What was the final fate of ancient ladies-in-waiting?

In the feudal society of China, before the princess and the prince got married, they all sent people to try their marriage. The trial marriage system was born in the Qing Dynasty, which is a unique custom in the Qing Dynasty. But this system is limited to princes and princesses, and other princes and nobles are not allowed to have such behavior. Not only the prince but also the princess needs a trial marriage.

Many people may not understand the significance of trial marriage. According to the system of the Qing Dynasty, before the formal wedding, the prince would first select eight ladies-in-waiting with dignified appearance and good conduct from the palace to serve the prince's daily life. These eight people are the subjects of the prince's experiment, for the prince to choose to have sex, which is also to add some experience to the prince, so as to avoid being at a loss when he is officially married. In addition, 18 maids were selected to assist, and a total of 26 maids were arranged by the prince. As the palace ladies of the prince, they don't have to do manual labor anymore, and they can still get a generous salary every month, so this is a beautiful job that many palace ladies are vying for. They fantasized that one day they would be seen by the prince and fly high. This kind of trial marriage has advantages and disadvantages. Many princes find it difficult to control their desires, and their short life span is also related to too much sexual life.

After the prince gets married, the married princess certainly won't like being with her. If she is lucky, she will be taken as a concubine and depend on her for life. Those who are not accepted as concubines stay in the Prince's Mansion to do some menial work and die alone in the palace.

Princesses in the Qing dynasty also needed a trial marriage. Of course, that's not a princess, but a husband. After the princess chooses Xu, Empress Dowager Cixi will personally choose a maid-in-waiting as a trial marriage space. You may think, how can this princess allow her husband to have an affair with others? In feudal society, we pay attention to life. Marry a chicken with a chicken, and marry a dog with a dog. Generally, you cannot remarry after marriage. Therefore, for the sake of future happiness, we must treat this couple with caution. For example, Princess Yong Cheng in Wanli period died after drinking a little wine on her wedding day, and she was widowed all her life. Therefore, Gege, who is preparing to get married, had to live in the past for a few days to examine Master Xu's physical condition, whether he has any hidden diseases, whether he is dignified and so on. In the evening, I will have sex with Ma Xu, and then the next day, Gege will report to the Queen Mother about all aspects of Ma Xu, time tolerance, physical defects, personality and so on. After the trial marriage is qualified, the princess can officially get married.

Noble princesses will become Xu's original match, and some will stay with Xu as concubines or maids. For many princesses, they will be jealous and drive them out of the palace. Their survival is a problem. It doesn't matter how they are. No one will care. They are inferior and just victims of marriage.

Trial marriage is a major feature of the Qing court. Before the princess got married, the maid-in-waiting was arranged to test Xu's moral character and sexual ability in order to ensure the stability of the princess's marriage.

The princess is the daughter of the emperor, with a noble status and a set of etiquette for marriage. Generally, it is divided into three major processes: referring to marriage, winning the prize, and going out, which is true in all dynasties.

But in the Qing Dynasty, the trial marriage was added. Why are you doing this? Mainly because most of the princesses in the Ming Dynasty were unhappy. In order to prevent consorts from interfering in politics, Zhu Yuanzhang made a rule that maids should marry junior officials or generals.

In fact, Zhu Yuanzhang's starting point was good, but it also caused a bad consequence, which was to lower the status of the princess. For the royal family or ministers, the princess's marriage has no political interests, so most of them pay little attention to it, which also leads to the misfortune of many princess marriages.

The most ridiculous thing is that yongning princess married a ghost with consumption in Wanli. On the wedding day, Xu vomited blood on the spot when he went to church. She died young less than a month after marriage, and the princess died of depression after several years of widowhood.

This also shows that the royal daughter, like ordinary people, will eventually ruin her life by marrying the wrong man.

After the founding of the Qing dynasty, in order to maintain the rule, the royal marriage basically chose political marriage, so the durability and stability of princess marriage became the most important, so there was the theory of trial marriage.

The purpose of the trial marriage in Qing dynasty was not for the "sexual" happiness of the princess after marriage, as rumored on the Internet. The emperors of the Qing Dynasty were not so noble. Its main purpose is to test Xu's moral character and physical quality. As for the test of sexual ability, it is also to ensure the harmony after marriage, thus maintaining the stability of marriage.

What the Qing emperor meant was that after marriage, Xu and his elders were given a banquet in the imperial court, and then the date was set. When Xu came back, he began to hold a bride price according to the regulations of the court.

Near the wedding day, the queen mother or queen will choose one or two of the princess's personal maids and try to get married at Fuma House.

In fact, the role of the maid-in-waiting in trial marriage is equivalent to the dowry of a daughter married by a large family in ancient times. Generally, a dowry girl becomes a servant girl when she arrives at her master's house, and she also gives vent to her master's animal desires.

If the young lady is generous, the servant girl can become a side wife. But not all maids have such good luck. For example, Pinger in A Dream of Red Mansions is the dowry girl of Wang Xifeng.

In order to control Jia Lian's heart, Wang Xifeng made Pinger a servant girl when it was inconvenient or when Jia Lian was "early adopters", but Wang Xifeng was jealous and Pinger just became a temporary vent tool.

The maid-in-waiting in the trial marriage is also equal to Pinger's role. The difference is that the marriage of Princess Qing is of great significance, so we should try to get married first.

On the day of the trial marriage, the maid-in-waiting should observe Xu's temper, appearance and physical appearance during the day, and whether there are obvious physical defects. When having sex with Xu at night, you should first check Xu's body, and then test Xu's fighting capacity and endurance when having sex.

In fact, as long as Xu has no sexual dysfunction, he will generally pass the test. Because in ancient times, before getting married, the young master of a big family would arrange for the maids to have sex drills at home. Marrying a princess is a big deal, and senior officials are naturally cautious. They have trained their son to be a tiger at the foot of the mountain.

After the maid-in-waiting for the trial marriage has finished the process, she should inform the queen mother or queen of the details of the trial marriage. After the husband passed the examination, the marriage was carried out as scheduled, but the engagement was dissolved.

Finally, talk about the ending of the trial maid. The princess has a noble status, and Xu needs to ask for instructions to get through the palace gate. So if the princess is jealous, then there is basically no chance for Xu and the maid-in-waiting to get married again, and the maid-in-waiting can only live for a lifetime, but her treatment in the Xu family is higher than all other maids.

But there are exceptions to everything. For example, Feng?enyende, the son of Xiao Shenyang, is very lucky in sex. He inherited his father's ability to "kiss up" and coaxed Gulen and Princess Xiao very well. He not only married the maid-in-waiting who tried to get married, but also married several concubines.

But jealousy is a woman's nature. Because when Feng?enyende was having fun, he didn't pay attention to avoid Gu Lun and Xiao, and knocked over the jealousy. The princess was angry and told her brother Jiaqing.

Feng?enyende was dismissed and knighted. Because his father, Xiao Shenyang, used to copy it from his home, he doesn't have any income now, and even depends on the princess to give him food, so his concubines will be dissolved.

It can be seen that in ancient times, whether they were trial maids or husbands, their fate was in the hands of the royal family. As for the final outcome, they had to resign themselves to fate.

Maids who tried to get married were called "princesses who tried to get married", and "princesses who tried to get married" appeared in various dynasties, especially in the Qing Dynasty.

So what is a "trial princess"?

As we all know, the bride and groom-to-be lived together for a period of time without formal marriage. The main purpose is to see if they can get along well and stay together for a long time after marriage. This phenomenon is very common now. It is considered to be a fact that young men and women live together after falling in love to a certain extent.

The trial marriage princess, as its name implies, is a kind of marriage system in which the maid-in-waiting replaces the princess in the prospective husband's house. The main purpose of trying to eat a princess and her husband-to-be for a period of time is to observe the specific situation of her husband-to-be, including personality, body and so on.

Some people may ask, why did the phenomenon of "wanting to marry a princess" appear in ancient times? Perhaps it seems that this marriage system is really difficult for us to understand now, but it is very common in the ancient royal family. The princess is the daughter of the emperor, and her position is extremely noble. Even princes and ministers hardly see princesses, let alone ordinary officials and ordinary people. Like a princess on TV, she easily escaped from the palace, traveled incognito and so on. And almost nothing will appear except troubled times!

Since it is difficult for a princess to be seen by others, it is also difficult for a natural princess to contact outsiders. Therefore, when princesses reach marriageable age, their fiance can only be "chosen" by the court. Because the princess and the husband-to-be have never met, the princesses simply don't know their specific situation, especially their personality and physical condition. The imperial court "chose husbands" for princesses, mainly considering family background. After all, suitability is very important. However, in addition to family conditions, the quality of marriage is more important for married princesses. This is something that the imperial court cannot choose for the princesses. For example, a lucky princess may meet a strong Xu, while an unfortunate princess meets a weak Xu, which will last her whole life.

So for the happy life of the princesses after marriage, the princess who wants to get married was born. Whenever the princess gets married, the royal family will choose a smart and beautiful maid-in-waiting to live with the prospective husband and wife in advance. During this period, the maid-in-waiting who is ready to get married can carefully observe the words and deeds of the prospective couple and report the specific situation to the palace, and then the royal family will comprehensively consider whether the princess should get married according to these situations.

As for the final outcome of the trial princess, there is no unified answer. Maids themselves are girls from the bottom of society. Most of them were forced by life from the beginning. Therefore, most of these maids who tried to get married returned to the palace because of their unequal status after the princess was officially married. Of course, some of them will marry the princess as dowry, but they are still maids, and their status will never be because they had that trial marriage.

Because of the deep-rooted concept that men are superior to women, and the poor background and experience of the trial marriage, the fate of the trial marriage princess will be very tragic.

China ancient people were extremely feudal, ashamed to talk about sex, and lacked sex education since childhood. Wedding night, there are many people sleeping in a bed with nothing to do. This is true among the people, and it is also true in Gong Yan before the appearance of trial maids. However, the succession of the emperor's royal family is related to world peace. How can you take the important events of Jiangshan country for granted? Therefore, the ladies who tried to get married came into being.

Maid-in-waiting trial marriage is a popular "trial marriage system" in the Qing Dynasty, which is responsible for pre-marital physiological enlightenment to the prince, grandson and princess to be married, and checking whether Xu's physical quality is normal.

The pre-marital sexual enlightenment of the prince and grandson is not a joke, and the maids who try to marry should also be trained. They are all professionally trained from experienced and older maids, and they are basically familiar old drivers when they are selected. Princes and grandsons usually start sleeping when they are twelve or thirteen. In the Qing Dynasty, before the emperor's wedding, there were generally more than a dozen maids-in-waiting, and eight maids-in-waiting tried to get married. The situation is extremely huge. As for the battlefield scene images, please make up your own brains. It is said that the last emperor Puyi was badly beaten in this way. With his lifelong physical defects, the maids who tried to get married contributed a lot.

The maid-in-waiting who is trying to marry is also called the princess who is trying to marry. Daifei tests the physical strength, fighting capacity, character and temperament of both husband and wife before marriage, and is generally selected by the queen mother.

Most of these ladies-in-waiting who tried to get married ended in misery. If the maid-in-waiting emperor can attack the concubine after giving birth, even if she can't fly to the branches, she will have higher salary and lighter labor than the average maid-in-waiting, and the emperor's woman will inevitably die of old age in the palace. However, the test of Ma Xu's maid-in-waiting, if the princess gets married smoothly, will also get married, so she will be Ma Xu's concubine or waiting for a woman, but the chance of a good ending is very low. Once the princess's marriage is ruined, she may be expelled from the palace without chastity, and it will be difficult to get married when she returns to the palace. Therefore, the maid-in-waiting who tried marriage was the victim of Gong Yan's marriage, and the best youth in her life was thus ruined.

Trial marriage can be simply understood as an experimental marriage, not a formal marriage, but an experiment before both men and women formally enter the marriage hall. The so-called emperor's daughter is not worried about marriage. As a tool and a community of interests to safeguard the imperial power, the princess's identity not only brings them glory, but also has their responsibility as the daughter of the emperor.

Because of the special status of the princess, their marriage has become particularly cautious, and sometimes even become a political tool or political victim.

But after all, the status of the princess is noble. So when the princess got married, there was a saying that the royal family tried to get married. Simply put, it is to send a maid-in-waiting to sleep with Xu. The purpose of the trial marriage is to pay the most attention to Xu's physical quality and other functions, and also to observe Xu's character.

When the royal trial marriage developed to the Qing Dynasty, princesses may have learned the painful lessons of their predecessors and creatively introduced the trial marriage system. First of all, the queen or queen mother chooses a clever maid-in-waiting and calls her a "trial marriage princess".

The purpose of the trial marriage is to try Ma Xu, and the way to try it is very simple, that is, sharing a bed for one night.

The next day, at the trial marriage, Gege will report Xu's situation to the Empress Dowager or the Empress Dowager. The contents of the report include whether Master Xu has physical defects, temper and personality. , and shall report in detail.

Of course, there are some problems. The emperor is the only real man in the harem. If a woman is favored by the emperor, it is naturally impossible to serve Xu.

It is not difficult to speculate that the so-called trial marriage princess should be a yellow flower girl who doesn't understand sexual intercourse. The knowledge she gained about men and women was mainly inspired by the queen or queen mother. Therefore, the accuracy of the information obtained by the trial princess will be greatly reduced.

After all, Gege has a little knowledge of men and women who are trying to get married, so how can you see whether Xu's performance is good or not?

The prospective son-in-law naturally knows that this is a test for the Queen Mother or the Queen Mother. Therefore, on the night of the trial marriage, Gege will naturally make extra efforts to leave a "good impression".

So, what happened to these trial ladies?

Actually, in terms of this score.

If the prospective husband meets all the requirements, then the princess will marry. At this time, Princess Gege will naturally follow suit. After all, she has already had sex with her husband-to-be. However, the status of princess and maid-in-waiting is obviously different, and the fate of trial marriage directly depends on the attitude of princess.

If the princess is kind-hearted, Princess Gege may become Xu's concubine. If the princess is narrow-minded and doesn't like other women around her husband, it is very likely that the princess will become a maid around her, or she may be constantly targeted and tortured by her.

There is another situation, that is, it does not meet the conditions of Ma Xu. The reason for general dissatisfaction may be that there are defects in some aspects. At this time, the prospective husband not only can't marry the princess, but his defects will also be known by others.

Therefore, permission will put the blame on the trial princess, and generally those who are qualified to become Xu have a certain status, so the outcome of the trial princess will be even more tragic at this time.

Generally speaking, most maids who want to get married are unlucky.

Trial marriage ladies-in-waiting is a unique landscape in Qing Dynasty. After the Qing dynasty entered the customs, it adopted the system of the former dynasty, commonly known as the "Qing system." However, the Qing dynasty was not entirely brought about by instant enjoyment, nor was it without a little innovative spirit. On the contrary, on the basis of accumulating the experience of the previous dynasties, it has explored a set of rules and regulations suitable for its own development, such as "respecting houses" and "trying to marry maids" with independent intellectual property rights. Because the respectful room has nothing to do with the topic, I won't repeat it here.

The maid-in-waiting for trial marriage, also known as the "princess for trial marriage", was a woman who tried to marry the children of royalty in the Qing Dynasty. But this Gege is not another Gege. They are often born civilians. Although the name is the same, the identity is different from the real one.

The birth of the maid-in-waiting for trial marriage originated from a true story in the Wanli period of the Ming Dynasty.

In March of the 10th year of Wanli (1582), yongning princess, the sister of Emperor Wanli, got married. However, Liang Bangrui died only two months after marriage. 12 years later, yongning princess died in solitude and remained a virgin until her death. Then, why is marriage so sad for an absolutely beautiful princess? The reason is that there was no maid-in-waiting to try marriage for the princess, so Feng Bao, the eunuch who made a fool of himself, was cheated.

In his early years, Feng Bao was the most trusted person of Emperor Wanli, so he used the emperor's favor to do bad things at will. It turned out that although Liang Bangrui was born in a rich family, he suffered from consumption and was terminally ill. Liang Bangrui's family bribed the eunuch in order to climb the imperial family, so with Zhang's approval, the beautiful and kind yongning princess married a sick ghost. It is said that on the wedding day, Liang Bangrui was covered in blood and wanted to faint. In this way, yongning princess, who married the wrong person, was doomed to a miserable life.

Of course, there are many unknown evils hidden behind the unfortunate marriage between Liang Bangrui and yongning princess, but subjectively speaking, yongning princess was indeed cheated. If Li Taihou (yongning princess's mother) at that time could choose a "maid-in-waiting" for her daughter to visit, perhaps misfortune could be avoided. Therefore, the Qing dynasty, which inherited the mantle of the Ming dynasty, will not forget the lessons learned from the past, so a system of inquiring for Gege in advance has emerged.

Although Gege in the Qing Dynasty would not marry a folk, she would devote herself to the politics of Manchu-Mongolian integration and go to a distant place to combine with the other half. This distant place is the Mongolian desert grassland. In contemporary times, distance is not distance, but in the Qing dynasty hundreds of years ago, it was still a kind of "where, before me, those lost years?" Behind me, are the future generations? " . I think of heaven and earth, there is no limit, there is no end, I am alone, tears fall down "despair, and this distance will make the matchmaker who can tell the living dead useless." Therefore, in order to ensure the happiness of golden branches and jade leaves and become an indispensable procedure for royal horse selection, the role of trial marriage is particularly important.

In this way, the first bride chosen to accompany the horse is a fake princess, and her task is to spy on the "enemy situation." Therefore, the name attached to the horse must be refreshed and not sloppy at all, because if we fail in the exam, we will lose the qualification to marry Zhenggege. At this time, the attached horse will try to express itself and show the most perfect side of a man. After a few days' test, the maid-in-waiting who is trying to get married will know the horse's temper, personality and physical health clearly, and then come back to me, and the task will be completed.

So, what is the fate of these trial ladies?

In fact, don't think about it, it's certainly not much better, because they are making wedding dresses for others from beginning to end. Under normal circumstances, they will go to the man's house to give Gege a dowry and become concubines who serve their masters. Take it, concubine, and welcome it with shame. Therefore, concubines are the lowest role in a family, and resignation is their only choice, and they can never steal the limelight of Zhenggege.

There are generally three situations. First, I was lucky enough to meet a reasonable princess and promised to marry her to the Xu family. The maid-in-waiting who tried to marry became a concubine, but she was still restricted and could never be a wife.

The second is the unfortunate encounter with an unruly Gege, who refused to get married, even though she was tortured to death by Gege soon after marriage.

The third is that Xu is unqualified, so Gege will choose Xu again, and the maid-in-waiting who wants to marry will be miserable and can only marry Xu who wants to marry. If Xu doesn't accept it, she can only be driven out of the palace to die. Whether they live well or not depends on their own luck, and sometimes they live worse than prostitutes in China.

The fate of the maid-in-waiting who tried to get married was mixed.

Then what is a trial marriage? Literally, it is a trial marriage.

But this was not the case in ancient times. Someone else tried it for you. Generally, it is the maid-in-waiting who gives the princess and Gege a trial marriage, which is euphemistically called "Gege".

Mainly in ancient times, marriage was generally decided by parents, so you can marry whoever you want, just like the emperor gave you marriage and asked you to marry the Seventh Princess.

At this time, two people have never met each other, such as blind date now, and no one has seen anyone, but now I can see a photo better. In ancient times, there was nothing but hearsay.

After all, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, so they have a trial marriage program.

The purpose is very simple, that is, to see if you are a good person, in terms of personality, appearance and physiology.

Because the princess has never met the man who is about to get married, she doesn't know. What if they marry a scum man?

The maid-in-waiting is the experiencer. When the experience is over, come back and tell the princess if this man is ok.

As I said before, the fate of ladies-in-waiting is good and bad.

The good thing is to marry the princess and enjoy the splendor.

The bad situation is being driven away, usually because men are unqualified.

In today's fast-paced society, in order to be efficient, men and women will have a premarital check-up before marriage to see if it is suitable for marriage and whether it is risky. In ancient times, they also had premarital examinations. Today, we will look at the maids who give men a "premarital check-up". What are they trying? What is the fate of the final offer?

These ladies-in-waiting who are trying to get married are trying to get married in the palace instead of Gege. Gege is the daughter of the emperor who is distressed, so we can't be careless in marriage. In feudal England, Ai Fang had never even seen Xu and Gege before marriage, and Gege generally refused, so there were these maids who tried to marry. After Xu decides, the Empress Dowager and the Empress Dowager will choose a maid-in-waiting who is qualified in all indicators from the palace for a trial marriage. Before the formal marriage, the maid-in-waiting will be sent to the Xu family, and after staying at the Xu family for one night, they will return to the palace to report Xu's situation to the queen.

So what are the ladies-in-waiting trying? Speaking of this, some people can't help thinking, but the maid-in-waiting who is trying to get married should not only test whether Xu's physiological function is normal, but also her personality hobbies and family situation. I will do everything I can to ensure that Gege can live a smooth life when she marries the Xu family. So what is the fate of the maids after the trial marriage?

There are generally three situations. First, I was lucky enough to meet a reasonable princess and promised to marry her to the Xu family. The maid-in-waiting who tried to marry became a concubine, but she was still restricted and could never be a wife. The second is the unfortunate encounter with an unruly Gege, who refused to get married, even though she was tortured to death by Gege soon after marriage.

The third is that Xu is unqualified, so Gege will choose Xu again, and the maid-in-waiting who wants to marry will be miserable and can only marry Xu who wants to marry. If Xu doesn't accept it, she can only be driven out of the palace to die. Whether they live well or not depends on their own luck, and sometimes they live worse than prostitutes in China.

Trial marriage, as its name implies, is informal marriage, experimental marriage and trial marriage, which is not a new term. It is also very common in today's society. Two women get along for a period of time first, and get to know each other's living habits and personality deeply, so as to distinguish whether they will get married together in the future, and whether they have a common language and hobbies. In ancient times, especially in the court, trial marriage was also popular. However, the object of the trial marriage is not a noble princess or a noble child, but a maid-in-waiting with a humble position and life and death. So what happened to the maid-in-waiting who tried to marry?

First of all, the trial marriage is used to test Xu's life conduct, personality and physical health.

As we all know, the marriage of a royal princess is generally used as a political bargaining chip. The object of marriage is not as the children of frontier countries and relatives or the princes and ministers of the DPRK, but to make their throne more stable. Therefore, princesses are not the ones who want to marry, although they have high status. Sometimes, they help the princesses choose a husband who doesn't even know their appearance, personality and physical condition, so they get married in a daze and live in a mess.

During the Wanli period of the Ming Dynasty, Zhu Yao was named yongning princess, and he chose Xu for him, leaving the matter to the eunuch. Because of taking bribes, Feng Bao chose Liang Bangrui, a rich boy suffering from lung disease, as yongning princess. In ancient times, consumption was an incurable disease. This Feng Bao was a hard pit for yongning princess and married.

As a lesson from the past, in the Qing Dynasty, emperors learned their lesson and were more cautious when choosing husbands for princesses. So, they thought of a way to try marriage, canonize the princess's closest maid-in-waiting as a "try marriage princess", and first marry to her husband's family for a few days to understand his family's family situation, physical condition and personality. I will report to the official in a few days, and then finally decide whether Xu is qualified.

Second, the final outcome of a trial marriage lady usually ends in tragedy.

Not all the ladies-in-waiting think that they have won the title of "Trial Marriage Princess". Taking the lead as a dowry is the beginning of a good day. The fact is not as beautiful as imagined.

The first case: Xu is qualified, and the maid-in-waiting for the trial marriage is actually the same as the princess. She doesn't understand Xu's character at all, and sending her to a trial marriage is actually a kind of groping. You know, in ancient times, a woman went to a strange man's house and slept with that man. If Xu looks good, he will be in good health. If she really looks like Xu Liang in the above example. The maid-in-waiting who tried to marry has become a servant again, bossing around. The princess can only stay in her master's house when it is inconvenient, and her position and situation in the palace may not be good. In case she meets an explosive husband and hides her shortcomings in the previous trial marriage, at this time, she will show her true colors and scold the maids. The princess will also be angry with the maid-in-waiting who tried to marry because she didn't do her duty before. The husband can imagine the situation of the maids.

In the second case, Xu is unqualified, but after living in the same room, I feel inappropriate after learning about Xu's personality. When the maid-in-waiting returns to the royal family, the royal family will choose another princess. However, for a virgin maid-in-waiting, she may even be pregnant. So it is very likely that she will no longer be able to accompany the princess and will not be sealed as a trial marriage.

Under the imprisonment of ancient feudal ethics, ladies-in-waiting were humble and doomed to life and death. Fortunately, they followed the princess to a well-informed and polite family, which is also a blessing. Most of them are not as good as they think. After trying to get married, they returned to themselves, still the humble servant or the servant who did the rough work, which was embarrassing.