Make friends taboo.

The taboo of making friends circle is our personal social platform. It makes sense to send whatever you want, but in order to establish good interpersonal relationships, you should pay attention to some matters when sending friends. Let's take you to understand the taboos of making friends.

Taboo to send a circle of friends 1 Taboo 1: Don't send a circle of friends frequently.

In economics, a very important concept is called marginal utility. What is marginal utility? What does it have to do with making friends?

Simply put, an object's satisfaction with people's needs is called utility. With the increase of objects, its satisfaction with people or utility is decreasing. Isn't there an old saying:

Jiaozi is tired of eating too much.

When you eat the first jiaozi, you will feel very satisfied, delicious and full of praise. As the amount of food increases, this satisfaction will gradually fade until you are full. If you continue to eat, you will vomit. This is the principle of diminishing marginal utility.

Then, the circle of friends also conforms to the principle of diminishing marginal utility. Your first circle of friends today, when your friends see it, will praise you, leave you a message or actively interact with you, because the information you send satisfies their desire and curiosity for communication. However, if you send many friends a day, your friends' likes and messages will gradually decrease. Because the marginal effect of friends circle information is gradually decreasing, if it is sent too much and too frequently, it will even cause resentment of others.

Sometimes, no one in your circle of friends pays attention. Don't think they are busy or don't see it, because they are too lazy to pay attention to you. Everyone's energy is limited. If you pass this information to others very frequently and it appears on other people's mobile phone screens, you are actually occupying other people's attention in disguise. Don't send friends too often, it is more appropriate to send them once a day or once every two days.

Taboo 2: Don't spread negative energy.

Some people are used to venting their dissatisfaction with their work and life in the circle of friends. Many people do this. Maybe many people around you do this. You feel used to it, but in essence, it is not good to do so.

1. It is right to vent your dissatisfaction or complaints, but if you put them in the online world and don't want to express them in reality, it is mostly out of an escape mentality. Moreover, the expressions on the Internet are mostly your own one-way output, lacking two-way interaction. This way of venting can not only relieve your negative emotions, but also make you fall into endless negative emotions and make yourself more miserable.

These complaints and dissatisfaction are actually your ideological rubbish. You put it in a circle of friends, in fact, you regard your circle of friends as a garbage station. Then for others, your behavior will bring negative energy to others, directly affecting or inspiring their negative emotions.

Recently, the popular variety show "Youth has You in the Second Season", it is actually a very good way for students to get a mobile phone that has been banned for a long time, call their parents or relatives and friends, and pour out their dissatisfaction in the program.

When faced with the disappointments in life and work, the best way is to find intimate friends and relatives to communicate face to face in reality. Pay attention to the key words here: reality and relatives and friends.

Why in "reality"? It's like "the one who tied the bell must untie the bell". Problems in reality, of course, should be solved in reality, not online or in a circle of friends.

Why "friends and family"? Relatives and friends are mostly their own intimate relationships. No matter what kind of contradiction you have, it is the courage and dependence that keeps you going when you encounter setbacks.

Taboo 3: Don't deliberately block someone.

Some people will deliberately block someone or some people when they send a circle of friends, and then let their information be selectively passed on to the people they want to pass on.

This is a network world. Naked cliques are the most unwise choice, which also shows that you underestimate the speed and way of information dissemination in the online world. Once a piece of information is put on the internet, it is impossible to predict where it will spread. Because the circle of friends is too complicated. You may not be in a circle of friends with Ma Yun, but through the forwarding and sharing of countless people, your circle of friends information is very likely to appear in his mobile phone.

At the same time, can you guarantee that friends who get your information will not pass it on to people you block? I don't think anyone can guarantee it, because an irrefutable fact is this:

There are no secrets in the online world.

Taboo 4: Don't deliberately show off yourself.

Say "share" before saying "show off".

Sharing is a very important function of friends circle. In the circle of friends, we can share our happiness, our life, our experiences and so on. By sharing, we can see more of the world, which is the advantage of the network. It will also make people know you better, which is also the basis for building friendship.

But some people confuse "sharing" with "showing off".

For example, today, your boyfriend proposed to you and bought you a valuable diamond ring. It is normal to share such precious life memories in a circle of friends. But some people insist on "gilding the lily". After uploading the pictures of the proposal scene and the diamond ring, they should write a long introduction and comment, giving a complete introduction of their valuable diamond ring, such as price, place of origin, brand and so on. This is completely trite and completely ostentatious.

Sharing means "I am happy and I hope you are happy". Showing off is "I'm glad, I hope you stand by and watch or look up". Their motives are essentially different. Therefore, before you send a circle of friends, ask yourself your motivation, and then consider how others will feel when you send this circle of friends.

However, there are exceptions. Sometimes, you just want to share your happiness, but you don't want to show it off, such as photos of traveling abroad and enjoying a comfortable breakfast in a high-end hotel. Instead, it will cause jealousy among friends in the circle. Then it's not your problem, it's your friend's problem. Some people get upset when they see that others are better than themselves and there is nothing they can do. For such a friend, either you get used to him or you drag him down.

Taboos in the circle of friends II

Taboo 1. Children's photos and information should not be exposed at will.

Some mothers like to send photos of their babies to friends, and some even publish their real names together. In fact, this is very dangerous, but it provides an excellent opportunity for some unscrupulous scammers. Therefore, although the baby is cute, don't just sunbathe in the WeChat circle of friends.

Taboo 2. Don't tamper with some bills related to personal information.

Some people like to show off in their circle of friends anytime and anywhere, no matter big or small. For example, if they go out for a trip or business trip and don't want to write more, they will send their air tickets and boarding passes to their circle of friends. In fact, this is very dangerous. Once these bills containing personal information are used by some people with ulterior motives, it will be very tragic.

Taboo three. Don't just be satisfied with your position.

Some people, whether traveling abroad or eating out, always like to take some photos to share with their friends and get some compliments from their friends with joy. Because today's smart phones are fully functional, the location is clearly exposed when they are dynamic. If this is targeted by some thieves or malicious people, it will be very troublesome.

Taboo 4. Don't forward events with unknown truth at will.

Don't casually forward the following negative events with unknown sources and unknown truth to the circle of friends. If you don't pay attention, you may inadvertently become a disseminator of rumors or help others.

Taboo five. Don't send dynamic messages to valuables at will.

Women are more or less vain and like to compare with others, so some female friends like to send their newly bought valuables, such as brand-name bags and jewelry, to their friends to show off. This is very inappropriate, because the current circle of friends is mixed, and these valuables that you have no intention of drying are likely to cause jealousy or even malice of some people with ulterior motives.

Generally speaking, the appearance of WeChat has really brought a lot of convenience to people. In the past, relatives and friends were far away, so it was inconvenient to meet. When they miss each other, they all contact each other by email or telephone. Now that we have WeChat, we can get a response as soon as we make a phone call, which saves more time and money than letters and phone calls. Although it is very convenient, you still need to pay attention to the following points in use. When using WeChat at ordinary times, it is better to turn off the functions of "People nearby", "Places frequented", "Allow search" and "Allow viewing", and turn them on temporarily when necessary, which will be safer.