What should we pay attention to when getting married in rural areas of Heilongjiang Province?

1, Guo-the man's family will ask the fortune teller to calculate whether the two sides cooperate according to their ages.

2. Giving gifts-usually one month to two weeks before the wedding. The parents of both men and women negotiate all the conditions of marriage, and the man will send bride price (commonly known as bride price or tea gift) to the woman's home according to the agreed conditions. On that day, the man will invite two or four female relatives (who must be blessed, that is, both husband and children, and parents-in-law are present) to do it with the matchmaker, and bring the bride price. Usually, the number of gift cakes, gifts, gifts, etc. As a gift, it is even, which means in pairs.

3, choose a date-the man asked the fortune teller to choose a good day and find a good day to get married, so that the marriage will be smooth and the two will be smooth.

4, move the dowry-in the dowry, in addition to expensive jewelry and gold ornaments, there are many things that symbolize good luck. Use the spittoon as a bucket for children and grandchildren, and hope that your daughter will flourish and your children and grandchildren will be full. Take the red ruler as the future ruler, which means fertile land; Vases represent rich flowers; Copper plates and shoes mean to grow old together; Silver foreskin wrapped around the waist; Scissors refer to butterflies flying in pairs; A pair of dragon and phoenix quilts, sheets and pillows, wishing the couple love and lingering; A piece of candy is a metaphor for sweet happiness; Dragon and phoenix bowls and chopsticks, as food and clothing bowls, indicate ample food and clothing (there is a profitable market in the bowls, which can replace 72 sets of clothes as dowry).

5, bed-a few days before the wedding, a good woman will put a new bed in a good place for the couple, then spread a dragon and phoenix quilt and sprinkle red mung beans, lotus seeds, red dates, longan, walnuts and other happy fruits. Newcomers are not allowed to sleep in new beds after they put them in bed, and pregnant women, people with filial piety and women with moonlight clan are not allowed to enter. In addition, after going to bed, let the children jump out of bed and eat happy fruits, which was called "pressing the bed" in ancient times, meaning opening branches and spreading leaves.

6. Summit-The summit ceremony was held on the night before the wedding or on a suitable day, symbolizing that a couple officially entered adulthood, and they wanted to form a new family and shoulder the mission of spreading branches and leaves. Choose a good time, the man should take a bath half an hour earlier than the woman, and both men and women should take a shower first, and give the "all blessed" people (commonly known as lucky guy/lucky girl, parents and children are needed, and husband and wife are in harmony) a grapefruit dish (grapefruit leaves are said to clean up filth). Then put on brand-new underwear and pajamas, sit by a window that can see the moon, and be combed by a "lucky guy" or "lucky woman" The bride's hair will be combed into a bun to show that she has entered adulthood after marriage. When combing your hair, "lucky guy" or "lucky woman" should say rhyming auspicious sentences, such as "one"

7. Getting Started-After arriving at the man's house, the bride stepped into the man's house with the help of Daikin. A brazier (copper basin or iron basin) burning charcoal will be placed outside the gate in advance, and the bride needs to cross it. This is called "crossing the brazier", which means prosperity and evil spirits. Next, there is a ceremony to pay homage to the church, which is divided into three steps. The first step is to worship heaven and earth, the second step is to worship ancestors, and the third step is to worship Wengjiagu. After paying homage to heaven and earth and ancestral ancestral ancestral hall, a couple will bow to the parents of the groom, and the bride will offer fragrant tea to the old man and aunt, and then offer tea to the elders one by one according to their generation and age. Whether they kneel or not depends on the respect and preference of both sides. After bowing to their parents, the newlyweds will worship each other. Sister Dajin kept saying some auspicious words, and the ceremony was not completed until they rented each other to pay homage. In the fragrant tea used by newcomers to worship tea.

8. Go out-the bride needs the help of a bridesmaid or elder sister with a red umbrella, that is, spreading branches and leaves. Other sisters should also sprinkle rice, red mung beans and gold scraps while walking, commonly known as "feeding the golden rooster", which is said to prevent the golden rooster from pecking at the bride. Before boarding the float, the bride should bow to her relatives and friends to show her gratitude. It must be noted that the person accompanying the bride to the man's house, except Dajin's sister, must be an unmarried woman.

In order to save time, most newlyweds now choose to return home on the same day, that is, the newlyweds go back to the man's house immediately after offering tea to Weng Gu, or go directly to the restaurant. The newlyweds can return home the next day, but not more than the third day, that is to say, the man is dissatisfied with the bride and does not approve the bride to return to her family. Now most of the gifts returned to the house are replaced by Li, except for the suckling pig.