Shanghai tycoon du's philosophy of dealing with people: every sentence is classic, and what you have learned is applied.

In the Shili foreign exchange in old Shanghai, no one's social circle can reach Du's breadth and depth, from celebrities in business, military and literary circles to local gang leaders and restaurant owners. When they mentioned Du, they had to say "clothes" to show their admiration or jealousy. Du was born a local ruffian, and the way to make friends with powerful people is nothing more than the words "money" and "sex", but Du always has the ability to make people speechless.

Du Yuesheng once said to his daughter Du Rumei: "The most important thing for a person is not how much he has learned and how much knowledge he has, but whether he can use people. If you can use people, the wisdom of others belongs to you, which means that your knowledge is wider. " In real life, Du has such a group of think tanks around him. They are engaged in all walks of life, or make friends widely, or make in-depth research in a certain field. Every time Du wants to get in touch with a celebrity, he will consult with these think tanks, inquire about this person's preferences and taboos, and try to get close to him. Du is not stingy with money, and he is not afraid of trouble. It's just that how do these celebrities with social status and good face send money and gifts?

From boss Du to Mr. Du, remould self-image.

A gangster turned pale by ordinary people, and celebrities in both political and business circles stayed away from him. However, most scholars with a little backbone look down on these "Jianghu people" who kill and steal goods, and their words and deeds are vulgar. If Du doesn't change his image, even if he gives money to others, others won't accept it. Even if there is, he will still ask for help, and it is not a reciprocal relationship with them. I don't know how much cynicism I will secretly attract.

Du used money to make connections. The first step is not to make friends with celebrities directly, but to make yourself a figure at their level. In order to win a good reputation, Du sends people to his hometown in Gao Qiao to send medicine and buy coffins every year. In winter, he will also purchase a large number of quilts and send them to the countryside. In the eyes of Du villagers, this young man who broke out came back not only to build a magnificent ancestral temple, but also to remember his roots. No matter what he did outside, in Gao Qiao's heart, he was a good man.

And as long as it is in front of Du Fu for help at ordinary times, Du will never let go. If life is really difficult, Du will ask someone to take some money to help. Moreover, every year before winter, Du will find a clothing store to order quilts in advance, and the poor who come to Du Fu for help can go directly to the store to get quilts with the receipt.

Say these, not in praise of Du is really a kind-hearted man, but Du is not just for the sake of fame, because he has been living on the streets, homeless, and he has a noble person to help him in the most difficult time, so he deeply understands the pain and has always maintained a certain degree of goodwill to these people. There is another most important reason. He firmly believes that connections are not only at the top. Helping one more person may leave yourself an extra way out in the future.

Du also came from poor days. He knows that it is too difficult for a foreigner to establish himself in such a big Shanghai. Du Yuesheng once slept on the street and was homeless. He is hungry in the cold winter. He also hopes that someone can lend a helping hand, give him a cotton-padded coat and give him a hot meal ... so Du will help those poor people if he has money. If these people are really rare in the future, they will never forget Du's kindness.

193 1 year, domestic floods flooded, and the Nanjing government called on all sectors of society to donate money to the people. Many celebrities with a sense of social responsibility have participated in the donation, and Du is the most active one. He not only donated a lot of money himself, but also cooperated with Beiyang government to persuade other businessmen to donate money and materials. It was soon discovered that Du's appeal to Shanghai and even Jiangsu and Zhejiang was even stronger than that of the government. It was under his influence that many officials and businessmen actively donated money and materials.

Du's name as a "good man" has spread all the way from Gao Qiao to Shanghai. Many people who don't know Du began to change their views on him and no longer equate him with ordinary thugs. But more people have never heard of Du before. When they first met Du, it was a positive and cordial report, and naturally they had a good impression on him. A big shot with economic strength, influence and social responsibility, who doesn't want to make friends? Du has laid this foundation, and this network resource will continue.

Sending money is neither humble nor humble.

In Du's heyday, he had more than 65,438+000 titles on his head, and he was also the director of various enterprises. Du Fu earns millions of dollars every year, while Du Fu spends millions every year. He is very generous and has holidays, but he will send some money to anyone who has relatives and friends. Needless to say, Huang He's colleagues in business and several figures in officialdom are usually well prepared, and they are indeed responsive. Usually there is no connection, and I ask for help in the face of things, so the gesture of sending money in the past is very humble. Many people understand this truth. Human relations is a university question, but it is difficult for many people to grasp the discretion-how to give money when others are down and out, and how to be arrogant?

Zhang Taiyan is a madman. He works like a book, scolding people whenever they feel uncomfortable and never avoiding it. He didn't like Yuan Shikai's behavior and abused him many times, no matter what others said. However, Zhang Taiyan appreciates Du without culture. At that time, Zhang Taiyan's nephew had a dispute with a person because of a property in the French Concession in Shanghai. The other side is arrogant and unreasonable, and there are still some forces behind it. Zhang Taiyan's nephew, not to be taunted, came to ask Zhang Taiyan. Someone suggested that Zhang Taiyan write a letter to Du and ask him for help.

Zhang Taiyan has never seen Du before. He wrote a letter to Du and sent it to Du Mansion. Du was flattered. He admired Zhang Taiyan, a literary giant, but he didn't have a chance to know him. Without saying anything, he used contacts to easily solve the problem of Zhang Taiyan's nephew. He also made a special trip to Suzhou to visit Zhang Taiyan and told him the whole story to reassure him.

Zhang Taiyan is famous outside, but in troubled times, he didn't save much money and had a hard time. Du could not bear to see Zhang Taiyan's simple living. When he left, he quietly stuffed a check for 2000 yuan under the teacup and left without saying a word.

When Zhang Taiyan found out, Du had already left. He took care of a scholar's face and also funded Zhang Taiyan's life. 2,000 yuan is not much for Du, but he knows that giving Zhang Taiyan too much at that time will increase his psychological burden. Once trust is established between people, it is a long-term communication. Zhang Taiyan admires Mr. Du's Jianghu personality. Later, Du Jian set up the ancestral hall of Du Jia and invited Zhang Taiyan to write articles for him. Zhang Taiyan wrote an eloquent article "High Ancestral Temple". Many articles say that Zhang Taiyan was bought with money. I don't know how the pride of the literati in the Republic of China can be easily bought by 2000 yuan!

"Not arrogant and impetuous" and "not flattering and not deceiving" are the essence of Du's life. No matter what his position in the Jianghu and how much power and wealth he has, he can make the other side feel respected and cordial.

Gifts should be sent to the heart.

Du has a close friend named. Du has many friends, but he is the only one who has spared no effort to help. Fan Shaozeng is called Commander Hal. When he first started to associate with Du, he was only a teacher of a miscellaneous army. Shanghai celebrities look down on local officials like this, but Du is willing to spend energy to make friends. Because of his wealth, power and prestige in Sichuan, a friend of Du intends to open a "morphine factory" in Sichuan, hoping that Du can introduce people. Du He didn't know each other, so they just wrote a letter to him, hoping that he could take care of this friend. Fan Shaozeng was very loyal and agreed at once.

Fan Shaozeng's "righteousness" du, of course, see in the eye, look up at him. After visiting Shanghai, Du's hospitality, eating, drinking and having fun were the highest level of treatment. Fan Shaozeng was injured on the battlefield, and the news reached Shanghai. Du immediately sent to Shanghai to take care of him and invited the best surgeon in Shanghai to treat him. I spent half a year in Shanghai, and all expenses were paid by Du. Fan Shaozeng not only healed the injury, but also had a loving relationship.

Took a fancy to a dancer named Huang. Huang is a famous social butterfly in Shanghai, surrounded by gentry and officials, so he naturally despises it. Fan Shaozeng spent a lot of money on Huang, but Huang accepted the money and refused to make a commitment. Fan Shaozeng had to leave Shanghai full of worries. After Fan Shaozeng left, Du found someone to call Huang directly, and was sent to his arms by special plane the next day. Since then, Fan Shaozeng has been more dead set on Du Yuesheng. At that time, Sichuan was rich in opium, and Du often got tens or hundreds of thousands of opium from it. After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, Du He came to Chongqing and has been living in his home.

Ma Weidou once said: Du is good at dealing with people. Especially these two things, let him admire! The first thing is that Du praised people's unique art, and the second thing is that Du was generous to people. Du is willing to give money and give gifts. The high level of giving gifts lies in being able to accurately hold the people around him. What they want, what they lack, Du is like a mirror.

Du Fu, Huang Fu, are the three richest people in Shanghai. Huang started earlier than Du Fu and started higher than Du Fu. But Du, the youngest, can stand out and become the number one among the three richest people, which is closely related to Du's way of dealing with people. He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. This is the glory of Du's life. When he has money, Du tries his best to take money to eliminate disasters for others. When he had no money, Du burned the IOUs written to him by others before his death. He didn't want his children to collect debts, but they were jealous. He said that money is scattered and people are scattered, and they implement a lifelong concept and are willing to die of poverty. This is Du's attitude towards money, and it is also a bigger place than Huang He.

Du left many rumors. It was Du who killed and set fire, Du who acted bravely, Du who sold opium, and Du who tried his best to send materials to the front during the Anti-Japanese War. In troubled times, he was doomed at birth, just like a loach. He was born in poverty and had to go astray. Du kept a very clear head from beginning to end. He doesn't want to be Mr. Du, a white man. He just wants to be Mr. Du. He left a legend in a special era and was good at dealing with different people.

This kind of person is good at doing things. I think if I can learn three points of persistence, four points of reason and five points of wisdom from him, it must be useful for life.

Du's prosperity is inseparable from his master Huang. After he made his fortune, he dug out Dai Li from all the people in Shanghai and supported the most difficult life in Dai Li. Huang and Dai Li, what is their life track? What are the interests and conflicts between these three people?

If you are interested in the history of these famous people, you might as well buy Du Quanzhuan, Huang Quanzhuan and Dai Li Quanzhuan. If you can read them carefully and understand them with your heart, you will certainly benefit a lot.

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