I like diamond cut diamond, but love is willing.

Recently, a fan left a message backstage telling me that a boy who likes her very much has been pursuing her, and she likes others very much, but she thinks they can't be together in the future and told me many reasons.

For example, the boy's hometown is in the south and her home is in the north. Her parents will definitely disapprove of her marrying so far away in the future, and even it is so difficult to go home. For example, she thinks that there are many girls with good conditions around that boy. She is afraid that he will like someone else in the future, and it will be very sad if he breaks up.

I replied to her at that time: "You refused to start because you were afraid of ending, but have you ever thought that if you don't start, you will give up the last chance to be close to happiness."

After talking to her, it reminded me of the Seven Bullies I had seen before. One of the debates is, if you have time to take you to ten years later, and you find that the people around you are not the people you want to be with now, will you still be with ta?

I was deeply impressed by Yan Rujing's answer at that time. She told a fact, which is also a truth, that is, in fact, the outcome of many things has long been doomed, and we will all leave this world one day in the future.

But we will never give up eating, sleeping and falling in love because we want to leave this world, because human beings should be able to forget what has not happened yet and do what we should do now.

What this debate tells us is that since it gives me the ability to predict the future, it also gives me the opportunity to rewrite the ending. I don't know, forget it. If you know, you must intervene.

Yan Rujing gave us a very apt metaphor. When you go to fortune-telling and find that a certain moment in the future is not good, do you accept the so-called fate coldly, or do you not accept it and try?

I don't think most people will accept their fate They don't want to be helpless and wait for the death penalty. In fact, their feelings are the same.

You have countless ideas about the future. Maybe you will be separated, maybe you will change your minds with each other, maybe there will be a third party, maybe there is an insurmountable barrier between you, which pops up from time to time to remind you that it is there. You seem to see your future ending at a glance. What should you do at this time?

Do you know that there are countless difficulties and problems in the future, so just cut off this relationship as soon as possible, so you won't get hurt if you don't pay, you won't end if you don't start, or do you understand that the future is infinite?

The probability of a good or bad result is 50/50,

We can work hard, we can work together,

You will be a long story to be continued.

There is no time machine that can see the future at a glance.

And no one dares to stand up and say that his life has been sealed and there is no turning point.

I have heard many stories about the uncertainty of the future. Persistence may not lead to any results, giving up may lead to regret, and liking may lead to disappointment. Those uncertain factors are all calculated and measured in our hearts, but I'm not sure whether "I love you" is more important or "love" is more important.

I think "love" is more important.

Because of love, I know more about the meaning of my existence.

Because of love, I found that I had a lot of happiness.

Because of love, I did what I thought I wouldn't do, and I dared to do.

Because of love, I feel my life is more complete.

I know, in fact, many people in life are facing a problem, that is, what to do in the face of an uncertain future relationship.

I want to say, just seize this moment and love it. You will find that there won't be too many people in this life. The later they love, the rarer they are. Love well. Some people miss it in the struggle and can't get it back. Love well. Don't be afraid of being hurt and disappointed.

There is a question on Zhihu: "What if two people like each other but can't be together in the end?" My favorite answer is: "If she has to go through the security check in five minutes, if the security check is ten meters away, that means you can kiss for four minutes and fifty seconds."

Many things in life are like a bet.

Give everything you have to change the answer you want.

Love is the same, I know I may lose, I know I may get hurt, but because it's you, I'll try to gamble, because it's you, and I'm willing to give up.