What should the old man pay attention to after his death?

Question 1: What's the significance of paying attention to customs (among the villagers) after the death of the old man? Is the most painful thing in life. When the elderly lay dying, most of them were sentimental, affectionate, missing their children and caring for their loved ones. At this time, the children at home have to serve day and night, and they have to send messages to the children outside to urge them to come back quickly. After receiving such telegrams and letters, the children are eager to return. They run around day and night, longing for their hometown, crying and trying to meet their relatives. If they don't see each other for a while, not only will the elderly not be disappointed, but even their children will regret it for life and be accused of unfilial. Sometimes, coincidentally, the old man will be "dead set" as soon as the child enters the door. Therefore, the death of children guarding their parents is called "death". At this time, the old man told some things behind him in front of everyone, such as who should be the "shopkeeper", the inheritance of his career, the handling of property, the exchange of accounts and debts, and teaching future generations to be a man. , also known as "Tuojia". Children should answer the old man's last words one by one, so that the old man can rest assured that he will not change his mind even after death. If the descendants and relatives of the deceased watched him die, the people thought it was a rare "good death". The old man is dying, and his children and grandchildren are still busy with their work, which is bound to be criticized by everyone and scolded by relatives and neighbors. When people are seriously ill and hopeless, men should invite their uncles and relatives to visit them. It is a necessary etiquette for women to ask their parents for sick leave in the local area, so that they can know how people die when they are sick. Otherwise, they will suddenly be asked to supervise the funeral after death, and they will use this as an excuse to make things difficult. If you have other unpleasant things with your uncle's family, you are often invited. At this time, the only way is for the dutiful son to kneel outside the door and kowtow to reply, seeking sympathy and understanding. The funeral conditions proposed by my uncle's family and mine should be met as much as possible. Because the local custom is to quarrel with my uncle's house and mine, the funeral can't be handled smoothly. When the deceased dies, relatives will shave his head (male), comb his hair (female), wash his hands and have a facelift. You must wear a shroud (commonly known as "old clothes") before you die. First, it is not easy to wear after death; Second, it is said that people wear clothes after death, that is to say, when they arrive in the underworld, they are naked and have no clothes. Shrouds are mostly prepared early. According to the local custom, the shroud should be sewn in the leap month of leap year, which means "merit and moist" for future generations. Shroud sleeves should be long enough to cover the tips of hands, and short sleeves should not be exposed. Otherwise, the descendants of the younger generation will reach for food naked. From the number of shroud pieces, it means wearing single and double, which means avoiding double killing; Wear plain cloth on shroud cloth to avoid twill cloth, for fear that there will be an "evil" word, and the younger generation will engage in crooked ways; Especially avoid wearing leather clothes, because leather clothes are animal skins, and they are afraid of becoming animals in the afterlife; You can use silk instead of satin, because satin is homophonic and unlucky; Shroud can't use buttons, only cloth belts, because buttons are homophonic with "twist" for fear that future generations will be "rebellious". Shroud should see two ends of cotton, that is, winter and summer cotton-padded clothes and trousers, which means "taking cotton (sleeping) as security" The use of red lining in shroud means that the younger generation will live a rich life. If a child dies before his parents, a white cloth strip should be put on the shroud, indicating that he will subdue his parents in the underworld. Except for civil servants, the shroud of most elderly people still follows the style of robes and short robes in the Qing Dynasty and the Republic of China, which shows the stubbornness of feudal habits. As soon as a person dies, he must quickly put the prepared "mouth money" into the population. "Kouqian", also called "Kouqian", is a kind of copper coin or other metal coins. After putting the red line on the mouth of the deceased, tie the other section of the red line to the shroud belt to prevent it from slipping into the abdomen, and then pull it down when the red line is full. There are three kinds of folk sayings about stuffing money into the mouth of the deceased. One is to call money "treasure" and put it in the mouth of the deceased as "treasure in the mouth", which means auspiciousness; Second, people work hard all their lives, no matter how much they leave, "saving money" is the last thing they take away; Third, when a person dies, he becomes a "ghost", and the "ghost" has to be reborn and born again, and then become a person. With "saving money", he will not be poor in the afterlife. Some people want to take a bun in their hands after death, which means that there is food on the way to death, not hungry, and there is no shortage of food in the afterlife. Stop the bed when the patient changes into the shroud, he should move it from the bedroom to the main room of the main room. As the official place where the dying man finally dies, his relatives are waiting for him to leave peacefully. This is what people often say "die a natural death". The body was parked on a wooden bed set up by two long benches, covered with straw. The number of grasses is equal to the number of years of the deceased, commonly known as "invisible grass". Why should we spread "invisible grass"? In the past, people said that the "soul" would leave the body after death, but>

Question 2: What is the custom of caring for the elderly (among villagers) after their death?

Take care of a dying elder in the family

"Where are you going" is the most painful thing in life. When the elderly lay dying, most of them were sentimental, affectionate, missing their children and caring for their loved ones. At this time, the children at home have to serve day and night, and they have to send messages to the children outside to urge them to come back quickly. After receiving such telegrams and letters, the children are eager to return. They run around day and night, longing for their hometown, crying and trying to meet their relatives. If they don't see each other for a while, not only will the elderly not be disappointed, but even their children will regret it for life and be accused of unfilial. Sometimes, coincidentally, the old man will be "dead set" as soon as the child enters the door. Therefore, the death of children guarding their parents is called "death". At this time, the old man told some things behind him in front of everyone, such as who should be the "shopkeeper", the inheritance of his career, the handling of property, the exchange of accounts and debts, and teaching future generations to be a man. , also known as "Tuojia". Children should answer the old man's last words one by one, so that the old man can rest assured that he will not change his mind even after death. If the descendants and relatives of the deceased watched him die, the people thought it was a rare "good death". The old man is dying, and his children and grandchildren are still busy with their work, which is bound to be criticized by everyone and scolded by relatives and neighbors.

When people are seriously ill and hopeless, men should invite their uncles and relatives to visit them. It is a necessary etiquette for women to ask their parents for sick leave in the local area, so that they can know how people die when they are sick. Otherwise, they will suddenly be asked to supervise the funeral after death, and they will use this as an excuse to make things difficult. If you have other unpleasant things with your uncle's family, you are often invited. At this time, the only way is for the dutiful son to kneel outside the door and kowtow to reply, seeking sympathy and understanding. The funeral conditions proposed by my uncle's family and mine should be met as much as possible. Because the local custom is to quarrel with my uncle's house and mine, the funeral can't be handled smoothly.

Dressed

When the deceased dies, relatives will shave his head (male), comb his hair (female), wash his hands and have a facelift. You must wear a shroud (commonly known as "old clothes") before you die. First, it is not easy to wear after death; Second, it is said that people wear clothes after death, that is to say, when they arrive in the underworld, they are naked and have no clothes. Shrouds are mostly prepared early. According to the local custom, the shroud should be sewn in the leap month of leap year, which means "merit and moist" for future generations. Shroud sleeves should be long enough to cover the tips of hands, and short sleeves should not be exposed. Otherwise, the descendants of the younger generation will reach for food naked. From the number of shroud pieces, it means wearing single and double, which means avoiding double killing; Wear plain cloth on shroud cloth to avoid twill cloth, for fear that there will be an "evil" word, and the younger generation will engage in crooked ways; Especially avoid wearing leather clothes, because leather clothes are animal skins, and they are afraid of becoming animals in the afterlife; You can use silk instead of satin, because satin is homophonic and unlucky; Shroud can't use buttons, only cloth belts, because buttons are homophonic with "twist" for fear that future generations will be "rebellious". Shroud should see two ends of cotton, that is, winter and summer cotton-padded clothes and trousers, which means "taking cotton (sleeping) as security" The use of red lining in shroud means that the younger generation will live a rich life. If a child dies before his parents, a white cloth strip should be put on the shroud, indicating that he will subdue his parents in the underworld. Except for civil servants, the shroud of most elderly people still follows the style of robes and short robes in the Qing Dynasty and the Republic of China, which shows the stubbornness of feudal habits.

As soon as a person dies, he must quickly put the prepared "mouth money" into the population. "Kouqian", also called "Kouqian", is a kind of copper coin or other metal coins. After putting the red line on the mouth of the deceased, tie the other section of the red line to the shroud belt to prevent it from slipping into the abdomen, and then pull it down when the red line is full.

There are three kinds of folk sayings about stuffing money into the mouth of the deceased. One is to call money "treasure" and put it in the mouth of the deceased as "treasure in the mouth", which means auspiciousness; Second, people work hard all their lives, no matter how much they leave, "saving money" is the last thing they take away; Third, when a person dies, he becomes a "ghost", and the "ghost" has to be reborn and born again, and then become a person. With "saving money", he will not be poor in the afterlife. Some people want to take a bun in their hands after death, which means that there is food on the way to death, not hungry, and there is no shortage of food in the afterlife.

Stop sleeping

When the patient changes into the shroud, he should be moved from the bedroom to the main room of the main room. As the official place where the dying man finally leaves this world, his relatives are waiting for him to leave peacefully. This is what people often say "die a natural death".

The body was parked on a wooden bed set up by two long benches, covered with straw. The number of grasses is equal to the number of years of the deceased, commonly known as "invisible grass". Why should we spread "invisible grass"? In the past, people said that the "soul" would leave the body after death, but>

Question 3: What are the details about the death of the elderly in traditional families in China? The last breath before people leave is to spit out all the filth ... This kind of breath is very heavy. People who are in poor health should not be around, and it is best to stay away, because it is easy to get sick after inhaling this kind of breath ... Children say that they can go to hell, especially when they can't talk, it is best to avoid it, but don't send it to other people's homes ... It is best to prepare enough cotton balls and tweezers when the old man dies.

Question 4: What are the first seven after death?

On the seventh day after death, people's souls will go home to remember for the last time, and their families will prepare favorite food and objects for the deceased as their last greetings. China called this day the first seven. The first seven, China people's funeral custom, is based on the time of the deceased's death, plus the date and hour calculated by heavenly stems and earthly branches, but everyone used to think that "the first seven" refers to the seventh day after death. It is generally believed that the soul of the deceased will go home in the first seven days. Family members should prepare a meal for the dead before their souls come back, and then they must avoid it. The best way is to sleep. If you can't sleep, you should hide under the bed. If the soul of the deceased sees his family, it will make him miss and affect his reincarnation. It is also said that when you go home on the seventh day, your family should burn a ladder-like thing at home and let your soul follow this ladder to heaven.

How does the first seven pay homage to their loved ones?

The first seven are handled by the son, the last seven is the seventh, the third seven is the responsibility of the married daughter, the fourth seven is also the seventh, the fifth seven is the sacrifice of the married granddaughter, the sixth seven is also the seventh, and the seventh seven is also called the full seven or the round seven. The son handles it from beginning to end, and the merits are complete. Due to the busy industrial and commercial work, modern people sometimes shorten 7749 days to 24 days. For example, the way is "the first seven days" and "the last seven days", and every other day is "the seventh day", which is 24 days. During the mourning period, there is no sacrifice before the mourning, and there is no worship when the ancestors die. Except for those who take July 49 as the last seven days, those who are not alive on July 49 are called "the deceased", and there are usually only six days from July 27, so the last seven days are actually the 43rd day.

Procedures to be done after death.

Before the founding of the People's Republic of China, people attached great importance to funeral etiquette, which was cumbersome and extravagant, with strong feudal superstition. Customs go hand in hand, and whether the funeral is grand or not is regarded as a measure of filial piety for the next generation. The funeral custom is wooden coffin burial, and all the children and grandnephews are Dai Xiao. The mourning period for children is 3 years, and that for grandnephew is 1 year. /kloc-children are not allowed to shave their heads, cut their hair or make up within 0/year, which is called "disfigurement". Don't post Spring Festival couplets at home for three years. The main procedures of funeral ceremony include funeral ceremony, mourning, funeral service, funeral ceremony, ceremony, membership, sacrifice, burial, memorial service after burial, seven-day memorial service and so on. Funeral schedules range from five to seven days to half a month, which is very expensive. Generally speaking, when a person is over 50 years old, the younger generation begins to make shroud, coffin (called "longevity coffin" and "happiness coffin"), repair graves and prepare for funerals, which is considered filial piety.

First, Mix.

When the deceased died, the family quickly cleaned themselves and put on the shroud, commonly known as "small funeral". Shrouds are cotton or silk coats and undershirts. Satin and fur are forbidden. Black is a forbidden color. The number of clothes to wear is not double. The best is to have seven collars, some only wear three or two, and more collars need to be sewn. Nail strips of cloth on the shroud instead of buttons. After putting on the shroud, give the deceased 1 copper coins or 1 pearls, and then let the deceased hold coins in one hand and millet cakes in the other, which is called "beating dog cakes". Legend has it that the deceased used it against hungry ghosts and evil dogs in the underworld. Cover the deceased with a quilt and cover his face with yellow paper or white cloth. Then, move the coffin bed to the middle of the hall, and put a table in front of the coffin bed for a bowl full of uncooked millet dry rice, which is called "pouring rice". After the family burned incense, paper and mourned, the children knelt beside the coffin bed and were buried with them. At this time, it is "obeying the ceremony".

Second, the funeral home

After death, people were immediately sent to relatives, friends and neighbors to pay their respects. Most upper-class families in the city send invitations first, asking people from relatives and friends to help with the funeral. The prime minister in charge of the funeral is responsible for the funeral, as well as the cabinet, foreign cabinet, chef and guests. The Prime Minister sent people to send "long class notes" and obituaries to relatives and friends. The format of the obituary needs a proper title. All the names are male, the death of father is called "orphan", the death of mother is called "sad son", and both parents are called "orphan sad son". Family members of some officials and businessmen also issued "mourning" and "behavior" with the obituaries. Mourning is a notice named after the dutiful son, which records the life of the deceased in detail and praises his words and deeds; A statement is a biography written by a celebrity for the deceased, which is used to collect obituaries, tributes and inscriptions. A piece of white paper is pasted obliquely on the gate and door of the funeral home, which is called "closing the door". Then use a 2-foot straw to clamp some fire paper and insert it on the big door frame. The male funeral is inserted on the left and the female funeral is inserted on the right, saying that "sending a bill" means that there is a funeral at home.

Third, wear mourning clothes.

Commonly known as "Dai Xiao". The family members of the deceased wore white robes and sewed white cloth on their shoes to cover the uppers, which were called "mourning" and "wearing shoes" respectively, collectively called "breaking filial piety". The sons, wives and unmarried daughters of the deceased should be covered with linen towels and tied with hemp ropes. A dutiful son should wear a white cloth towel, a linen crown on the towel and two cotton balls beside the towel, such as ... >>.

Question 5: Is there anything particular about the death of the elderly at home? The old rule was: 1, death. Before the death of the elder, the younger generation stayed by his side until his death. This is called "death". 2. change clothes. When the deceased died, he took off his old clothes, put on a shroud, and tied his legs with white threads, the number of which was equal to the age of the death. 3. mourn. After death, people immediately send letters to relatives and friends, which is called "funeral service". 4. Burn the car backwards. After death, the whole family cried bitterly and parked the body on the coffin bed. In front of the coffin bed, there is an incense table and an offering. The filial daughter burned paper for seven and a half dollars, and burned a paper car outside the door, which is called "burning the car backwards." 5. Feed paper. The dutiful son carried a small dustpan with incense, wine and paper money to Wudao Temple to offer sacrifices to ghosts and gods. Other relatives cried after the dutiful son, which was called "paper feeding". . 6. After hanging paper (mourning) people died, villagers and neighbors bought some "burning paper" to mourn and comfort their families. . 7. Filial piety. Relatives and friends mourn before the spirit, and the dutiful son kowtows. It means that the old man died and the younger generation was guilty, kowtowing and apologizing to relatives and friends. 8. Approve the list. At the home of the deceased, there are papers hanging on the door, men left and women right. When my father died, the book on the book list was "Therefore, I first took the exam that year and died"; Mother's death is on the list, "so I die first, year month day, natural death". .

Question 6: What does Dai Xiao, the younger generation after the death of the old man, pay attention to according to tradition? There are generations of mourning, and it should not be wrong:

White cloth-the peer relatives of the deceased.

Flax-the daughter-in-law of the child;

Xuanbushun's nephew

Asabu-great-grandson

Yellow cloth-great-great-grandson

Red cloth-direct great-grandson (because great-grandson is a descendant of five generations, red means laughing and mourning)

Adults wear straw hoops made of mourning cloth, and children wear hat-shaped bags; Men wear straw sandals and women wear cloth shoes. Filial piety ball for men with left wrist filial piety ball, female bun; Moreover, men are divided into four colors: white, blue, cyan and yellow, which was called "filial piety" in ancient times. By now, everything has been simplified. Mainly depends on different local customs, generally divided into three days, seven days, one hundred days.

The size of the mourning dress is very different in every place:

The filial piety of sons and daughters-in-law is the same, the filial piety of daughters is the same, and so are the rest of relatives.

Filial piety of son and daughter-in-law: Dai Xiao wears a 6-foot white cloth Baotou, wraps it from the back, ties the button on his forehead, and the sides naturally droop; Put on 14 feet of white cloth and tie it with a rope. Tie a white cloth strip on your leg.

Daughter's filial piety: No, Dai Xiao, the white cloth is six feet long, tied directly to the head and tied to the right, wearing 14 feet white cloth and tied with a rope. Tie a white cloth strip on your leg.

Filial piety of other relatives: the head is hairy and the left side is tied with a six-foot buckle with a white cloth head. The body is the same, and there is no white cloth tied to the legs; Women don't wear white cloth directly, just like girls, but they don't wear white cloth on their trousers.

Question 7: What are the rules for the burial of the elderly?

According to the old rules, the burial time should also be paid attention to, and the coffin must be buried at sunset. When the Eight Immortals put down the soil, they slowly put it down by pulling the brown rope. When it is safe, relatives must grab the dirt and throw it on the coffin. This is called adding soil. After the coffin goes down, you should cover it with a thin layer of soil, then sprinkle the soil swept out of the grave on it, and then put a bowl called a rice bowl. This is to move the tomb lighter in the future, so as not to disturb the dead and bring misfortune.

Before burial, the dead son will store the grains made of miscellaneous grains in the grave. There is a small pancake on the top of the storage. Put a ceramic pot in front of the grave, and put a soybean oil lamp on the pot, which is called the ever-burning lamp. In some places, a bronze mirror is embedded in the grave to symbolize the sun. In ancient times, rich people had to stay away from graves, shoot three arrows, and then retreat immediately. I dare not go near the coffin, because I am afraid that if I can't suppress the evil spirits, I will suffer. When the coffin is put into the grave, it must be shot, saying that it is for the dead to go to the underworld.

After burial, people must wash their hands, and some even wash their hands with wine. This means that no one will die in the future, which is used to drive away bad luck. Then you have to thank the trumpeter and the guests who held your funeral. After that, a ceremony will be held to worship the spirits of the deceased. In some places, as long as they are relatives, they have to eat together. This is called robbing the inheritance. The custom of drinking longevity soup and eating longevity beans in Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces. That is to say, after the death of people over 70 years old, a large barrel of meat and bone soup, that is, longevity soup, and a large pot of cooked soybeans in Huang Cancan, that is, longevity beans, should be prepared on the mourning day. Send the mourners back to drink a small bowl of longevity soup and eat some longevity beans at will, which means adding happiness and prolonging life. In some places, long-lived fragrant glutinous beans are distributed to children in the neighborhood. It is said that eating longevity beans will lead to longevity in the future.

After the initial funeral, funeral, seven-week ceremony, funeral ceremony and other ceremonies, the last link is burial, which is very complicated. The person who carries the coffin is called the Eight Immortals, and the cave where the coffin is dug is called the mountain opening. Before the mountain opening, there is a mountain opening ceremony, and the dutiful son should burn incense and light candles. In some places, fairies should be invited and Tai Sui should be painted. When you start a mountain, you must avoid the direction of Tai Sui, otherwise it will be a disaster for Tai Sui to break ground and ruin his family. When cutting a mountain, put a stake in front of and behind the grave, and then let the dutiful son dig with a hoe three times within the range of putting the stake. Then the Eight Immortals made a cave, and then burned the traditional portrait when it was finished. This kind of tomb is to push the coffin in. At the bottom of the tomb, two bamboo trees or small unlined upper garment trees with smooth skin are laid. Put the top of the coffin on it first, then push it in with a crowbar, then remove the bottom after pushing it in, and finally shovel some turf to seal the hole.

There are many interesting customs after the coffin stops on the mountain. In some places, the filial daughter-in-law should bow before the spirit, then hold the loess in her arms and run home to scatter it under the pigsty and bed. It is said that this will be blessed by the dead. If there are many daughters-in-law, we must strive for the first good luck, and some even take off their shoes and take a shortcut to go home by boat. After paving the loess, the daughter-in-law has to rush to the kitchen to eat a few dishes. This is called "Jinbao", which means good luck. Expected adoption

Question 8: What are the taboos of family members after death? If a person dies, his (her) son or daughter can't go to someone else's house before his (her) funeral. Superstition says that it will bring enzyme luck to other people's homes, and people will burn their used quilts and pillows after death.

Question 9: What's so important about the death of the elderly at home? The ancients believed that a person should go home to visit within three days after his death, so his children waited in the mourning hall until his soul returned. Every night, relatives and friends accompanied him until the body was buried in the coffin. Up to now, the wake is a gathering of relatives to mourn the dead and express their feelings of remembrance. Living people are afraid that their souls will get lost on their way home, so they will light a lamp and put it next to the dead body (and then explain that ancient people will put the bodies of dead relatives in the living room at home, not the morgue of funeral homes; There is also the problem that ancient people lit oil lamps instead of electric lights. The living are afraid that the lights will go out and the dead relatives will not find their homes, so they sit in the room where the bodies are parked all night to ensure that the street lights are always on.

Question 10: What's so important about the death of an old man? Generally speaking, there is nothing to pay attention to.

Old people should be filial when they are alive. After death, the younger generation has no regrets, no regrets.

The etiquette of the past is rooted in the current trend of the times.