women don't get married at the age of nineteen; It is said that it is difficult to compare chickens with dogs (chickens are at odds with dogs), dragons with tigers (dragons and tigers fight each other), tigers with sheep (sheep fall into the tiger's mouth) and snakes with mice (snakes and mice swallow mice). It is considered that relatives can only be discussed if they are comprehensive.

be engaged in

Discuss relatives before engagement, then discuss "small gifts" and bargain in the age of buying and selling marriage. Generally, it is "four magenta" or "six magenta" (four to six pieces of satin), two gold rings and a pair of gold earrings; Bridal gift, small gift 36, middle gift 64, big gift 120 (silver dollar); The quantity of food is "sixty-four", that is, 64 pairs of baotou, 64 oil bags, 64 biscuits and so on. There are 2 to 8 loads of old wine, so it is called "old wine bottle". After the engagement, the man carried the above gift to the woman with a barbell. The woman's gifts are mostly gold balls, oil bags and embroidery made by her daughter.

The engagement certificate is given by the man as a "book", commonly known as "red and green book paper" (two layers of paper are red outside and green inside), and the woman recognizes it as "reply", commonly known as "Wen Ding". In the old society, couples quarreled, and my wife often said that I had a "red and green book" to restrain my husband. After the "Wen Ding", choose an auspicious day to get married, and the day shop will choose a "good day".

Gifts from relatives and friends, weddings are mostly cash, or happy events, happy axes, and books such as "A Hundred Years of Harmony, Five Generations under One Family" and "A Match Made in Heaven". Most wedding gifts are embroidered or satin quilts, quilts or daily utensils, but there are also red dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds, which means "having children early". In the old days, there was a custom that matchmakers could not drink tea for the first time, saying that "matchmakers don't drink tea", and drinking tea should dilute marriage. The matchmaker is also called "the matchmaker's wardrobe". If the matchmaker can eat a hundred meals, he should be rewarded with "wine to thank the matchmaker" However, if there is disagreement between husband and wife or between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, the matchmaker has the responsibility to mediate.

The ancients got married

marry

Please have a drink to celebrate the wedding. This day is called a "good day". As the saying goes, "Eat wine to worship life". A few days ago, the groom invited his elders and relatives to have a wedding banquet (good day wine) and used red paper to "Zhi Dan". The elders should write the word "Zhi" under their names. A few days ago, people used to wait for their husbands and wives to get married. Parents of both sides invited their children to eat steamed stuffed buns, clams, elbows, chestnuts and lotus seeds to win the prize of "five sons entering the Ministry".

Three or five days before the wedding, the man gives the woman a "sedan chair", usually two geese, 1 square meat and two fish. Seeing the bride price, the man goes to the woman's house to move the bride price (dowry), and the woman puts the bride price in the hall for people to watch, which is called "seeing the bride price". The utensils are hung with red colored lines, the clothes are smoked with sandalwood, and a few silver dollars are put at the bottom of the box, commonly known as "box money".

The dowry is moved to the man and displayed in the hall for people to watch, also called "seeing the dowry". The woman's key bag is held by the grandmother, and the key is taken out of the box, commonly known as "taking out the box". The day before the wedding ceremony, the man wanted to have sex. A "Quanfu" woman tied 24 pairs of chopsticks and put them under the groom's mat, which is called "going to bed". One to three nights before marriage, a little boy with both parents slept with the groom and was called the "best man".

In the evening, I will give the little boy buns, peanuts and eggs, which means "having a son". On the morning of "Good Day", I will give him a red envelope, commonly known as "pulling out the urinal". One or two days before enjoying the first good day, the man's family got sedan chairs and wedding utensils from the furniture store, hung lights and hung colorful decorations. These banquets were called "light meals". On the auspicious day of the fifth watch, the male family offered sacrifices to the "Master of Heaven and Earth" in class, commonly known as "enjoying the first". Eat "enjoy the first soup fruit" for breakfast. Take a sedan chair. Ningbo prostitutes get married and sit in sedan chairs. Legend has it that the well-off king (Emperor Gaozong) in the Southern Song Dynasty fled to Mingzhou, and the nomadic people pursued him. He was saved by a woman, and later he couldn't find a graceful woman. A woman married in Mingzhou was granted semi-riding treatment, wearing a rockhopper and sitting in a sedan chair.

after marriage

Get up the next day, the groom must open the door. On that day, the man prepared a sedan chair for his uncle, who returned to his new home in A-mei to have a rest after three refreshments. At the luncheon, I invited my uncle to sit as the chief, calling it "meeting relatives for a wedding banquet" and avoiding hairy crabs (my uncle jokingly called them hairy crabs). After the banquet, pick up the groom in a sedan chair and accompany the bride back to her parents' home. This is called "returning to the door". Send a "mother-like dish" with the sedan chair.

Parents-in-law's family banquet is the "first-born son-in-law" and avoid using rock sugar turtle. After the banquet, the bride came out of the car door, and the noisy guests spread twenty or thirty benches from the front of the car to the new car door in advance, and set up a "Fairy Bridge", asking the groom to help the bride cross the "bridge". The guests smiled and urged. If you walk steadily, fold another bench on the "bridgehead" bench in front of the new house, and give the bride an oil bag to bite the oil bag, which is euphemistically called "Carp jumping over the dragon gate".

On the third day, "on the third day, cook instead of me and wash your hands to make bride soup", the bride cooks and distributes the cooked sugar noodles to neighbors. The full moon wedding will be called "full moon wedding" next month, and the parents-in-law will send someone to give gifts. A number of gift certificates were also given to the in-laws to reward those who arranged the wedding, commonly known as "laughing tickets". In the old society, there was a big gap between the rich and the poor. All these people are wealthy middle-class families. As for the poor family, cut a double happiness word out of cardboard, stick gold paper on it, hang a pair of candles and a crappy sedan chair on the wall, and then get married. After entering the Republic of China, the custom of complicated marriage gradually changed. After the May 4th Movement, civilized marriage began among educated youth.