What do you think is more terrible when people reach middle age?

When people reach middle age, the most terrible thing is that they have fallen, or their wives have fallen. In that case, living has no meaning of life, and poverty is not terrible. As a man, I'm afraid I have no responsibility or responsibility. As a wife, I am afraid of not caring about my family and doing nothing. Couples would rather be in the same boat, and time will pass like an onion. The love of husband and wife who give up halfway, they are afraid that life will become rotten food.

When people reach middle age, they are in full swing. It should be vigorous, but it has the itch of "ten fears"

Looking back on my middle age, I can clearly see that I struggled with fear and caution, and there were many terrible things. To sum up, there are so many "ten fears", which made me feel a lot and cried:

It's hard to reach middle age!

First, I am afraid that I am weak and sick.

Health is the capital for everyone, especially middle-aged people. Imagine a middle-aged man who is motivated, witty and ambitious. Just as he was about to show his talents and make great achievements, he was troubled by illness. He can't support the elderly in the world, show his ambition in the middle, take care of his husband or wife, and shelter his children from the wind and rain in the future. Just like a half-disabled person, it is a burden to live badly and die. On the contrary, he needs the care of his relatives. How sad is it?

Second, I am afraid that I have no self-confidence.

Time flies, and before we can enjoy the romance of youth, years push people into middle age. Empty-handed into the middle-aged palace, the in the mind weak:

What should be understood has not yet begun to be understood;

I haven't learned what I should;

The ability to use is not a little;

I don't know what my heart is thinking, where is my strength, where is my way, my heart is not confident, my eyes are confused, and my feet are weak. Looking at the responsibility that middle-aged people should bear, I am confused and worried, and I don't know what to do.

The third is fear that the family environment is not excellent.

A fence has three piles, a hero has three gangs, and middle-aged people are no exception: the quality of family conditions directly affects the living conditions of middle-aged people. Parents have good economic conditions, and they have money, a house, a car and savings, which at least makes people struggle less for ten or twenty years; My parents have nothing, so I started everything from scratch. Struggle more than others for at least 20 years.

Fourth, I am afraid that men will go into the wrong line and women will marry the wrong person.

They are all fellow villagers, classmates, comrades-in-arms, friends, brothers, sisters and even twins, all on the same starting line, because of the differences in the industry: one is pots and pans, and the other is full of things;

One is rich in luxury goods, the other is poor in tea;

A bejeweled, a rustic;

One is pride, the other is sigh;

One is sloppy and the other is poor.

Sometimes a good mix is not necessarily a bad mix, beautiful, smart, capable and brave.

Women are afraid of being blind like bats. She married the wrong husband on impulse, and only in middle age did she find out that he was not good, did not love me and had no ability. But there is no regret medicine, so I can only regret it secretly, make do with it, live in depression and waste my time.

Women are even more afraid that when they get old in Xu Niang, their husbands will be left out in the cold and abandoned to find new love.

Fifth, I am afraid of meeting bad leaders and bad bosses.

Liu Bei doesn't care about Zhuge Liang, who can't be a wise strategist; Wei Zhi failed to meet Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, and failed to gain the reputation and loyalty of "speaking out".

When people reach middle age, it is time to do great things and make achievements. When they meet good leaders and bosses, they have an eye for pearls.

When you are a swift horse, you will be self-motivated, gallop thousands of miles and show your glory;

Treat you as a pearl, and you will try your best to shine;

Treat you as a hero, and you will show your skills and repay your ambitions;

When you are bosom friends, you will go through fire and water to repay your kindness, and you will work hard for your bosom friend;

Treat you like a donkey and always worry about killing you;

When you are a good bow, you are always worried that birds will burn when they are shot;

Treat you like a watchdog, or the rabbit dies, or upgrade the security door, always worried about being sent to the dog meat restaurant.

Sixth, fear of middle-aged unemployment.

When people reach middle age, they should respect the old and love the young, and be the backbone and hope of the whole family. If you suddenly encounter the pain of unemployment and lose your financial resources, you will feel that dark clouds are overwhelming the city and you are besieged on all sides and want to cry. The scene is chilling.

Seventh, I am afraid that my parents are not healthy.

The physical quality of parents directly affects the study, work, life and performance of middle-aged people. Parents' good health not only does not drag down middle-aged people, but also helps them in turn, making middle-aged people feel at home; Not only can you relieve your worries, but you can also be full of energy, travel light and realize your dreams. On the other hand, parents are sickly, need to take care of them, need to spend money, need both labor and money, feel sad, helpless and confess themselves.

Eight is afraid of middle-aged widowed.

Middle-aged couples hand in hand, amphibious, * * * build love nests, deep in the ocean. Suddenly lost one, the other was alone, without a partner, and became a lonely swallow, weak, lonely, disheartened, unwilling to eat, full of sadness.

Nine is afraid of making friends carelessly.

People in Jianghu will inevitably make friends and support each other, but there are no good guys and bad guys engraved on their faces. "If you don't understand the tiger's heart, it's hard to draw a tiger." Once a friend turns against him, gets shot in the back and is completely defeated, it is difficult to make a comeback. It is really a great sorrow for middle-aged people.

Ten is afraid that children will be unhappy.

When people reach middle age, it is the time for children to go to school, find a job and get married;

Who doesn't want a handsome son and a beautiful and dignified daughter?

Who doesn't want to raise a son to be a dragon and a daughter to be a phoenix?

Who doesn't want their children to have both ability and political integrity, get ahead and get what they want?

Who doesn't want to "the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves before, and each generation is stronger than the next?"

I am most afraid that my child is in poor health.

I am most afraid that children will not learn well.

Most afraid of children's bad conduct,

Most afraid of children's bad habits.

Most afraid of children's bad work.

Most afraid of children's bad marriage.

What I am most afraid of is the disaster of children, the loss of children in middle age, chills in knees, and the sadness of No Country for Old Men.

Endless inner feelings and anxieties make you anxious from middle age to old age until you close your eyes.

First enjoy a poem by Xin Qiji and Jun * * *: ugly slave, middle wall of Shuboshan Road;

Teenagers do not know the taste of sorrow, fall in love with the building, fall in love with the building, and talk about sorrow for Fu Ci.

Now I know the taste of sadness, and I want to talk about it, but I want to talk about it, but it is a cool autumn.

It is about the memories of youth, frivolous feelings and current mood when people reach middle age. ...

Write a poem about the ups and downs of middle age, and then share it with friends:

Years have passed, and the infatuation has not changed.

Time makes people grow old mercilessly, and looking back on the past is profound.

I am pregnant with Ling Yunzhi, and I want to show my arrogance and charming feelings.

Walking on thin ice, you will be afraid and look forward to the winged totem cloud.

It is better to be afraid of returning to fear, take the initiative to attack, and guard against it first than to suddenly attack unconsciously. It is wise for middle-aged people to realize this and plan ahead.

There is a middle-aged couple in our village who live by farming all the year round. There is a 28-year-old son and two old people at home, a total of five people.

At the age of 49, their family also happily held a big banquet, inviting relatives and friends to dinner at home to celebrate their 49th birthday. But not long after the birthday, my wife felt unwell. After going to the hospital for examination, the doctor told him that his wife had cancer.

The word cancer is really scary. He knows in his heart that it will cost a lot of money to treat his wife, as well as two sick parents and an unmarried son. He fainted on the spot at the thought of spending a lot of money to treat his wife. However, fainting can't solve the problem, because he can't be saved from destruction.

So he went back to the village to borrow money from relatives and collected 1 1 10,000 to operate on his wife. After that, although his wife could walk around, the doctor said that she could not do heavy work and needed to take good care of her health. If her health is taken good care of, she may live a few more years, so she lost a labor force in her family.

In order to meet the normal expenses of his family, he sent his son to work in Shenzhen. In the first year after his son left his hometown, his elderly father fell ill and was sent to the hospital for rescue for half a month, at a cost of more than 20,000 yuan. In the end, he died after being rescued. After his father died, his mother went to Lacrimosa every day.

Less than two months after my father died, my mother committed suicide with my father. Losing his parents in two months was a very painful thing for him as a dutiful son, so he was decadent for a while. During that time, he had no intention of working and drugged himself with alcohol every day.

But God didn't pity him because he was difficult, but because he was decadent. In September of the same year, his wife also died of cancer recurrence, and the pain was unbearable. The medicine could not stop the pain. He thought that he was alone at home, so he asked his son to come back from Guangdong to accompany him, and his father and son worked at home to earn money.

But his son said, "My mother is gone. Why should I go home?"? I have made a girlfriend in Shenzhen and plan to be a doorman here. " . His son's words came like a bolt from the blue, which seriously hurt him. Because his son doesn't come back to continue to burn incense, his family will face the situation of death.

He tried to discuss with his son and let him go back to the local area to get a wife. He shouldn't be a son-in-law for the sake of the family's follow-up incense. However, his son said, I will just send you living expenses every month. I will prepare for your retirement. I am not an unfilial son. As for the next generation, I will consider it later.

Faced with the death of his parents and his wife, he pinned the reason for continuing his life on his son, but even his son abandoned him, so he was disheartened and cranky, and eventually he was unconscious because of excessive use of his brain. Today, his mental state is sometimes good and sometimes bad. When he is in a good state, he just drinks and lives, and when he is in a bad state, he dares to do anything.

Now he relies on the relief of the whole village. When people in our village saw him, they called him into the house to have dinner together, or cooked food for him at the door. Because he used to be low-key and kind, he made a good impression on the villagers, so neither the villagers nor his relatives would dislike him. And his son has been married for two years now, and sends him 2000 yuan every month, but he doesn't come back to take care of him.

In fact, the author thinks that if we look at the problem from a realistic perspective, he should also put down his baggage, go into battle lightly and start a new life. Because life is inevitable for everyone, so we should face the reality bravely.

At the same time, you should learn to live for yourself, and don't pin your reasons for staying strong on anyone. Just like the middle-aged man mentioned in the article, he pinned the only reason to live on his son, but his son didn't want to come back, so he used his brain too much and was delirious.

Through his deeds and his own thinking and analysis, the author believes that there are eight terrible things when people reach middle age.

First, losing a spouse. In many middle-aged people's homes, they are still the backbone of the family, and all the expenses at home need to rely on them. Losing a spouse means that middle-aged people who lose their spouses at the same time will not be so easy to choose a spouse unless their economic conditions are good.

Second, there is no money to treat diseases. As the saying goes, you get what you pay for. Facing an ordinary family, there are old people and young people. In a year or two, disasters come frequently, and sometimes it is really unbearable. The most helpless thing is that your loved one is sick and could have been cured through treatment, but there is no money for treatment.

Third, children are unfilial. It is said that raising children to prevent old age, but the reality is always unsatisfactory. We don't know whether our children will be filial to themselves when they get old. When people reach middle age, they find that their children are unfilial, and it is too late to regret it, because most people have no fertility in middle age.

Fourth, children are happy. Children are everything to parents, and the happiness of children is also related to the happiness of parents. If the child's marriage is not smooth and his career is not smooth, parents will have a lot of concerns about his child, but he has entered middle age and his working days are numbered, so he can only do more than he can.

Fifth, the work failed. At home, the main source of income still depends on them. If they break the economic chain at this time, it will be a great blow to them. At the same time, when people reach middle age, if their work fails or their business fails, the possibility of making a comeback is small, because their energy is not as good as before.

Sixth, losing parents. People who love themselves the most are always parents. Losing parents will be the greatest loss of love. It is human nature that people reach middle age, and their parents are at least 60 years old. It is human nature that everyone is sick, but no one can be sad in the face of losing their parents.

Seventh, it is illegal. People who fear the law are the happiest. Everyone wants to spend their life safely, but sometimes they will make a big mistake if they are not careful, especially in middle age, when they have more social work and deal with people, everyone's ideas are different. When he encounters different opinions, he can't help but have physical conflicts.

Eighth, the reputation is ruined. Everyone wants to be a celebrity forever, but not everyone can be a celebrity forever. Therefore, although you can't be a celebrity forever, you should at least keep your reputation and keep your own festival, so that you don't want to be remembered forever, and you don't want to be talked about and isolated by people around you.

When we know that people will be afraid of these eight things in middle age, we should nip in the bud. While I am still young, I will keep a self-motivated and positive attitude, work hard and prepare for the middle-aged and elderly.

Summarize eight words: mentality, hard work, education and self-control!

When people reach middle age, they are not afraid of anything. Being sick is the most terrible thing. The ancients said that "heroes are afraid of illness and grinding", no matter how strong they are, they will fall. No matter how hard you work, you will lose your fighting spirit and spirit. No matter how much hope there is in life, you will always become empty.

A serious illness, the family is ruined, and the wife and children are separated. I urinate early, defecate late and nurse early. I'm busy all day. Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes. My wife was forced to divorce you.

The ancients often said that there is no dutiful son after a long illness. After a long time, even my own children have no spirit to serve you, to serve you.

Even your parents have given up on you, because raising children for old age. Even if you can't afford to get sick, and your parents are old, how can you afford to treat you? Only give up the most painful person in your mind. Lost and desperate!

When you get sick in middle age, you lose your life, your responsibility, your responsibility, your hope and everything in your life. Life is worse than death, which makes you desperate.

Therefore, when people reach middle age, they are most afraid of unhealthy and serious illness.

When people reach middle age, I think extramarital affairs are even more terrible. Whether it's a woman or a man, cheating in middle age, maybe something will happen one day, ranging from being beaten to being fined a lot of money, to killing you. Look at Pan Jinlian, a female model, and Ximen Qing, a male model.

When people reach middle age, I feel terrible about many things. No matter big or small, I feel that extramarital affairs are even more terrible. Because extramarital affairs violate the love of others' lover, occupy the body of others' lover and occupy the desire of others' lover, you take away others' love. Because of your appearance, others have been hurt emotionally, or because of your extramarital affairs, others have been separated. To put it bluntly, you are a mistress, that is, you are a third party, secretly dating, and being caught by others hurts you. Scold you, beat you, hate you. Everyone put you to death. An extramarital affair has destroyed two families. Extramarital affairs are a one-on-one family, and happy enjoyment corresponds to unbearable pain. You two feel good, but they feel bad. Middle-aged people are in poor health and lack of money is terrible, but I think extramarital affairs are even more terrible. People die of love, birds die of food, trapped by love, and extremely sad. People will be confused in middle age, and the terrible situation is shadow.

Middle-aged people are the midday sun, the hottest and most promising time. It is the most vigorous and vigorous time. It is the period with the strongest will and the most prosperous career. It is a stage from ignorance to maturity. It is an era from freedom to self-reliance, to hard work, to be diligent, to manage the family diligently, step by step, and to worry all the time. It is also a connecting link between the preceding and the following, and it is also a necessary time for life to shine.

Middle-aged people, about 33 to 57 years old, are neither young nor old, but young and old. The young depend on you to raise, the old depend on you to serve, the whole family depends on you for food, clothing, housing and transportation, and the people in the kitchen also depend on you for daily necessities and vinegar. Therefore, middle-aged people are the main force and the pillar of the whole family. You have to work, earn money, take responsibility and bear the burden. Children get married, old people get sick, and big and small things are only settled for you. You: This is the home. Oh, my God! And the sky can't collapse, and it will sink if it collapses!

Therefore, what middle-aged people are most afraid of is that their families are unfortunately suffering and accidentally lying down! This is the most terrible thing. People are not afraid of eating, wearing, being flashy, and being poor at home. People are afraid of disappointing, not suffering and doing nothing. As long as someone works, they are not afraid of anything, nothing. As long as you are not lazy, bad or evil, you can live a breath.

However, no matter how good people are, no matter how capable people are, especially middle-aged people, they are afraid of illness and disaster. If so, it is the collapse of the family. When the pillar falls, is that good? Who will raise the children? Who is filial to parents? Who takes care of his wife and children? Who will help solve the problem of food and clothing?

Therefore, middle-aged people, the pillars, must not fall. It is the most terrible disaster for a family that middle-aged people are killed or trapped by disease!

May everyone in the world be healthy and happy!

Thank you.

At the age of 48, his family happily held a grand banquet for them and invited relatives and friends to dinner at home to celebrate his 48th birthday. But shortly after his birthday, his wife felt sick. After going to the hospital for examination, the doctor told his wife that she had cancer.

So he went back to the countryside to find relatives to borrow money and collected 80 thousand to operate on his wife. After that, although the wife could walk on the ground, the doctor said that she could not do heavy work and needed to take good care of her body. If she does well, she may live a few more years. As a result, she lost the labor force in her family.

In order to pay for the normal expenses of his family, he sent his two sons to work in Guangzhou. In the first year when his son left his hometown, his elderly father fell ill and was sent to the hospital for rescue for a month. It cost more than 20 thousand yuan. Finally, the rescue was invalid and died. After my father died, my mother went to Lacrimosa every day.

Less than three months after his father died, his mother was too sad to accompany him. Losing their parents for three months is a very painful thing for both of them. Because he is a dutiful son, they were once very decadent. During that time, he didn't want to work, and he drugged himself with alcohol every day. It may be too sad.

But God did not pity him for his difficulties and depravity. At the end of the same year, his wife also died of cancer recurrence, unbearable pain and pain that drugs could not relieve. He thought he was alone at home, so he called his two sons back from Guangzhou to accompany him. Then the father and two sons both worked at home to earn money.

But his son said: My mother left. What am I going to do when I get home? I made a girlfriend in Guangzhou. I intend to be a son-in-law here. His son's words hurt his heart. Because his two sons don't come back, he will face despair.

He tried to discuss with his two sons and let him go back to the local area to find a girlfriend. He doesn't want his son to be the son-in-law for the sake of the subsequent fragrance at home. But his son said, I send you living expenses every month. I will take care of your old age. I am not an unfilial son. I will consider the next generation.

Now he relies on the relief of the whole village. When people in our village saw him, they told him to eat at home or cook for him at home. Because he used to be low-key and kind, he left a good impression on the villagers, so neither the villagers nor his relatives would dislike him. His two sons are married, both sons-in-law. Two sons send him 2500 yuan every month, and neither of them comes back to take care of him.

In fact, the author thinks that if we look at this problem from a realistic perspective, he should also put down his baggage, go into battle lightly and start a new life. Because life is alive, birth, old age, illness and death are inevitable for everyone, so we should face it bravely.

At the same time, learn to live for yourself. Don't impose our strong reasons on anyone. Just like the middle-aged man described in the article, he put his only reason to live on his son, but his son didn't want to come back, so he had mental problems.

I think when people reach middle age, the most terrible thing is to get sick, especially terminally ill, because when people reach middle age, they have a heavy burden, from old to young. Therefore, the task of educating children to honor their parents is very arduous!