Looking at Love from The Condor Heroes (Ⅱ) —— Guo Fu's Love of Enemies

Anyone who knows Guo Fu should know that Jin Yong's Guo Fu is unruly and overbearing, but without Guo Fu, Yang Guo could not have become a world-famous warrior.

You might think that Guo Fu, as a supporting actress in The Condor Heroes, stood on the opposite side of Yang Guo along the way. How can there be love? Yang Guo should have no feelings for Guo Fu. Actually, it's not. If you carefully taste Mr. Jin Yong's works, the relationship between them is "extremely terrible".

In fact, Guo Fu, as the eldest lady of Huang Rong and Guo Jing family in Peach Blossom Island, is far ahead of Yang Guo in appearance, conduct and knowledge, while Guo Fu's first impression of Yang Guo is still very good, and a little admiration has sprouted, but Yang Guo is arrogant everywhere. Yang Guo was lonely and helpless since childhood, and he was a person who attached great importance to feelings and righteousness. In the face of Guo Shimei's arrogance, there will naturally be a lot of rejection. But in fact, they all have feelings for each other, but they are young and ignorant. Because of the differences in growth environment, their temperament is different. One is a good girl, and her will can never be violated; The other is a person with low self-esteem and high self-esteem. These two personalities are doomed to consume each other and quarrel with each other.

If we say feelings, Guo Fu's feelings for Yang Guo need not be elaborated. On the surface, Yang Guo seems to hate Guo Fu, but in fact, if you think about it, it's all because of your self-esteem. At the first Central Plains Wulin Conference, Yang Guo was disturbed by the quarrel outside when he met the little dragon girl again. Yang Guo stood out from the crowd and showed his talents because King Jinlun and others disturbed his aunt. However, you think about it, with Yang Guo's character, he wouldn't stand up without his aunt? This is Yang Guo, who is willing to show himself when he has experienced the fighting between Hong Qigong and Ouyang Feng and made great progress in martial arts. It's not that Yang Guo is frivolous and high-profile, but that he needs to be recognized and respected too much, especially Guo Fu, who bossed him around since he was a child. Besides, when reading The Condor Heroes, many people didn't notice a small detail in this plot: Yang Guo's inner feelings when he saw Guo Fu were much more exciting than Guo Fu's when he saw Guo Fu recognize Yang Guo. This shows that subconsciously, Yang Guo is very concerned about Guo Fu and has been obsessed with Guo Fu. Later, Guo Fu changed his stereotype of Yang Guo because of the magical power of the Wulin Congress. Although there is a great martial arts pursuer around him, by contrast, this handsome Yang Guo is still a master, so he secretly promised. But unexpectedly, when Mr. and Mrs. Guo Jing wanted to betrothed their daughter to Yang Guo, Yang Guo refused without hesitation. On the one hand, Yang Guo refused because he and his aunt two of a kind. On the other hand, Yang Guo's pride has been revealed: Guo Fu looks down on me, and now my martial arts and my master are better than you. Because of this, the contradiction between them also began from this time. In this way, it was postponed, and Yang Guo was separated by Guo Fu's brokeback and Little Dragon Girl's poisoning 16 years, and Yang Guo did not avenge Guo Fu. Even in the end, Yang Guo sent three birthday presents to Guo Xiang, with little intention of getting back at Guo Fu. Guo Fu's attitude towards Yang Guo didn't change qualitatively until the 29th "disaster-ridden" was rescued from the fire by Yang Guo: everything was blinded by his self-esteem accumulated since childhood, and so was Yang Guo? What a clever move.

Examples of this kind of love but mutual harm abound in real life. Because two people have different personalities, they use harsh words to try to reform each other and even miss their lives. So what is the psychological function of this kind of love?

1. contrast: suddenly look back and find your own beauty.

Aronson, an American psychologist, once did an experiment: the experiment was divided into four groups, and each group gave a different evaluation to a certain person to observe which group was most beneficial to the evaluated person. The first group always praises, the second group always belittles, the third group praises first, and the fourth group praises first. After dozens of people's experiments, it is found that most people have the highest degree of affection for the fourth group and the highest degree of affection for the third group. This phenomenon is called the aronson effect, which means that people like people who like, reward and praise themselves more and more, and they dislike those who seem to be decreasing. In other words, if you have always hated someone, it may be because your subconscious has known each other in an inherent mode. When one day or after a while, you suddenly find that he is not what you think, this prejudice will be greatly reduced and even turned into a good impression.

2. Criticism is also a problem.

Psychologist Helok once did an experiment. He divided the subjects into four groups and used four different incentives to complete the task. The first group is the praise group, which gives praise and encouragement after each work; The second group is the training group, which is severely reprimanded after each work; The third group is neglected, only listening to the praise and criticism of the other two groups, without evaluation; The fourth group is the control group, so they are isolated from the first three groups without any evaluation. Results The work performance of the first three groups was better than that of the control group, and the praised group and reprimanded group were obviously better than the neglected group. Obviously, criticism is also a concern. In the "enemy" interaction mode, although most of them are criticism or tit-for-tat, it is equivalent to giving more attention. No matter whether this concern is positive or negative, it can always reflect some traces and energy of the other person's psychology.

Did these conversations today subvert your values about the condor heroes? There are as many kinds of feelings as there are in the world. Think about the person you hate around you. Have you ever been touched in your heart?