My wife is cheating on me, should I go to a third party (should I go to a mistress to settle accounts)

After discovering that her husband is cheating, do you want to talk to Xiaosan about the original match? Let me tell you: never go to mistress! The main reasons are as follows:

1. Seeing a mistress is the easiest way to intensify the contradiction between husband and wife. Because mistress will definitely tell your husband the first time, and your husband will be furious and hate you. The reason why you want to talk to her is that you want her to leave your husband, but do you think that when you meet her and scold her, she will have a conscience and make a clean break with your husband from now on?

That's impossible. This woman has completed the psychological construction before she gets involved in your marriage, so no matter what you say, she can't quit voluntarily.

On the contrary, she will say many things that hurt you deeply, telling you how they get along, what gifts your husband gave her, what sweet words he said to her, and how to complain about you. After meeting her, it will not solve your marriage problems, but will escalate the original contradictions.

You demeaned yourself by going to see her. Even if your husband has been pestering her for a long time, as long as you are not divorced, she can't have an equal status with you. Actually, she is not qualified to interview you.

In this case, you take the initiative to find her, which seems to be singling out the blame. In fact, it means that you only go to her when you have no choice. After all, I just want to please her. Isn't this demeaning?

3. Xiao San was originally afraid of the original match from the heart, because she had a guilty conscience and did some immoral things to destroy other people's families, so generally Xiao San would not easily find the original match. If the original match takes the initiative to find the mistress, no matter whether you insult the mistress calmly or not, it will make the mistress indifferent in the future, make the mistress less afraid of the original match, and make the man more sympathetic to the mistress and hate his wife.

So my advice is, when there is a mistress in marriage, don't waste your energy on self-torture, don't cry and hang yourself, and don't force your husband to be either one or the other, let alone find a mistress. The clever original partner pretended not to know anything on the surface, and privately found a professional mistress to convince the teacher company to help them get rid of the mistress. Therefore, I advise all problematic marriages. If you find your husband cheating, don't deal with it blindly, let alone find a mistress. That will only make you lose your marriage faster.